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51 F Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:03pm
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Midwestern transplant well rooted in New York. I can bait a hook and unhook the fish. I catch and release, so I don't know how to clean one. In the right area I can find porcini mushrooms in the woods and make a risotto with them. In other areas, I can find them in the store. I live in a neighborhood where you can hear the call to prayer and the sirens for Shabbos, as you walk by Haitian Pentecostal store front churches, to drink great cocktails and remind yourself to get Mexican conchas and cuernos tomorrow for breakfast. Who would want to live in any other place?
I've had many occupations, sometimes two at the same time, from actress, pastry chef, nurse and waitress. Now I'm the head nurse in a family medicine residency program. I get to work with and train doctors who are dedicated to providing the best possible care to a population that is often overlooked and has challenging health issues.

I get weepy watching videos of solders coming home to their dogs and laugh at solders coming home to their cats.

I find smart men to be very, very sexy; I am a very happy brain and ethical slut. I agree with the John Waters quote: If you go to someone's house and they don't have books; don't fuck them.

My children are happy, self supporting adults. I'm lucky they live in the city, so we get to hang out. I get along with just about everyone in my family.

I love taking photos of street art, graffiti and cool stuff I see on my travels.
What I’m doing with my life
With apologies to Lionel Bart:
I am reviewing my situation:
Can a good girl be a good girl all her life?
All those smiles and acquiescing;
I better hurry up and cause a bit of strife.

Well, maybe not a lot of strife but it rhymes.
I've been untethered from some big relationships/responsibilities/obligations. My husband and my dog died last year; if I had a pickup truck I'm sure it would have broken down. I am now examining how those events have changed my life; many options are open to me. It is really exciting and just a little scary. Picture a dirigible with several dangling cables. The idea of becoming someone's one and only is not what I'm desiring. I would be a good secondary, tertiary or quadrantary (not sure if this is a word- if you know the proper one please let me know) partner.
I’m really good at
bouncing back.
The first things people usually notice about me
Not really sure. It might depend on what role I'm playing. For the most part, I try to put people at ease and make them feel welcome. So maybe a nice smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:Nonfiction:Infections and Inequalities, The Great Influenza: An excellent explanation of America from 1870-1919, viruses and the history of medicine. I can depend on the following to keep me reading and thinking: most of John Irving, all of Garcia Marquez, Orwell, Douglas Adams, Dahl's books for children, Graham Greene, Elizabeth Gundy, Robert Hellenga, Helen De Witt (though she has only two published novels) and Life and Fate by Grossman.

Shows: Frank Snowden's lectures: Pandemics of the Western Hemisphere. They're on Youtube. Trust me, the dude is great. The Wire, House of Cards (Brit and USA: and oh my gosh the Yank version does have more sexy bits. For a woman who likes a bit of woman on man on man, it's quite refreshing), Fringe, Homeland, Orange is the New Black.
Radio: Most anything on NPR: Wait, Wait don't tell me, TAL, Radio Lab (lots of stuff from WNYC), and quiz shows on the BBC.

Music: Johnny and Rosanne Cash, Regina Spektor, King Pleasure, Little Jimmy Scott, Shubert, murder ballads, Monk, Dizzy, Desmond, Fateh ali Khan, cool stuff I hear on Spinning on Air whose artists I can't remember.
My son has a hardcore band called To The End My Dear. I love his music because I'm his mom but I'm not a big hardcore fan.

Theater: New plays, old plays, new twists and circus. I wasn't too into Tony and Cleo at the Public, if you disagree tell me what I missed. Olivier's Lear is something I could watch again and again. I will always try to see productions of: Three Sisters, Uncle Vanya, Richard III, Henry V, Cymbeline,The Skin of Our Teeth, Fool for Love, Lie of the Mind, Cowboy Mouth (okay anything by Mr. Sheppard) Robber Bridegroom, Sweeny Todd.

Movies: Peter Greenaway or Spike Lee, The Royal Tanenbaums, Magnolia, Melancholia, Shadowlands, His Girl Friday, Philadelphia Story, Bringing up Baby, Closetland.

Food: Yet to meet a cuisine in which I couldn't find something I liked. Fresh tastes, spicy, citrus, earthy tones like beets are all appealing. That said, I'm not a great fan of Glatt Kosher or the Thai food you find in New York.
The six things I could never do without
eye glasses
spell check(forever) and The Publication Manual of the American Psychological Association 6thEd. (for the next year or so)
caffeine in all of its forms
my job- I really love it and it pays the bills
the ability to communicate
swear words-if they didn't exist I'd have to invent them
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Polio and how the poor get shafted again and again.
Is April really the cruelest month?
How wonderful the pads on the paws of my cats feel.
That some agnostics "are pretty serious about it".
What do you expect, one is what one is, partly at least.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Not really private but truly sinful, bad and I would go to hell if I ate one:I would really like to try ortolan.
I am not monogamous.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 39–70
  • Located anywhere
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are happy with your life but would like some company for the road. Life's scars have given you good stories and character. Your baggage, hey, it's inevitable, is either not so burdensome or you are happy to throw it overboard.