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33 M Oakland, CA

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Last Online
Today – 7:49pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs

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My self-summary
I moved to the Bay Area in the Spring of 2013 to take on the most rewarding/challenging job I've ever had. I sometimes still find it all to be rather unbelievable.

I'm a pretty classic introvert but I'm always up for an adventure, I'll wail at karaoke, and it doesn't take much to get me out on the dance floor. I also seem to have a thing for playing quirky instruments.

My Chinese-food restaurant placemat says that " you are a pioneer in spirit, devoted to work and quest after knowledge. You are selfish and eccentric. Rabbits are trouble. Snakes and oxen are fine." I don't know about the selfish part...or the thing about rabbits for that matter.

An ex told me that when things were starting to go downhill in our relationship she consoled herself by saying "at least he's funny." So, there's that, too.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a librarian. I try to be stereotypically "librarian" in all the good ways (super-powers, infinite knowledge, etc.) while suppressing the negative tendencies (shushing strangers).

I have a ukulele that I can't put down. I'm also looking for a band that needs a euphonium player, but am pretty satisfied rocking out on my own.

Organized sports were never my thing, but I run quite a bit. I recently ran my second full marathon.
I’m really good at
finding answers and asking questions.
The first things people usually notice about me
One day, I was jogging by an elementary school and one of the kids shouted from a third story window, "That man gotta big head!"

*update* A kid at the library I work at recently exclaimed out of the blue, "Mr. Brian, you have a skinny neck!" So maybe I don't have a big head after all, it just seems that way in proportion to my slim neck. Who knows?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Haruki Murakami, Dave Eggers, David Foster Wallace

Movies: Wes Anderson, Woody Allen, Quentin Tarantino, and the like.

Shows: The Colbert Report, Mad Men, The West Wing, SNL, Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock, The Office, House of Cards, Rachel Maddow, The PBS Newshour.

Music: The White Stripes, Bob Dylan, The Beatles, The Dirt Bombs, The Arcade Fire, The Black Keys, The Decemberists, Kanye West, Dale Earnhardt Jr. Jr., The National

Radio/Podcasts: This American Life, RadioLab, Judge John Hodgman, The Slate Political Gabfest.
The six things I could never do without
-Running shoes
-Good books
-Bill Murray
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to better serve my community.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm probably reading or out with a few close friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been watching The Newsroom; the last two episodes have made me all teary-eyed at the end. I am willing to admit that.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
First, if you do decide to send me a message, thank you. It's nice to get messages but I know this online dating thing can be a frustrating and lonely experience and that it takes guts to send a message to a man you don't know, hoping that you sound witty/smart/interesting/sexy enough to elicit a response and/or that he's not a creep or worse.

That said, I am more likely to respond (or message you first) if you have a dry or quirky sense of humor or give me something to think about.

You can guarantee a response if you're into meditation/mindfulness practice, are at least somewhat athletic, play an instrument, OR need a karaoke pal.

Extra points if you are a snake or oxen. Rabbits need not apply (kidding).