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45 • Lebanon, TN • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 32–47
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Jul 26, 2013
- 5′ 11″ (1.80m)
- Body type
- Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
The problem with that is, I only know one way to describe myself...honestly.
Perhaps total honesty isn't what people want even though they say it is? Would it be better to let the not so desirable things be found later? I dunno. Still don't have a hang of this online 'dating' thing, though to this point it has been more online emailing than dating.
I could spend paragraphs talking about myself, my interests, trying to make myself into an advertisement as if I were trying sell myself to you. But that would be self serving and not really grab your attention.
I could tell you the truth and say that I am romantic at times and just plain horny at others. But you'd likely focus on the latter and dismiss me as 'just another man'. I could tell you I like long walks on the beach and, while true, it doesn't much matter since I live a lot closer to the mountains.
Do my tastes in music really matter at this point? I mean, would you go out or not go out on a date with me because I like Elvis, 80's rock, and don't care for rap?
Does it really matter that I like beer and wine but am not a huge fan of liquor and don't do drugs of any sort? OK that one might matter.
If you are a non smoker, why insist on dating someone who doesn't smoke? (I do, but would really like to quit with the right support system) You could miss out on the 'perfect' person for you simply because they have a habit you don't care for? Really?
I've yet to see the profile from a woman that says she is moody at times, doesn't like sports at all, and wants to be catered to, etc. So maybe the honesty approach isn't best. Either that or only perfect women sign up for dating sites. For some reason they don't let me filter those things out. Nor would I want to. We all have 'flaws' that someone who truly loves us willingly overlooks or actively helps us change if we so desire.
I see a lot of 'I like the outdoors'. I do too. Except when it's 9 degrees or 105 degrees outside. Can we just sit on the couch in climate control and get freaky at times? ;-)Does it matter that I've never been on a 4-wheeler? If you have one, I'll be happy to give it a shot, but I'm not buying one just to find out. Will you happily go to a Nashville Sounds game with me and sit in the 2nd row behind home plate? How about if we go up to the restaurant and watch the game from a climate controlled skybox while eating? OK, we have one day a year covered...
I get a chuckle every time I read "I know what I want and I won't settle for less". That's an awfully cynical way to view dating, I would think. Does there exist among you ladies a perfect 10 who loves sports, can't wait to get home to cook and clean, lives to wait on her man hand and foot, and is ready for whatever sexual escapade he is interested in anywhere at any time? If not, then I'm afraid all of us men are stuck "settling" for something less than ideal. ;) I'm sorry. The whole "I won't settle" thing to me seems a bit shallow. Relationships are give and take. They involve constant compromise, not demands that your mate meet a certain criteria at all times. When you set the bar impossibly high, I think you are setting yourself up to be disappointed no matter how great your mate is.
Ok, my attempts at humor probably aren't resonating well. I've stuck foot in mouth more than a couple of times and many have likely stopped reading. I'm just asking does it really matter if we 'like' the same things before ever talking or going out? It might possibly be that you could expand my horizons and I'd end up liking many of the same things you do, I just haven't experienced them yet. And the other way around.
Closed minds lead to closed relationships. How about we just get to know each other...I promise I'll tell you all about my Elton John collection later. ;)
What I don't do is live by a routine. Being self employed does have the benefit that I can work when I want to most of the time. You might find me working at 4am one day and at 4pm the next. That's great from a flexibility standpoint, (I eat when I'm hungry, sleep when I'm tired, not based on what the clock says and I go out when I want to, not based on what day of the week it is, etc) but not so great for a partner who needs to live by a daily routine.
On the other hand, I can work my schedule around most anything and working online means I can work anywhere that I can get a secure internet connection.
Movies I enjoy comedy's mostly. A good crime-drama is always an option. I'll watch pretty much anything. Cuddling on the couch watching a movie with a glass of wine or a beer is one of my favorite things to do. Just haven't done it in years.
Pizza is the perfect food. Steak and shrimp is a favorite meal. Home cooked ham or turkey meals are always a treat. I can and do enjoy cooking. Cleaning, not so much. ;-)
Music mostly classic rock and roll, Blues, and pop. Anything from Elvis to Billy Joel. Journey to AC/DC. Don't like rap and can't stand hip hop. Not much of a classical or country music fan, either, though some Country is ok.
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