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malsesen

39 F Campbell, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 28
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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*** If you're looking for a hookup or a date, I'm not the droid you're looking for. ***

Jugglers: I'm looking for folks in the South Bay to practice club passing with, so if you know how & don't mind dealing with someone else's learning curve, drop me a line.

I'm a very open person, and I believe that privacy and discretion can be had without keeping secrets.

The main figures in my life are my young daughter, my husband andan and his girlfriend, and my boyfriend. Polyamory (poly, polyamorous,open relationship) is where it's at for me. YMMV.

Laughter is essential, probably more essential to me than chocolate. I live my life with the goal to be happy, healthy and continually evolving. That’s a lot of pressure, so I lighten the load with a healthy respect for my own absurdity. Oh, and cupcakes.

I’ll tell you that honesty is more important to me than sparing my feelings, and I’ll really mean it. Compassion is also important, and I believe that honesty and compassion make excellent bedfellows.

I love things that are shiny, and I mean that in the Firefly sense as well as the literal sense. I’m highly visual, which is one of the reasons I get so much satisfaction out of photography.

I don’t have regrets. You’re probably saying “Yeah, right” but it’s true. Even the most horrid things that have happened to me have had some lesson, some purpose, something I could take away that has made me who I am at this exact moment. I wouldn’t change any of those things for all of the cupcakes in China. I like who I am, even knowing that I have more to learn, more to improve, more to be.

I cherish my freedom of speech, my right to vote, to assemble, and to generally conduct my life as I feel is appropriate, though there are still a few human rights that need to be more liberally applied. I cherish your right to disagree with me, and your right to vote and assemble and live your life as you see fit.

"Freedom to write, freedom to read, freedom to own material that you believe is worth defending means you're going to have to stand up for stuff you don't believe is worth defending, even stuff you find actively distasteful, because laws are big blunt instruments that do not differentiate between what you like and what you don't, because prosecutors are humans and bear grudges and fight for re-election, because one person's obscenity is another person's art. Because if you don't stand up for the stuff you don't like, when they come for the stuff you do like, you've already lost. " --Neil Gaiman
What I’m doing with my life
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Spending my time in the pursuit of love, happiness and puns that make everyone within earshot cringe in appreciation.

Socializing. My family is large, a hearty mixture of blood and chosen, and I spend a lot of my social time with them because they're awesome and they don't mind me following them around with my camera.

Photography. I love taking pictures, and at any given time I'll usually have at least one camera within reach. (I love the modern world, where the camera on my phone just keeps getting better with each iteration.)

Juggling. I picked this hobby up in the summer of 2012, and I've gotten down 3-ball, 3-club, 4-count club passing, and now I'm learning to juggle torches. I'm better at it than I expected to be, and certainly much more addicted too!!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Enjoying my life, and accepting the things I can't change. Except when I can't accept them, and then I'm really good at drinking wine and finding amazing food to eat. Which, actually, I'm good at all the time.

I'm also good at feeding people. Food = love, and it's intensely satisfying to express my regard for someone by giving them the joy of a loved food or cuisine.

Chocolate. Not only do I have a recipe for the most amazing chocolate pecan pie ever, but I've got a talk that I give for my coworkers every now and again (by request). It covers the history of cacao, what it does to your brain when you consume it, how its grown and processed, how modern chocolate bars are made, what the percents mean, what Single Origin chocolate is, how to taste & assess chocolate, and it all ends with a tasting. We start with Hershey's milk chocolate, and step through various bars of increasing quality, ending with Valrhona's Guanaja. More than one person has come out of that talk with a decidedly different opinion of cheap chocolate.

Mixing drinks, alcoholic and non. I've got a notebook full of drink experiments, and a shorter list of highly successful creations. I can make a mean Old Fashioned (even a Wisconsin style brandy version).

Road trips. I love, love, love driving, and it's even better when I'm going somewhere I've never been! Sometimes I prefer to go on my own, and other times I prefer company. Whether near to me or far, it's no matter, darling, in a car!

