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41 Somerville, MA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 36–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:10am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"I am astonished, disappointed, pleased with myself. I am distressed, depressed, rapturous. I am all these things at once and cannot add up the sum."
Carl Jung, at the end of his life.

What, too abstract?

Fine. Try this:

I am...
curious, compassionate, people-loving, life-seizing, and often quite ridiculous. I talk to people on the subway and the street and anywhere else, although I'm decidedly an introvert. An ambitious slacker. An easy laugh and an easy cry. I'm confident, but fundamentally very humble. I try to be straightforward and honest, with myself and other people, even when it's embarrassing or scary and makes me vulnerable. I tend toward edges. People say I have a calming influence, but I experience myself as intense. I won a Haiku contest at a party once, have no sense of direction. Methodical, fiercely logical, and practical, yet find myself leaning toward the radical. I've played violin most of my life, adore string quartets. I love to sing people to sleep--I sing a mean Joni Mitchell and you could be the lucky one.

Born in Argentina and moved around a lot growing up--Miami, England, New Jersey--As an adult I've mostly lived in New England, with an 8-year stint in Austin, TX. I reserve the right to say y'all.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My life and I are just friends for now, but I think there are future possibilities.
What am I doing with my life? I'm listening, expressing, discovering, trying, persisting, resisting, letting go, experiencing, walking, dancing, experimenting, approaching, waiting, collaborating, accepting, analyzing, exalting, despairing, comparing, observing, meditating, participating, creating and dissolving distinctions, striving toward obscure ideals, embracing and resolving complexity, celebrating and fearing ambiguity.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
misinterpreting things in a really absurd way. Being aware of my own motives. Naming that tune. Apparently, encouraging people to tell me their life stories and greatest fears without feeling judged. Failing (I don't mean I fail a lot; I mean that when I fail I think I do it right). Connecting. Learning and playing instruments. Dancing. Puns. Skiing. Getting up from sitting on the floor without using my hands.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Either that I'm smirking or that I'm in my own world, depending on my mood. Or that I look and seem way, way younger than I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A.J. Jacobs
"Labyrinths" (Borges)
"Alice in Wonderland" (Carroll)
Various Jon Kabbat-Zinn, et al.
"Running the Books" (Avi Steinberg)
"We" (Zamyatin)
"Hands on a hardbody"
"Wings of Desire" (Wenders)
"Summer of Love" (Pawlikowski)
"Crying Game" (Jordan)
"Man on Wire" (Marsh)
Monty Python
Coen Brothers

Music: Too overwhelming to do this one justice, with 14,000 songs on my hard drive. I will, however, say that Kate Bush has helped form the fabric of my being (whatever that means). Orff's Carmina Burana. Ravel's string quartet in F. Beach Boys. Bowie. King Crimson. Lee "Scratch" Perry. 90's hip hop. Erykah Badu. Jane Siberry. John Prine. Tears for Fears. Of Montreal, Phoenix, Momus, Ghost of a Sabertooth Tiger.

Food: Breakfast. Especially when eaten with friends. Most ethnic foods. Pimped-out oatmeal. Peanut butter. Bourbon (is that a food?). Seafood.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Change (as in what happens over time, not like nickels and quarters and so forth)
Joy and jubilee
That perfect combination of irony and authenticity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
aligning how things are to how I'd like them to be by nudging each toward the other. Also, what to do next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was fired from Pizza Hut.
You should message me if
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you're a communicative and compassionate person, you've actually read my profile, and you don't send me a form-email. I have no expectations for encounters on here as to whether said encounters manifest into a coffeebuddyship, some kind of Manifesto-writing collaboration, a life-long love affair, a two-person club that meets in a treehouse, or nothing at all. It's all good if it's at all interesting.