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I'm a quiet geek. Technophile, but not enthusiastic about the way
our civilization chews up people and ecosystems. Comfortable with
the unusual. Vegetarian, agnostic, semi-nocturnal. Ubuntu user.
Euro-boardgame enthusiast. Polyamorous, pro-touch, pro-sex,
pro-kink. Honest (almost always), and much more patient than I used
What I’m doing with my life
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Goofing off after finishing a master's in computer science. Sex and
relationships with a ton of yummy people who are good about
sharing. Games (mostly Pathfinder RPG and German boardgames, some
of which are excellent).
I’m really good at
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Being literal, open and straightforward. Hummus and pesto.
Spelling. Multiple-choice tests. Sex. Ignoring the dictates of
The first things people usually notice about me
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Stuff I'm wearing (if unusual). My hairstyle (if unusual). After
that, maybe that I'm quiet and fidgety.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, and sequels. Critique
of Religion and Philosophy. The Left Hand of Darkness. Watchmen.
The C Programming Language. Asimov's Guide to Shakespeare.
Movies: I don't watch movies unless someone else suggests one, and
then I usually enjoy it okay. I'll watch anything except the kinds
of things that Adam Sandler is usually in.
Music: I like a lot of music, but Radiohead and Joni Mitchell stand
out as especially consistent. (Anyone gets bonus points for using
more than four chords per song.)
Food: Pizza, curry, pasta, burritos, sandwiches.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Okay, okay..."First, I'd like to thank my constituents: Carbon,
If this is about what I can't be happy without, that some other
people CAN be happy without, I'll list clear verbal communication,
freedom, the Internet, physical comfort, self-respect, and sex.
Yes, I put those in alphabetical order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future of our civilization. Or when that gets too depressing,
as it often does, then boardgames and sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either surfing the Web or hanging out quietly with friends and/or
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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...okay, I could write something flippant, but I'm going to do this
seriously. After my dad died, when I went up and saw him there
lying in bed looking peaceful, I felt a wave of love and affection
for him which for the first time in maybe decades was not mixed
with stress and fear because he was probably thinking disappointed
thoughts about me, thoughts which I would probably find entirely
justified and concur with, given how similar we were and how much
we tended to be on the same page about things. I wish I had been
able to feel that while he was alive.
You should message me if
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you are very interested in me, are not habitually violent or
deceptive, and are okay with the fact that my free time (not
already taken up by other lovely people) is very limited. Usually
not very attracted to cisguys, but it varies. (I kind of wish
OkCupid knew more than three orientations.)
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