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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 44-59
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Nov 5
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
My self-summary
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I love women. In general. Always have. I should stop there, but I won't.

I'm a very good listener and pay attention. I can make you my family a sense of humor is in the genes. Not shy, not overbearing, easygoing but not easily fooled.

Online dating gurus say let your personality come through the words in your profile. Not sure that's entirely possible, but here goes:


Time flies when you're dazed and confused and sometimes speechless! Sometimes it has been weird, often hysterical, mostly enjoyable, but always interesting and surprising. Once, it was heartbreaking.

I've learned some important things (and this list keeps getting longer!):
1. There are no rules
2a. Nothing really happens until you meet in person
2b. You can't know everything about someone all at once. It takes time.
3. Expect little and be surprised
4. If conversation doesn't flow, nothing else is going to happen
5. An unanswered email is an answer
6. Trust your gut; if you do, it's usually worth the effort
7. ...but sometimes your gut is wrong
8. For me, never married = incompatible
9. Polyamory is bullshit. A lifestyle with its own rules and vocabulary constructed simply to justify sex outside of marriage or committed relationships is not a lifestyle, it's an invention of the never satisfied or commitment-phobic. Seriously, who really wants to be someone's "second" or "third?" My opinion only. Do what you want.
10. The more I know, the less I understand
11. The Rolling Stones were right. You can't always get what you want
12. But if you try, sometimes you get what you need


My two kids have launched successfully; they live and work in Manhattan and are pretty happy these days.

I used to play in a band and have a soft spot for classic rock and the blues, vintage audio equipment, and pinball machines. I think Steve Martin is sort of a genius. Mel Brooks is an actual genius. Love travel, but I dislike traveling alone.

I've always been a pretty voracious reader, from the classics to beach novels. I enjoy all sorts of movies and live music...sorry, damn, am I starting to sound like everyone else? At least I've posted no pictures of me with my car or with my shirt off or worse....

Almost finished.

I'm looking for a woman.... with Intelligence, insight, a generosity of spirit, someone who laughs easily and has a natural ease with people. A quietly confident, independent woman for whom a good conversation is a pleasure, not a competition. A woman who takes pride in her appearance...a romantic who knows that things feel pretty much the same today as they did when we were kids.

Intimacy and physicality are essential, the air and water of romance. I get that this is more important to some than it is to others, so full's important to me. While I'm waiting for 'The One' to come along, it's a hell of a lot better than Netflix!

A great relationship requires, among other things, a certain kind of comfort that I can't describe, but you know it when you feel it. And you know it when you don't.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
2013 was not a particularly good year. Right now I'm just waiting for it to end!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Parallel parking
Drums, rhythms, singing, and driving...often simultaneously
Keeping things in perspective
Other stuff...
Not necessarily in that order.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm bald and I have a beard? Otherwise I haven't the slightest idea.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Far too many books, movies, and shows to choose favorites...and much too much music.

A few of my favorite things:

Red Wine and Single Malt Scotch...and good chocolate, raspberries, and pistachio nuts, not necessarily all at the same time. A really great hamburger. And breakfast.

Spring, Summer, and Fall.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My kids (2) and extended family
The handful of best friends I wouldn't hesitate to call at 4:00 am
The small of a woman's back
The Ten S's - Smarts, Self confidence, Sex, Support (mutual), Showing up, Selflessness, Silliness, Sarcasm (funny, not mean), Sanity, Sushi, and Sleep. This list started with five. It keeps growing...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What it means to "live in the moment." Apparently lots of women live in the moment, according to their OKC profiles. But nobody explains what that means.

If living in the moment really means smelling the roses, noticing how the sunlight forms architectural patterns on city streets or how different the sunset looks in November than it does in June or savoring the best lobster roll in the US (Neptune Oyster, Boston), then I guess I do live in the moment. It's not a conscious lifestyle choice. It's not something I feel the need to advertise. It's just life, and it doesn't need a trendy name to describe it.

My opinion only. Your mileage may vary!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not too old to rock and roll, and way too young to die.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes I think about what Seinfeld episodes might be like today:

Jerry dumps his girlfriend because she listens to Rush Limbaugh; Elaine joins JDate... pretends to be Jewish. She meets a great guy who dumps her for being "too Jewy." George gets aroused at an airport patdown. Kramer and Frank Costanza successfully petition the city to formally recognize Festivus and erect a Festivus Pole next to the tree at Rockefeller Center. The next morning Matt Lauer interviews them on the Today Show.

Elaine's Zumba partner hits on her. She seriously considers it. George reapplies for his old job with the Yankees but realizes it has turned into an unpaid internship. Jerry joins Twitter, then quits after he hears that Newman has more followers than he does. Kramer starts a Dim Sum eating contest for Chinese New Year that is so popular he becomes a Food Network Star.

Elaine tries it with her Zumba lesbian friend; immediately tells Jerry and asks if they can do it, “you know, so I can compare.” George dates a Vegan, so he pretends to also be one. She sees him scarfing down a slice of pizza on the street. “The aroma, so was the aroma,” he says. Kramer meets Tiger Woods; challenges him to a driving contest at Chelsea Piers. Kramer wins. Newman discovers email and quits the Post Office.

George buys the domain name Reclusive billionaire Arthur Vandelay sues him. Vandelay hires Jackie Chiles to represent him. Elaine writes Kramer's OKCupid profile. He is inundated with messages. She thinks it's a new career. Kramer has five dates in one day, then is hospitalized for exhaustion and inflamed vocal chords. Jerry breaks up with girlfriend because she is addicted to 'Candyland' on Facebook.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Something here intrigued you, you get that one date might not be enough and certainly isn't like getting engaged, and you actually made it to the end of this profile.

I don't respond to Winks or Flirts or Likes or whatever they're called here.... or to contacts without pictures; odds are neither would you! So if you contact me, please, say something interesting. Or provocative. Or funny. Or all three. But say something!

Thanks for looking.