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  • Ages 24–35
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  • Who are single
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Last online
May 20
6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body type
Strictly monogamous
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I woke up in the dead of night the morning of 9-12-13 feeling as though I had to write the words in the paragraph below. My hope is they serve to encourage even one of you who reads them...

The Traces of Yesterday

No matter how deep the wounds once were that left behind the scars that remain, they serve now but only as a shadow of what came before. Your response to these scars may for a time be nothing but tears, haunting memories, and the remembrance of the sting that at one point was felt so deeply you thought the pain would never end. But there will come a day, as time goes by, and as you soldier on in pursuit of the peace and enlightenment which your soul was made to discover, that a scar becomes an unmistakable badge of character. It becomes a treasure; a marker of your distinct journey. For this scar, whether visible on your skin or inflicted upon your heart, which at a time you viewed as nothing but a loathsome memento of your former self, as a thing to be hidden from all the world, that very thing now serves as an indelible reminder, even as a trophy of your story that belongs only to one. Without it, you would not be who the person you were meant to become; and who you have become is beautiful.

The link below this paragraph is to a song I wrote on 1-1-2013. It's a song about love, heartbreak, purpose, and hope. This is a preliminary rough recording of just me singing with a guitar in a continuous take into a handheld audio recorder. So, the volume levels are pretty low overall, so crank up those levels. I'm excited for what's coming out of my heart these days, and I feel like this a good way to start what I hope will finally be my journey into sharing my story through music with others. Cheers to a stellar year ahead...

Here's hoping you like words...I love to write, so once I get going it's kind of hard to stop...if you don't, then, well, ummm...whatever. Guess I'm screwed. By the way, I feel I come off way more serious when I write than I am in reality. I guess it's hard to accurately convey lightheartedness and humor when I write without being a total dork or using tons of unecessary smiley faces and crap like that. Most of communication is non-verbal anyway with tone of voice and facial expression being crucial to understanding a person. You lose that when you just have words. But you do have the power of more in-depth I go over-explaining myself and only making my already lengthy profile even longer. STOP MATT. Stop typing this needless intro. REALLY. Damn you're verbose. I CAN'T SEEM TO HELP IT.

By the way, I HATE this online thing. But, I think I hate it even less than just trying to meet a girl in the bar. That NEVER freakin works. EVER. Being a guy, I'm obviously very visual, but I am more aware than ever that looks matter an exponentially smaller amount than most guys are willing to admit. I have to be with a person of depth. I think I especially hate the online thing because so many of the girls I've met through here are like, "Thank GOD you're normal." Then they share some story that makes me wanna puke on how they get treated by guys on here all the time. For all of MAN-kind, I'm truly sorry you have to put up with so much bullshit. I actually called this one total jerk on the phone a couple of weeks ago who was totally stalking this sweet girl I met on here (who unfortunately for me lives in Florida). I tore him a new one and said he'd better get his shit straight ASAP and leave her alone. He did and hasn't bugged her since. I'm kind of a boss like that I guess. By the way, I'm friends now with the girl on Facebook and we even text and talk sometimes. I'm cool like that, so if I write you, please don't feel like you have to over think writing me back. I realize you're not accepting my marriage proposal. I think everyone takes all this WAY too seriously. Ugh. Why can't this process of finding someone to share life with be even just SLIGHTLY less of a major pain in the ass? If you can tell me, I'd love to hear. In fact, it actually makes for an awesome topic of conversation.

STOP MATT. Get to the other stuff a girl needs to know about you before she'll even reply to you. Here I go talking to myself's usually not out loud so much in the schizophrenic way, but I'm always conversing with myself. Anyway...

The Adjective Alphabet of Me: Atypical. Brash. Curious. Decisive. Evolving. Funny. Gregarious. Hopeful. Intelligent. Jovial. Keen. Loyal. Musical. Noble. Original. Passionate. Quixotic. Resilient. Sarcastic. Talented. Understanding. Vocal. Witty. Xylophonic (there are literally NO meaningful adjectives beginning with the letter X). Youthful. Zealous.

I prefer:
Art over Science
Pleasure over Business
Authenticity over Appearances
Optimism over Pessimism
Peace over Hostility
Challenging over Easy
Order over Chaos
Beer over Liquor
Hugs over Handshakes
Humor over Austerity
Country over City
Risk over Caution
Music over...pretty much anything else (I have a massive list of my favorite artists below. I'm neurotic about my music...just look in the list and see if some of your personal faves are buried in there...)

I believe it's virtually impossible to live a life of meaning with an over-emphasis either on the past or the future. Carpe Diem (seize the day) is a huge mantra for me. Just trying to suck the marrow out of the bones of life and want to be with someone who feels the same. I'm a person who knows pain and loves life anyway. Hoping for great things in my future and am excited for what's in store.