Verbosity.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Historically, what has generated the most commentary is the color of my hair, which was blue for the bulk of the last decade. Now that it isn't blue, I'm not sure how to answer this one...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My interests are legion, and the list of things I dislike is a lot shorter than the list of things I like.

Books: Books have always been a huge figure in my life. When I was young, they were a constant companion and I'd read just about anything I could get my hands on. I was fortunate to have been given the full run of my mother's library, and spent a lot of time reading books that other kids my age weren't interested in.

These days, I will reliably read Fantasy, Science Fiction, classic literature, and anything by my friends who are publishing books. I'll also read whatever is handed to me if it is recommended as something I might enjoy, and will sometimes pick up a book outside of my usual genres just because it looks interesting. I've recently been on a Gothic novel kick (think Jane Eyre or Northanger Abbey, not "those crazy kids who dress in black") and I've been enjoying it immensely.

I adore poetry, and while I haven't read as much of it as I'd like, I spent a lot of time with Poe, Keats, Byron, Millay and Cummings when I was in high school. Interest in their work also fueled my interest in old books, and now I have a respectable and growing collection.

I'm less familiar with playwrights, despite spending a good deal of high school in drama class. However, Shakespeare holds a special place in my heart, as does Tom Stoppard if only for R&G Are Dead. I miss going to the theater as much as I did growing up, there's something about watching the performance of a play that's... participatory, in a way that movies can never be.

Movies: My top ten: Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead, The Princess Bride, Room with a View, Buckaroo Banzai, Lord of the Rings, Blade Runner, Lawrence of Arabia, O Brother, Where Art Thou?, Iron Man, DeLovely.

Music: I don't really have a favorite kind, I listen to most genres from time to time. I grew up listening to showtunes, Jazz, 60s folk and New Wave. If you were to look at the collection of artists I regularly listen to, you'd find something like this: VNV Nation, The Police, Mumford & Sons, The Black Keys, The Tallest Man On Earth, Ray LaMontagne, Tom Waits, Fleetwood Mac, The Chieftains, The Cure, Gogol Bordello, Pearl Jam, RHCP, David Bowie, Fleet Foxes, Daft Punk, Pendulum, Maroon 5, Imogen Heap, PoUSA, Jimmie's Chicken Shack, NIN, Florence + The Machine, The Civil Wars, The WIYOS, Devo, Ella Fitzgerald, Nina Simone, Glenn Miller, Leo Kottke, Stevie Wonder, Kimbra, Gotye, Johnny Cash, Sia, and many many many more.

Food: "Cogito ergo nom." I like a wide variety of things, and my all time favorites are sushi, Scotch, and dark chocolate. I'm particularly partial to sweets, and while I love to cook, I love baking more, and feeding people delicious baked goods just as much as eating them myself. The baked goods, not the people. Ew.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ok, I had a list here before, but honestly, the list is longer than just 6 things. Sure, I can say things like "chocolate" and "computers" and "people", and it would be true, but I'd also have to add "horrible puns", "amazing food experiences", "a good story", "music", "my camera", "cats", "sunshine", "cupcakes"... you get the idea.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People and relationships. How relationships (of all kinds) are conducted is fascinating to me. Being in an open/poly relationship is work, and it's something I aim to be good at, so I spend a lot of time thinking about my own relationships as well as how others function.

Whatever book, movie or music I was most recently enjoying.

Finding that amazing meal that can compare with the now-shuttered Andre's in downtown Las Vegas.

How best to replicate the tasty thing I just made, with any or all of the dietary restrictions that are common among our social circle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...not a ninja. I promise.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Misuse of apostrophes makes me crazy, and while I firmly believe that the rules of language should adapt to the most common usage, you’ll pry my apostrophe grammar out of my cold, dead hands.

Also, I would really, really love to have freakishly long arms so that I'd never again be unable to scratch that itch in the very middle of my back that my fingers can never seem to reach...
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
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You have something to say beyond (preferably, in lieu of) compliments on my appearance, or "Hi." Compliments are nice, but substance is better.

You care about being honest, compassionate, absurd, and eating cupcakes.

You have truly awesome, horrible puns to share.