Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Here is the best thing that anybody has ever said about me:
"You come across as a knife with a neon nyan cat handle in subject
matters you feel strongly about, all shiny, bright & happy
'....but ...wait....oh god! ......I've been cut to size? but
After 14 years working in computer science academia and in the
software industry, I decided to reboot my life and am taking a few
months off to recover from trauma (which began before, but was not
improved by, working in tech) before starting a new career. I wrote
about the reasons why at tim.dreamwidth.org/1890351.html and I'm
happy to say that this seems to be both my favorite and the
best-received piece I've ever written.
I've written a lot about feminism and politics in the past, and I
try to be in solidarity with intersectional feminism. More
recently, I've been writing songs (not ones to, like, make anyone
else listen to yet) and focusing on more personal stuff.
Right now I like to go for long drives, listen to music, sing, and
take hot baths. I do a little aikido. Eventually I'll do more stuff
again but this is enough for now.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying to figure out what to do with my life, but also trying
to give myself a break from stressing out about that. I did
computers for too long and my next career will probably involve
helping people debug themselves, rather than debugging other people
without their involvement (through the intermediary of software).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
mental static analysis, word and logic puzzles. People tell me I
write well. I like to think I'm good at critiquing other people's
talks and papers.
Wanting to know too much about the wrong people -- which is to say,
everyone. But some more than others.
Breaking neti pots. (No neti pot can last more than a year in my
The first things people usually notice about me
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My glasses or hair; glasses frames are purple-blue right now;
previously orange, previously red. For some reason, the orange and
red ones got a lot of compliments. Maybe people wishing they could
be bold enough to wear those too? (Hint: you don't have to be
Similarly, my hair, which is currently pink with turquoise streaks.
(You do have to be a little bold if you want to do that yourself,
but the boldness mostly has to do with tolerating mild chemical
burns on your scalp.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anne Lamott, Samuel R. Delany, Vikram Seth, David Foster
Wallace, Caroline Knapp...
Movies: "Selma" was the last good one I saw.
Shows: "Scandal", "Breaking Bad", "House". (I feel embarrassed
about listing those last two because of the fans, but I don't think
either Walt or House is someone you're supposed to idolize.)
Music: all the Mountain Goats, all the time
Food: chocolate, pasta
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Headphones, tea, therapy, the Internet, friendship, the ability to
change my mind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Survival. How I can best help other people survive. the Mountain
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In my apartment. This is unlikely to change much for a while. Let's
be pen pals.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like the Mountain Goats a lot, like *really* a lot.
You should message me if
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I like to exchange a few messages with somebody, then meet in
person. At the same time, I'm going through a hermit phase so I
might be more chatty online than usual.
Libertarians need not apply.
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