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26 Santa Cruz, CA Cis Man, Gender Nonconforming

Cis Man, Gender Nonconforming

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  • Ages 22–33
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating

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Heteroflexible, Pansexual, Queer, Sapiosexual
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Working on Ph.D program
Less than $20,000
Seeing Someone
Mostly monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Stopgap update: c-geminni and I are currently in the process of evaluating what "mostly monogamous" means to us. Be the warned that my WTFromantic/pan/poly attitudes will be tempered by that overarching and more important relationship.

I'm a Slytherin but all my best friends are Hufflepuffs.

I think I give people the impression that I think I am more grown up than I actually am, because one of the childish things I like to do is spew manufactured wisdom, nod sagely, and write in complete sentences. I assure you, this is all merely because I do not know how to socialize like a normal person, not because of delusions of grandeur.

I like making jokes about things that are important, like existential risk, education policy, and scientific progress. I like being very serious about things that aren't so important, like Pokemon, chocolate, and the circus arts. I have a lot of energy, but I don't always have access to all of it. I want to be able to geek out over things that I love and find new trivial things to do, but I also want to help make progress on important problems.

I like staying positive, although I sometimes have trouble with it on my own.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am studying mathematics, arithmetic geometry and number theory, at UCSC, pursuing my PhD. It is my firm belief that future generations should be able to learn this material by playing computer games, and it is my desire to assure this outcome.

In July I will be moving to San Jose and working in educational tech. I will probably stay in the post-startup phase startup sector until I've paid my literal debts and bought a tesla, then I hope to move in to less lucrative but more awesome things like indie game design, rationality training, computational moral philosophy, or supervillainy,

My friends say I'm not evil enough to be a supervillain, but I'll show them. I'LL SHOW THEM ALL!!! MWAHAHAHAAHAHA!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Mathematics, especially congruence and symmetry arguments.
Following complex chains of reasoning.
Citing academic papers in everyday conversation.
Acknowledging when I am wrong.
Maniacal laughter.
Giving zero fucks.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My nerdy T-shirts. After that, the fact that I'm still talking to them. After that, the fact that I'm still talking.

If they last that long, most people say that I'm intelligent, REALLY nerdy, have a lot of energy, and can't handle my alcohol.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I grew up alongside Harry Potter; I was 14 and whiny when he was 14 and whiny, and it was great. Nowadays I enjoy fanfiction more, mostly due to Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality.
I enjoy the occasional campy film and I like self-referential works a lot, but I've come recently to enjoy things on their own merits. I like stories with dynamic characters, and I find them frustratingly rare.
Babylon 5, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and Worm come to mind as examples where the dynamic characters are what I enjoy.
I have for years striven to be the closest thing I can to The Doctor, but since I'm lawful good if I actually became the Doctor it would cause some serious paradoxes.

I also enjoy futurism, politics, humor, and stylization; Scott Pilgrim Vs The World, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, the Red Mars Trilogy, Adventure Time, and Wall-E have these in abundance.

I prefer music that has some intellectual depth to it; They Might Be Giants, Bad Religion, Harvey Danger, and Barenaked Ladies come to mind.
But I also revel in mindless pop punk like Blink 182 and Green Day, as well as things in the middle like The Vandals and Presidents of the USA.
I enjoy lots of other kinds of music too but those are what I seek out on my own.

I like bagels and pasta and rice and other flavorless things that you put cheese on.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The internet. Being able to communicate with people far away and find things I'm looking for... it's amazing.

The march of technological and economic progress. The world is becoming a better place over time, which is amazing!

An unending supply of questions, especially in mathematics, philosophy, and psychology. Like: how many integer solutions are there to a generic plane cubic? What is the nature of knowledge? Why do I always want to eat ONE MORE COOKIE? What type of coffee can I order to impress that barrista?

The scientific method, and the ability of science to provide actual answers to those questions. Like: Between one and twelve. Confident beliefs emerging from robustly reliable reasoning processes. Because in the ancestral environment you would often have to go weeks without eating a cookie and you really needed to stock up. I'm not sure but my caramel macchiato didn't impress her at all.

Anah's large and comfortable bed, which is much better than the one that I bought prudently against my dad's advice.

Talking. I love words. I have lots of them to share, and I want everyone to give me even more!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to mildly inconvenience my arch nemesis.

What sort of experiences would cause me to rethink my most basic assumptions.

Whether problems come from decisions people make or the infrastructure surrounding them.

Definitions of things most people take as ontologically basic.

How to solve poorly phrased philosophy questions by adding zombies. For example, I recently rewrote the Transplant version of the Trolley dilemma (

Imagine you are a surgeon whose medical license was revoked for not following procedure so you could save a life. Suddenly the zombie apocalypse happens, and imaging technology reveals seven humans alive on the continent. You meet up with five others, but they all drink diseased water, giving them severe liver damage. The final survivor, who had been holed up on accident, meets up with you and is a type O- organ donor who declines to go under for surgery due to the apocalypse. Do you harvest his liver, putting him in danger, for a good chance of saving your fellows? The circumstances are extraordinary and so won't apply strong self image effects or create worse traumatic memories. You don't know any of the people. You have as much confidence in your ability to save five people as the chance of the donor dying, and you are not associated to a medical organization whose reputation matters (either through licensing or through other survivors' chances of meeting up with you personally.)

In these circumstances I would think it right to harvest the man's organs.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
D&D night having officially been relegated to Tuesday and Wednesday nights, my Friday nights are now wide open for such activities as Monster Hunter, fretting about my thesis, and catching up on my science fiction reading list.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Senior year of high school I got my two front teeth knocked out while LARPing. I ran into someone over 5 years later who still remembered me ONLY because of that.

I sometimes get overly absorbed in what people say rather than what they mean. As an example: an ex once told me she felt like an apple slice on the cheese tasting platter of my life, and I was so taken by the metaphor I couldn't keep pace with the conversation. The metaphor has lasted in my mind years after I forgot what else she was talking about.

I like playing guitar and singing with people but I don't do either much because I don't want to be a giant douchebag.
You should message me if
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If you are interested in: drinking microbrews, talking philosophy over coffee, going dancing, staging an elaborate duel, starting a band.

Honestly if you've gotten this far I'd love it if you messaged me even just to say what you thought, even if you're not interested in dating, or being friends, or even chatting. I'd love to know why!