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25 / F / Bisexual / Single
- Last Online
- Mar 6
- 5′ 7″ (1.70m)
- Body Type
- When drinking
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Relationship Type
- Has cats
- English (Fluently)
Whenever I find a new word in a book or anywhere, I write it on my hand so I can go look it up. I once told a friend that because I had such a big vocabulary, I got excited when finding a new word and intentionally went out of my way to learn what it meant. He suggested I had that the wrong way around - the reason I have a good vocabulary is BECAUSE I go out of my way to incorporate additional terms into my personal lexicon. It's a chicken and egg argument, I suppose, and totally irrelevant.
Physically, the first thing people notice is probably my hair. It's somewhere between "wavy" and "curly" and the amount of frizz fluctuates wildly, so I think it's probably my salient feature (or dignotion!), even if I'd rather I had something else to say.
Good Omens - Neil Gaiman & Terry Pratchett
John Dies at the End - David Wong
Sandman (graphic novel) - Neil Gaiman & Dave McKean
Anansi Boys - Neil Gaiman
The Graveyard Book - Neil Gaiman
Coraline - Neil Gaiman
...practically everything Neil Gaiman ever wrote
the Discworld Series - Terry Pratchett
...definitely everything Terry Pratchett ever wrote
Ender's Game through Children of the Mind - Orson Scott Card
...practically evertything OSC ever wrote
Sandman Slim series - Richard Kadrey
The Name of the Wind - Patrick Rothfuss
Wicked - Gregory Maguire
His Dark Materials - Phillip Pullman
Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy - Douglas Adams
...in the past, I was very in to Mercedes Lackey, R.A. Salvatore, David Eddings, and Diane Duane, but not so much anymore...
Favorite Games - Lord of the Rings Online, Skyrim, (old) Baldur's Gate series, BioShock series (I suck but it's such a cool game), Dragon Age I & II, Bastion, American McGee's Alice, etc.
Favorite Movies/TV Shows -
Please Be Aware: I Do NOT Own A Television. I haven't sat and watched TV in about 7 years - it's all garbage. There are a few diamonds in the rough that I've found, and I watch them on DVD (or if I'm desperate for new episodes, I'll watch them with a friend who does own a TV). So, a few of the movies and shows that I actually have enjoyed:
Lord of the Rings/The Hobbit, Monty Python's Flying Circus, The Venture Bros., BBC Sherlock, Carnivale, Dr. Who, Kiss Kiss Bang Bang, Arrested Development, Primer, Pinky and the Brain, The Office (British version), Supernatural (sometimes), Jeeves & Wooster, MirrorMask, The Princess Bride, Tropic Thunder, Shaun of the Dead, Hot Fuzz, Down Periscope, Reefer Madness (the 2000 musical version), etc.
Favorite Music Artists - Nine Inch Nails, How to Destroy Angels, Ratatat, The Glitch Mob, Florence + the Machine, VAST, Electric Six, Blue Man Group, lots of individual songs, several soundtracks (such as Anastasia, Reefer Madness, Wicked, Riverdance), etc.
2. my glasses (to read books with, obviously)
4. indoor plumbing
5. the Internet
For six years (you read that right - August 2006 through December 2012), I dated a wonderfully sweet guy, and everyone assumed we were going to get married eventually. However, he broke up with me just before Christmas, and I'm back on this site a few months later because I've forgotten how to find dates in the last half-dozen years.
Our breakup was extremely amicable, to the surprise of many. The truth is that we had been drifting apart for the last couple of years, but we stayed together because we were such compatible friends/roommates. Eventually, the sex decreased to practically nothing, and we really were just roommates who shared a bed. It worked great (in my opinion) for a while - I got the IMPORTANT parts of a relationship - the cuddling and the discussions and having someone to cook dinner for and watch movies with - and I didn't particularly miss the lack of sex. When he finally broke up with me, he suggested that maybe I shouldn't restrict myself to guys, since I clearly don't enjoy having sex with them. This by itself didn't really make me reconsider the issue, but when I spoke to my best friend about the breakup, she mentioned the same thing. So... if your 6-yr boyfriend and your best friend in the whole world both think you're looking at the wrong gender, then maybe you're looking at the wrong gender.
So, after thinking about things for a little over two months, I have decided to start trying to meet new people and start dating again, and I've decided to try and see if things work better with women. I sincerely don't know. I grew up in a very sexually repressed household, so it's conceivable to me that I just assumed I should like boys and therefore never let myself 'check out' girls. But the sex thing that my now-ex mentioned is really the kicker here - I hate sex. I hate having anything inside my vagina, including tampons. TMI: the last time I used a tampon, I literally fainted and woke up with my nose squished on the floor of the bathtub and the wall. The sensation of being penetrated makes me feel nauseous / dizzy / generally awful. With my previous boyfriends, I would usually (practically always) fake an orgasm just to get them to stop touching me. With my most recent ex, I was at least able to be honest enough to just ask him to stop, but I only achieved orgasm maybe 10-15% of the time. Keep in mind, I only have about a 40-50% success rate when masturbating. I guess I'm just not a very sexual person??? Seriously, the most important part(s) of a relationship for me are the non-sexual parts: the hugs and helping each other through rough times and phone calls when one of you is on a trip and so on and so forth.
So ladies, if you want to convince me that lesbianism is the right way to go, feel free to message me! I'm not 'playing around' with being bisexual - I've been seriously thinking about sexuality issues for the months since my breakup, and I can certainly say I'm at least as attracted to women as I am to men (which isn't saying a lot, but still...) and willing to give such a relationship a serious try. If you're a guy and you want to convince me that the previous men in my life just didn't know what they were doing, I'm still open to that option as well.
- Ages 22–34
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
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