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41 F Somerville, MA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 3:37pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
As Carl Jung said at the end of his life, "I am astonished, disappointed, pleased with myself. I am distressed, depressed, rapturous. I am all these things at once and cannot add up the sum."

It feels weird to start anything with 'I'm.' And yet, I'm...

curious, compassionate, people-loving, life-seizing, and often quite ridiculous. I talk to people on the subway and the street and anywhere else, although I'm decidedly an introvert. An ambitious slacker. An easy laugh and an easy cry. I'm confident, but fundamentally very humble. I try to be straightforward and honest, with myself and other people, even when it's embarrassing or scary and makes me vulnerable. I tend toward edges. People say I have a calming influence, but I experience myself as intense. I won a Haiku contest at a party once, have no sense of direction. Methodical, fiercely logical, and practical, yet find myself leaning toward the radical. I've played violin most of my life, adore string quartets. I love to sing people to sleep and I sing a mean Joni Mitchell.

Born in Argentina and moved around a lot growing up--Miami, England, New Jersey--As an adult I've mostly lived in New England, with an 8-year stint in Austin, TX. I reserve the right to say y'all.
What I’m doing with my life
My life and I are just friends for now, but I think there are future possibilities. I work mostly at home doing data analysis, writing, collaborating, conspiring, saving the environment, and loathing the whole "billable hours" game.
Also...talking and listening and discovering, trying, persisting, resisting, letting go, experiencing, walking, dancing, experimenting, approaching, waiting, collaborating, accepting, analyzing, exalting, despairing, comparing, observing, meditating, participating, creating and dissolving distinctions, striving toward obscure ideals, embracing and resolving complexity, celebrating and fearing ambiguity.
I’m really good at
misinterpreting things in a really absurd way. Being aware of my own motives. Naming that tune. Apparently, encouraging people to tell me their life stories and greatest fears without feeling judged. Failing (I don't mean I fail a lot; I mean that when I fail I think I do it right). Connecting. Learning and playing instruments. Dancing. Puns. Pretty good at skiing.
The first things people usually notice about me
When people find out my age, they're usually shocked or think I'm lying.
Also, people tend to perceive me as pretty chill.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything by A.J. Jacobs
"Labyrinths" (Borges)
"Alice in Wonderland" (Carroll)
Various Jon Kabbat-Zinn, et al.
"We" (Zamyatin)
"Wings of Desire" (Wenders)
"Summer of Love" (Pawlikowski)
"Crying Game" (Jordan)
"Man on Wire" (Marsh)
Monty Python
Coen Brothers

Music: Too overwhelming to do this one justice, with 14,000 songs on my hard drive. I will, however, say that Kate Bush has helped form the fabric of my being (whatever that means). Orff's Carmina Burana. Ravel's string quartet in F. Beach Boys. Bowie. Lee "Scratch" Perry. 90's hip hop. Erykah Badu. Jane Siberry. Prince. Lately, Of Montreal, Phoenix, Momus, Ghost of a Sabertooth Tiger.

Food: Breakfast, as in whatever I eat in the morning. Especially when eaten with friends. Most ethnic foods. Pimped-out oatmeal. Bourbon (is that a food?). I can usually find something on any menu that strikes my fancy.
The six things I could never do without
Absurdity; love; beauty; my dog; meditation; change (as in what happens over time, not like nickels and quarters and so forth); movement every day; dorky humor. That's eight. If you're a stickler for rules, remove your two least favorite from the list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
aligning how things are to how I'd like them to be by nudging each toward the other. Also, what to do next.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was fired from Pizza Hut.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 34–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you're a communicative and compassionate person, you've actually read my profile, and you don't send me a form-email. I have no expectations for encounters on here as to whether said encounters manifest into a coffeebuddyship, some kind of Manifesto-writing collaboration, a life-long love affair, a two-person club that meets in a treehouse, or nothing at all. It's all good if it's at all interesting.