Most days, the right side of my brain is in the driver's seat and I find my thoughts going to wading through the beauty and pain of life and ache to get home after work to pull out one of my guitars. I have 6 guitars, but I usually play my Taylor 6-string which is an absolute instrumental gem. I love writing, playing, and discovering music. I'm not gonna lie, I can sing most people under the table and that's one of the things I like most about myself. I realize it's a gift from God and I've been reminded recently that NOT using my musical gifts is a shameful waste. Music is like oxygen for me.

There are days where I feel more engaged by my left brain and think I might end up running some big company or something because I have a lot of natural propensity towards leadership and strategic planning. Who the hell knows though, right? I do feel confident that I have a great future in my work life whatever that ends up looking like...

I'm Texas born and bred, lived in SoCal from 2001 up until recently, and am SO thankful to be back in the Lone Star State where I belong. I grew up just outside of San Antonio (which is a great, and constantly under-appreciated city). My family is an integral part of my life having walked closely with me through a lot of tough things that have happened in my life. My two younger brothers are some of the best friends I could ask for and I am grateful to have gone through the growing pains with my parents that allow us to be close now.

This whole social-media dating thing is definitely new to me but I'm optimistic about the process and am honestly pretty stoked to do something way different than I've done in the past.

“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”

-Louise Erdrich
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've had a great career so far in non-profit financial development, but am now seriously considering going into sales in the medical field. I'm deeply grateful to have a number of incredible people in my life and I'm stoked that I'm becoming a better version of myself with each new day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Connecting with people.

Articulating my thoughts.

Resolving conflict.

Making processes in life and business more efficient.

Making sure that those I love know how I feel about them through my words and actions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm actually an attentive and caring listener. Big surprise, right? Yes...I write a lot, and talk plenty too, but I totally love hearing people's stories and perceptions on the world.

I love bringing laughter into the lives of others. As part of my job I visited patients in the hospital sometimes. Recently, a bunch of doctors, nurses, and other staff were gathering in the hospital basement waiting for the elevator to take us up to our respective floors. We all jammed onto the elevator and it was dead quiet. I'd thought of doing this before but had never had the guts in the moment until this moment. So, I just went for it and said, "Well, I guess you're all wondering why I've gathered you here today..." Everyone totally busted up laughing. It made my day.

I'm a big guy. 6'5" and about 225. Tough to miss.

My honesty. People are often taken aback by my vulnerability about myself and my straightforward nature about the world. I'm the first to raise my hand and say I've had some major stumbles in my past but they've made me who I am, and, I finally like that person. Feels pretty damn good to be able to look yourself in the mirror in the morning and be alright with the person behind your eyes. Took me some time to get there. Anybody who doesn't have regret is either not being straight with themself or hasn't lived life. I believe regret is a part of life but it's all about what you do with it. My shit doesn't own me anymore. Living free is the only way I want to go through this world.

I'm eclectic as well: I have a huge range of music I love and my style is sort of day-to-day and can appreciate people from all different kinds of walks of life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: East of Eden. On the Road. The Harry Potter series. The Chronicles of Narnia. Romans. James. The Gospel of John. The Tender Bar. The Lord of the Rings. A Song of Ice and Fire (Game of Thrones). Les Miserables. Dracula. Catcher in the Rye. The Divine Comedy. Let Your Life Speak. The Divine Conspiracy. Spirit of the Disciplines. Celtic Daily Prayer. Go the Fuck to Sleep. The Kite Runner. My Name is Asher Lev. Anything by Rainer Maria Rilke, Frederick Buechner, Dallas Willard, Patrick Lencioni, John Piper, Rob Bell, Francis Chan, John Steinbeck, C.S. Lewis...

Movies: The Shawshank Redemption. Rushmore. The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou. The Royal Tenenbaums. 500 Days of Summer. Inception. Sunset Boulevard. Before Sunrise/Before Sunset. The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. Legends of the Fall. Crazy Stupid Love. Dan in Real Life. The Departed. Garden State. Braveheart. Gladiator. The Tree of Life. Into the Wild. Les Miserables. It's A Wonderful Life.

Shows: Mad Men. Dexter. Game of Thrones. Boardwalk Empire. How I Met Your Mother. Friends. The Wonder Years.

