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33 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 12:25pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs

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My self-summary
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Let's do this.

Let's go on awkward first dates. Let's figure each other out. Let's get dressed up. Let's hang out. Let's brush up against each other. Let's dance, dance, dance. Let's read to one another. Let's play scrabble. Let's open up. Let's come up with cute nicknames. Let's exchange gifts. Let's be dorks. Let's hold hands. Let's go out. Let's stay in. Let's spoon. Let's say things we'll later regret. Let's cry. Let's make up. Let's kiss. Let's make each other laugh. Let's grow into each other. Let's write letters. Let's sing in harmony. Let's collaborate on art projects. Let's explore. Let's thumb wrestle. Let's accept each other's faults. Let's wish on falling stars. Let's go hiking. Let's learn new skills. Let's exchange mix CDs. Let's cross things off lists. Let's fly. Let's shake things up.

etc., etc., etc....
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a librarian. I try to be stereotypically "librarian" in all the good ways (super-powers, infinite knowledge, etc.) while suppressing the negative tendencies (shushing strangers).

I have a ukulele that I can't put down. I'm also looking for a band that needs a euphonium player, but am pretty satisfied rocking out on my own.

Organized sports were never my thing, but I run quite a bit. I've ran a couple marathons, a half dozen half marathons, and a few other races.

I've recently taken up West Coast Swing lessons.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
finding answers and asking questions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
One day, I was jogging by an elementary school and one of the kids shouted from a third story window, "That man gotta big head!"

*update* A kid at the library I work at recently exclaimed out of the blue, "Mr. Brian, you have a skinny neck!" So maybe I don't have a big head after all, but it just seems that way in proportion to my slim neck. Who knows?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Haruki Murakami, Dave Eggers, David Foster Wallace

Movies: Wes Anderson, Woody Allen, Quentin Tarantino, and the like.

Shows: The Colbert Report, Mad Men, The West Wing, SNL, Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock, The Office, House of Cards, Rachel Maddow, The PBS Newshour.

Music: The White Stripes, Bob Dylan, The Beatles, The Dirt Bombs, The Arcade Fire, The Black Keys, The Decemberists, Kanye West, Dale Earnhardt Jr. Jr., The National

Radio/Podcasts: This American Life, RadioLab, Judge John Hodgman, The Slate Political Gabfest.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Running shoes
-Good books
-Bill Murray
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to better serve my community.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm probably reading or out with a few close friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Watching The Newsroom has made me all teary eyed more than a few times. I can admit that.
You should message me if
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Just do it. And if you do decide to send me a message, thank you. It's nice to get messages but I know this online dating thing can be a frustrating and lonely experience and that it takes guts to send a message to a man you don't know, hoping that you sound witty/smart/interesting/sexy enough to elicit a response and/or that he's not a creep or worse.

You can guarantee a response if you're into meditation/mindfulness practice, are at least somewhat active/athletic, have a smart sense of humor, play an instrument, OR need a karaoke pal.