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51 M Bloomfield Hills, MI

My Details

Last Online
Aug 26
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Other (Fluently), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Smart, motivated, loving, seeking similar. Busy, but want to meet someone that is worth taking time out to spend enjoyment time. Been through a lot, and am stronger for it.

Trend toward younger spirited folks, smarter folks, outgoing people, and folks that are comfortable with themselves in their own skin.

Due to the kind of work that I do, I'd prefer to interact with people that are closer to me geographically. I'll talk with anyone, but I'd prefer to get to know folks I can meet locally.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working a full-time job IT stuff, and working on a masters in Information Assurance (think Information Security, but a lot more involved). Play music at a synagogue. Dieting to get more healthy. Reaching out to others to maintain balance in my life (so I don't get overly off on my own).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Computers, music, teaching, learning, and adapting.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Verbally outgoing. The good thing is that I can engage with strangers quite easily and make them into friendly acquaintances. In some people's mind, the bad thing is that I do that kind of thing for fun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love to read and love music, and am not too terribly picky about what type. I love comedies, dramas, action films, and am open to other stuff.

Food is an issue due to allergies (nothing that would ruin an evening if I goofed), but I've got good practice at being able to go out and eat with people, or not eat while they do.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
People, piano, opportunities to be of service and appreciated for it, technology, fiscal security, emotional security, and someone in my life that likes to cuddle both mentally and physically (though I've been doing without the last one for a while).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How blessed I am that I have a job that I love, a place to live that is really nice, and all the wonderful folks I've managed to surround myself with (albeit on a peripheral level). An attitude of gratitude is the house rule.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either at synagogue or out on the town looking for something fun to do. Certainly open to other ideas (as long as I can meet any professional obligations).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a recovering asshole. This shocks people who have only known me for the last 25 years, and I like it that way. Some people who knew me from back that would not agree with that self-description,
but enough would that I unfortunately can own this truth. If I meet someone I've not seen from further back than that, the first thing I usually say is "was I nice"?

I didn't WANT to be an asshole, but I really didn't know better. Since then I've done a bunch of work on myself, Lots of personal work in lots of areas and now most everyone enjoys my company (including me).

That, and a little bit of Prozac goes a long way to making me a better listener (grin).
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 24–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
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You should message me if you're the kind of person who is willing to meet a total stranger and get to know them over coffee or a meal or just a walk/talk around the mall. I do better in person getting to know someone and getting known than I do through typing back and forth a lot.

You should also message me if I've looked at your profile, you like what you see, but your age interested in field doesn't include me. I've seen lots of good people out here who I think would be a great fit, but they are looking for younger than I am, so I don't pursue.

You should message me if you're open and honest enough with your feelings to tell me how things are going, even if you think that "we aren't working out." I've been in those kind of relationships where the other person just ignores and avoids, hoping I'll go away. It'd be much better if they were honest and direct. I'll be honest and open, and want to meet people like that too.

Lastly, I'm still a work in progress. One of my goals is to lose weight, and it is an ongoing struggle. If you have to have a guy that is a certain weight, we probably won't work out.