Music: Adele. Alison Krauss. Amos Lee. Andrew Belle. Andrew Bird. Angels & Airwaves. Angus and Julia Stone. Arcade Fire. The Avett Brothers. Azure Ray. Bach. Balmorhea. Band of Horses. Beach House. The Beatles. Bebo Norman. Beethoven. Beirut. Bekker. Ben Harper. Ben Howard. Billie Holiday. The Black Keys. Blind Pilot. Bob Dylan. Bob Marley. Bon Iver. Brad Paisley. Brahms. Brendan James. Bright Eyes. Brooke Fraser. Bruce Springsteen. The Cardigans. Cary Brothers. Cat Stevens. Christina Perri. The Cinematic Orchestra. City and Colour. The Civil Wars. Cold War Kids. Coldplay. Collective Soul. Copeland. Counting Crows. Creedence Clearwater Revival. The Cure. Damien Rice. The Dave Brubeck Quartet. Dave Matthews (solo, w/Tim Reynolds, and the full band). David Gray. David Hodges. Death Cab for Cutie. The Decemberists. Devotchka. DeYarmond Edison. Dierks Bentley. Doves. The Eagles. Elbow. Eli Young Band. Ella Fitzgerald. Ellie Goulding. Enya. Eric Church. Etta James. Eva Cassidy. Explosions in the Sky. Feist. First Aid Kit. Fleet Foxes. Florence + The Machine. Foo Fighters. The Format. Frightened Rabbit. Frou Frou. Gavin DeGraw. Glasvegas. Glen Hansard. Goo Goo Dolls. Greg Laswell. Gregory Alan Isakov. Grizzly Bear. Guster. Handel. The Head and the Heart. Hillsong United. Horse Feathers. Imagine Dragons. Imogen Heap. Incubus. The Innocence Mission. Iron & Wine. Jack Johnson. James Vincent McMorrow. Jason Aldean. Jason Mraz. Jeff Buckley. Jewel. Jimmy Eat World. John Coltrane. John Mayer. Johnny Cash. Joni Mitchell. Jose Gonzalez. Josh Abbott Band. Josh Garrels. Josh Pyke. Josh Ritter. Joshua James. Joshua Radin. Journey. The Juliana Theory. Katie Herzig. Kate Walsh. Keane. Keith Urban. Kings of Convenience. Kings of Leon. Lana Del Rey. Laura Marling. Lauryn Hill. Lissie. Lord Huron. The Lumineers. Maria Taylor. Mat Kearney. Matt Pond PA. Matt Wertz. Michael Buble. Michael Kiwanuka. The Middle East. Mike Barnet. Miles Davis. Missy Higgins. Modest Mouse. Monsters of Folk. Mozart. Mumford & Sons. Muse. Nada Surf. Nat King Cole. The National. Needtobreathe. The New Frontiers. Nick Drake. Nickel Creek. Nirvana. Of Monsters and Men. Otis Redding. Our Lady Peace. Over the Rhine. Owen. Patrick Watson. Patty Griffin. Pedro the Lion. Pete Yorn. Peter Bradley Adams. Peter Gabriel. Phil Wickham. Postal Service. Queen. Radical Face. Radiohead. Randy Rogers Band. Ray LaMontagne. Red House Painters. Regina Spektor. Remy Zero. Rocky Votolato. Rosie Thomas. Ryan Adams. Sam Cooke. Sarah McLachlan. Sean McConnell. Sigur Ros. Simon & Garfunkel. Shane & Shane. The Shins. Sleeping At Last. Smashing Pumpkins. The Smiths. Stoney LaRue. The Strokes. Sufjan Stevens. The Swell Season. Switchfoot. The Tallest Man On Earth. The Temper Trap. Third Eye Blind. Thrice. Tim Hughes. Tim McGraw. Tori Amos. Trading Yesterday. Travis. TV On the Radio. Tyrone Wells. U2. Vampire Weekend. Van Morrison. Vitamin String Quartet. The Wailin' Jennys. Waylon Jennings. We Were Promised Jetpacks. The Weepies. Weezer. Whitley. Wilco. William Fitzsimmons. Willie Nelson. Wolf Parade. Zac Brown Band.

Food: Yes, please.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:

1. Love

2. Grace

3. Relationship

4. Music

5. Purpose

6. Hope
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My blessings in life. I think of what I can do today to be the best person for tomorrow.

How there are so many damn beautiful but incredibly different people in the world.

If my neurotically alphabetized and ridiculously extensive list of favorite bands above will turn girls on...or off. Don't really give a shit though. Haha.

How to create a healthy rewards system for myself to keep from spending too much time on Ok Cupid and/or Facebook during my workday...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends, enjoying some good beer. Maybe a concert or movie or going to the lake.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've made some real mistakes in my past that have taught me a lot through pain. However, there's simply no way I'd be the free, confident, and grateful person I am today if those things hadn't taken place in my life.

I'm pretty embarrased to admit that I maybe kinda like Justin Bieber's "As Long As You Love Me." Like maybe kind of a lot. Ugh. I'm honestly repulsed by my attraction to this song...

And that I kind of have a huge crush right now on Lana Del Rey...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
This is probably the hardest part of these questions yet! I'll keep it simple.

If you're a passionate person who enjoys who you are WITHOUT a significant other in your life but feels that having that relationship would only make your life more rich, then that's a great place to start. I can't complete anyone but I can offer love and connection. I know there's a lot in my heart to offer back to this world and I'm pretty stoked for what's ahead...whatever that may be! AND, simply if you're interested in getting to know me based on what you've seen so far...

Finally, this article is the funniest thing I've read in for-freaking-ever, and, fortunately, is a great summary of the exact opposite of me. Pure comedy right here people...