A lot of women may read this - but I am talking to you, and only you now.
First of all, we are going to have to come up with a better story of how we met.
Like... you and I were parachuting and we accidentally collided in mid-air. Or You got kicked out of the Tardis onto my front lawn. Or you nursed me back to health after I rescued a cat from a burning building... you know something like that. "We met online" is a little lame.
And I sure am glad to meet you. I've been through a lot of learning experiences and I am really ready to have found the one who I can grow a lasting relationship and family with. I'm glad that you, like me, are at a place in your life where we don't need more kids but can love deeply and raise those we have. I'm glad you, like me, take care of yourself - exercising and eating right to keep your body healthy so we can enjoy all the wonderful adventures and possibilities life has to offer us. I can't wait to explore Europe with you one day. Spend time splashing in crystal blue waters. Hiking through the trails and by the river here in Virginia. Out dancing now and then. Living a physical lifestyle.
I'm glad you, like me, enjoy the closeness of dear friends we can laugh with. And that we both might be the kind who recharge cuddled up in each other's arms at night - but also like to get out and be social.
It's great that we both have our own varied interests - but also appreciate each other's. So we always have something to bring to the relationship. Things to talk about. Do. Explore.
We are both so lucky to have found another kindred soul that has nothing to prove. We both know that we are enough. We can excel for the pleasure of it and because it grows our wealth of possibilities in life - but not because we have to prove our own competence. We can celebrate in gratitude the love of our families and friends but don't worry about fitting in or being left out. We appreciate our freedom but don't have to run from anything. We keep each other safe - but don't let comfort keep us from adventure.
We are both mature enough that we can trust each other to always be acting for our mutual best interests. So we can discuss anything deeply without offense or the need to be "right." To come to understandings rather than wallow in the pig stye of self-righteousness. We both can balance compassion and responsibility; seriousness and humor; acceptance and manifesting.
I am so glad that we both hold optimism and passion for living as core values and work hard to live those values every day.
We both enjoy the feeling of creating - whether it's a joke, a date, playing a game or enjoying a music or crafty kind of project. Being participants in life.
We trust each other deeply. You have the emotional power in the relationship and I would do and will do anything to make you happy. But you have so much trust and faith in me that you have gifted me with leadership of our family. I won't let you down.
Neither of us is perfect. But we can both forgive. We can both grow - and we do - because both of us hold personal growth and relationship growth as a value.
Oh, and the sex is un-fucking-believable.
I have missed you without even knowing you. I love you.