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Last online
Nov 5
5' 1" (1.55m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Post grad
Might want kids
Has cats
My self-summary
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I'm a Californian transplant who's been in NY for 16 years. I came here to go to grad school in Theater. Directing, that is.
I'm passionate, by turns scattered, untidy, organized and on top of it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In some ways my life now is similar to that it was in San Francisco; I have a day job and I do my art as I can. But my art is better than it was then, and sometimes I get paid. A play I directed has gone on to a touring life without me and that is exciting.
In recent years I've been taking singing lessons and singing with a small group. We have a couple of gigs a year and are looking to do more. I got back on the stage as an actor a couple of years ago and loved it - still feels recent. More recently I've been creating sets for shows, usually big curtains painted or decorated. I'll be doing another this spring (2013).
I spend a lot of time doing theatrically related things with a collectively operated theater space. Yes, an anarchist collective that owns property. In Manhattan. Crazy, I know. We have no paid staff and everything is done by dedicated members trading their time for use of the space. It is a glorious slog. I have great faith in collective endeavors even though they can be "messy" and "inefficient". The collective theater space is the main reason I've not been much involved in the Occupy movement which I have fondness for. I now have as a day job at a collectively owned business, I do much of my artwork at a collective theater and I live in a self-managed coop. Enough meetings, already.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening for the essence of an idea.
Organizing shelves or cupboards
Spaghetti sauce - I make a yummy spaghetti sauce
Dancing - freeform, that is, I'm not so good at dancing when one has to learn the steps. I've tried before and I'll try again.
Not breaking the yolk. I invented a new way of scrambling eggs. I call it "Whole yolk scrambled with stuff"
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't understand how I can fill in this box. How can I say what other people notice? I'll make some assumptions:
Grey hairs on a youthful face
Flair for style
Big laugh
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This is a tough one as my tastes are eclectic, plus I avoid advertisements which means I avoid a lot of popular culture. Usually I have a stack of books I'm reading which is usually pretty heavy on the detective fiction. Authors I like; Paul Auster, Raymond Chandler, Samuel Beckett, early Jeannette Winterson, Laurie R. King. Just discovered Megan Abbot!

My stack at the moment has no detective fiction, but I think it will by the end of the day. Maybe I'll try some more Megan Abbot, whom I see from this essay I once liked (and now can't remember). I've got going Rats by Robert Sullivan, My War by Colby Buzzell, and The Time Is Ripe: The 1940 Journal of Clifford Odets. The war one is research for a play. For the same project I've just read Just Another Soldier by Jason Hadley, and The Deserter's Tale by Joshua Key and Lawrence Hill.

The only thing on my stack of books today is the new biography of Thomas Jefferson. for my book group. I have a stack of mysteries from the library, but I didn't like any of them enough to finish them and I keep forgetting to bring them back and get new ones.

I've been watching a lot of tv on the netflix; Life, (brilliant and sadly unfinished.) The Glades, (not as brilliant but not bad) Bones. Rewatching the Sherlock series with Benedict Cumberbatch. Those are delicious.

My all time favorite tv shows are The Wire, and The Tick (cartoon, not live action).

I like lots of films - who doesn't love going to the movies? I'm more attracted to plot than romances, and I don't like horror movies. I think I like documentaries but I almost never rent them or put them on my net flix list. Maybe I'll start. When I had a tv I watched the PBS ones sometimes, but I haven't in some time.

Music Music Music! I grew up on folk, soul and Casey Casem on KFRC. Led Zepplin and Talking Heads . . . Turned off the radio in 1984, got R.E.M mixed up with REO Speedwagon, so didn't get on the bandwagon about how great R.E.M is until the 90's. Now I listen mostly to WFMU so am almost always hearing things I've never heard before, and never will again. I'm also learning more and more about early choral music, standards and opera because of the singing I'm doing. I like most music except I don't generally like rap (some is fantastic though) and I never like those metal songs in which the singer is using that scary gravelly voice.
Singers/songwriters/bands I like; The Pixies, Leonard Cohen, Keeley Smith, Billie Holiday, Elvis Costello, Joan Mitchell, Husker Du, Rolling Stones, Paris Combo . . .
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is another one I don't understand how to answer. And so I run on a bit in answering it. I hope that doesn't put you off.
So; Things I Really Don't Want To Do Without . . .
Dark Chocolate
Nice notebook, good pen
Comfortable bed
Theater Making

That's seven. I could let the chocolate go.

Unless we are talking about Things as opposed to people or feelings, so Theater Making, Music and Friends wouldn't really count. Which leaves
Plants (though I think plants have feelings so maybe those don't count either)
Nice notebook, good pen (that's one thing as each is not so useful with out the other)
Comfortable bed
And dark chocolate.

So that's four things.

The Small Pillow. I have a flat small feather pillow that I really like. On cold nights I cover my head with it. It fell behind the bed for a while and I didn't have it and I was quite bummed out about it.

Sewing Machine.

My glasses. Those I really need.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Food. Though sometimes I forget to think about this and end up eating toast for dinner because I forgot to shop, or I'm too hungry to think.

Plays I want to do, who to ask for help doing them, where to get or how to make the stuff, why I want to do them, dreaming about how they would be staged.

Sex, I do think about sex.*

Things I think I should do. Daily organizing - dishes, laundry, cat box, and I should get to the library and so I should figure out if the library is open today, and fun things I should do like go to the museum - I've got a membership to MOMA for christsake I could go anytime I want and I should see more plays and I should write that essay about Samuel Beckett's Happy Days, so that I can maybe move that project forward, (actually I've given up thinking about that, and I'm alternating thinking about a Thic Naht Han play or one by Mae West) and now that I've bought an apartment when am I going to get the cupboards in the kitchen and fix the sink and shower in the bathroom and how am I going to afford the renovations and meanwhile the sink has filled up with dishes.

How things would be better environmentally if more people had tie in solar or wind power generating systems on their homes.

*What is it about this sentence? Do you read it and your dick hits you in the face and you loose your mind? This sentence means I am a normal person. It does not mean I am a nymphomaniac just waiting for you to call me. It does not mean that you can fondle me on a date. It is not what I want to talk about if we talk on the phone. It does not mean that I appreciate being lewdly propositioned in emails. It is me being honest and normal. Please be the same.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I work at my day job starting at 6am on Friday and Saturday, so Friday nights, typically, I stay in, read, and go to bed early. I'm hoping to change that schedule so I can do more fun things on a typical Friday night.
But this question really means "What do you like to do when you go out?", so to answer that question; eating a good meal and seeing a show is always good. A couple of drinks with friends is good too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I fear that, in this profile, I come off as a big fliberty-gibbet, if you know what I mean. The both feet on the ground, eyes wide open part gets a little short shrift.

This might be a good place to tell about my conflicting feelings about answering and not answering messages on this site. It hurts me a little when people I think would like me don't answer when I email them - even though I've received messages from people and have not answered. I decided that I would answer everyone, and I try. If I've sent you a message, even if you are not interested, could you please answer and tell me so?
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