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mahler58172

37 M Ann Arbor, MI

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 24–41
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jun 17
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I am warm and empathic, intelligent and self-aware, broad-minded and passionate about many things. Boredom is totally foreign to my experience; on the contrary, I frequently get so wound-up with excitement about an idea, a project, or a piece of music that it takes considerable effort to calm my nerves enough to sleep. Hence, my daily meditation practice. ;D

Those in my inner circle know me to be also delightfully playful (this guy's inner-child is alive and well!) and quirkily creative (I once constructed a life-size PEZ dispenser out of plumbing parts), dependable for anything, deep-feeling, and passionately committed to personal evolution and living in integrity with my ever-evolving worldview. I'm often told I'd make a great therapist, teacher, parent.

I'm a classically-trained percussionist, amateur composer/arranger, great lover of classical music & opera, intuitive bodyworker, wannabe dancer (I'm actually pretty good), closet orchestra-conductor, and continually have my hands in some eccentric creative project. Currently: I'm planning a cluster-ballooning experiment. Up, up, and AWAY -- and back down again (I hope).

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KINDA IMPORTANT MISSING SECTION (!): Why I'm on OKCupid
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I've been out of the dating circuit for a while, and while the relative solitude served me well, I am sooooooooooooo ready to date again. Above all, I would love to let loose on the weekends and have fun with another free-spirited lover-type. Good conversation, good food, crazy dancing & other mischievous adventures; exploring mind, soul and body together with passion, creativity, and wonder -- and without presumed expectations around commitment. Don't get me wrong: I long more than anything else for a committed intimate relationship, and I believe I'm ready for one; I just feel there are other beautiful forms intimate connection can take, and I'm open to any of them right now. Especially ones that emphasize FUN, CREATIVITY, and TOUCH.
What I’m doing with my life
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I serve as a massage therapist and am editor of the local social justice newspaper. I spend much of my free time playing with creative projects, connecting with friends, volunteering, gardening, roaming in nature (hiking, biking, kayaking, bouldering), discovering new music, dancing (latest foray: contact improv), soul-connecting, and waking up from the dream.

I'm thrilled to be drumming again after a many-year hiatus!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
seeing beauty, open and transparent communication, making others feel seen and appreciated, reveling in the sensuousness of experience, drumming, dancing, massaging, writing, teaching, research, being goofy, being sexy, seeing the big picture, making children squeal with glee, making cool things out of random household objects, losing track of time, sleeping in.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My warm smile and sparkling blue eyes, my sincerity and generosity of spirit, my mercurial and unconventional mind, and a certain embodied elegance that I must have gotten from hanging around cats or listening to so much Bach.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Magus, The Little Prince, One Hundred Years of Solitude, Life of Pi, Siddhartha, The Road, A Brief History of Everything, Autobiography of a Yogi, anything by Alan Watts or Ken Wilber.

[ Reading: John Updike, A Month of Sundays -- so scrumptiously erotic... ]

Films: Tree of Life, 8 1/2, Oldboy, Inception, Black Swan,The Fountain, Hugo, Melancholia, Enter the Void, Lord of the Rings, Gosford Park, Crouching Tiger / Hidden Dragon, City of God, City of Lost Children, American Beauty, A Christmas Story, Princess Bride, The Big Lebowski, Kill Bill; anything by the Coen brothers, Kubrick, Scorsese, Inarritu, Ang Lee.

[ Just saw: M.A.S.H. (the Robert Altman original) ]

Music: Classically trained, I can and never will (indeed, have no desire to) escape the orbit of the Great Composers. Bach is my bread and butter. Mahler is the closest thing to my heart in the world. Other old stand-by's: Chopin, Debussy, Brahms, Messiaen, Schubert, Stravinsky... (I really could go on forever.) Been getting into jazz, and always appreciate the local folk artists and anything that can inspire my body to get down.

[ Just listened to: Schubert's Arpeggione Sonata (all week) ]

Food: I'm a lifelong vegetarian-turned-selective omnivore with a much-moderated but intense snack-tooth. I'm very accepting of others' eating choices. If I could get away with it, I would subsist entirely on Indian food (esp. naan).

[ Just ate: way too much chocolate ]
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Intimacy (of many varieties, but the physical variety is very important to me)
2. Wildness (both inner and outer manifestations thereof)
3. Music (making and listening to)
4. Children (in all their undiluted magnificence)
5. Elders (when you see everyone as your elder, you know you're onto something...)
6. Popcorn (seriously)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
not thinking so much (!), my life path, our planet's future, beauty in all its forms, sexuality, living mindfully, creative manifestation, how to let go, how to revision the human project, the nature and purpose of evolution (i.e., the meaning of life).

[ Presently thinking about: black holes as eternal information repositories of the cosmos... and sex ]
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
making music, dancing, catching up with friends, gazing at the stars, watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I evolve a unique and elaborate communication style with every pet, involving nonsense words and impromptu songs incorporating their various nicknames. Very few people get to see this side of me!
You should message me if
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you value authenticity and are not afraid to "show up".

you are endlessly awed and fascinated by existence.

you are looking for a creative partner for dancing, playing music, outdoor activities, exploring the local performing arts scene.

you are a lover.