Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
so, to get a few things out of the way:
i’m married to my absolute best friend. i’m poly and a kink top.
i’m not queer per se (by self definition and by life experience i
am not queer and have not dealt with much of the social issues that
go along with that, so i won't claim it as an identity) but i seem
to have found myself occupying a larger number of queer spaces than
i might have thought. i run parties at the cspc. i am looking for a
few very specific things in a romantic partner, and am open to all
kinds of non-romantic friendships.
what i want in a romantic partner: i’m looking for a "stunt
husband" to hit the goth clubs and munches and cspc with. my legal
husband is a stay home type and i’m a go out and party type whose
tires of going places stag. my S.H. needs to be able to get dressed
and come out to dance, talk, have a drink or three. they also need
to be relatively emotionally, mentally, and financially stable. you
should be masculine of center, extroverted, and have a sense of
special treatment given to poly bisexual bottom masochists with an
interest in a triad.
who i am: i’m goth and geeky and academic and fat. i don't do
negative self-talk. self deprecating humor is a totally different
thing. of course, i’m a humorless feminist so i expect there wont
be many jokes.
wrt the self identifying as fat: to me it's just a word, like
saying i have blue eyes or freckles. culturally we have a ridged
definition of beauty that does serious harm to people. especially
women. and too, we have conflated thinness with health in ways that
are not scientifically sound. happy to explain more over a
i go for fantasy over sci-fi and horror over romantic comedy. i
love a perfectly ripe strawberry almost as much as a piece of small
batch artesian cheese. i’m of the opinion that even shitty coffee
is good, because i love caffeine. i sometimes swear. i drink gin
i put down that i’m bisexual because they don't have androsexual as
an option. i like all manner of masculinity - from femm but not
sissy dudes to butch bois- and i really don’t give a shit about
what’s between your legs. femm women are nice to look at but i’m
not terribly interested in them romantically. i ID as a cis woman,
a femm, and a top. i can also be found on fetlife under firefey
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
school for network design. i also own a business making shrub
(fruit, vinegar and sugar used for making cocktails) which i sell
to local bars. i make jewelry as well, and occasionally sell it at
conventions and craft shpws. i like to stay busy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
i'd like to think i'm really good at being a decent human being. i
know i'm good at tieing knots and cooking. also sarcasm. i'm really
good at sarcasm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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ok, i read a lot. history, sci-fi, fantasy, gothic lit (the old
18th/19th century stuff mostly), classic lit, urban fantasy, and
anything i can easily take on the bus with me. i love books and
have way more than i have room for in my apartment right now.
i tend to pick the following types of movies from netflix: hammer
horror films from the 70s, psychological horror/suspense/ghost
movies, period dramas, cheesy gliter-bomb musicals (long live the
apple!), sci-fi, fantasy, and independent comedy. the films of my
childhood are labyrinth, willy wonka and the chocolate factory, the
dark crystal, the last unicorn, the last star fighter, willow, mad
max beyond thunder dome, and troop beverly hills.
my musical tastes are pretty varied but strongly lean toward
traditional goth rock, ebm/synthpop, blues, and early industrial.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
one of three places. running a party at the cspc. out dancing at
the merc with friends. or home getting ready for a show/farmer's
You should message me if
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you want an excuse to put on a fancy hat and go someplace that
serves old fashioned cocktails. you're a kinky bi bottom somewhere
along the masculin spectrum. you really want to rewatch the
apple/the dark crystal/the last unicorn/labyrinth with someone who
will quote along with you.
or just generally if i sound like the kind of person you might like
to spend time getting to know.
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