At times, but not always, I have run into preconceived notions of myself as a “man” and that “men” want certain things or act a certain way. This is quite depersonalizing and yet quite understandable from the 30-40 year old woman's perspective given the human predilection to define things and after a number of years to begin to see patterns. I hope from both sides to see the other person in a personal way and as an individual. Fighting against years of history can be a difficult scenario and I hope to avoid this in a relationship and hopefully use my life experience to our advantage.
One of these prejudices is that “men” are focused on sex as an end. Don't get me wrong, I love sex but it is especially good with the right person and with feelings of affection or love attached. This is not to say I would turn down lustful or a more purely physical sexual relationship if I happened across such a thing in my seeking but that is not my preferred or primary goal.
The questions on this site seem to be an excellent way to at least vet each others commonalities. Do they result in good relationships? I really don't know. I think chemistry and how two people gel and complement each other have a lot to do with it. And then there is always smell and how similarly our eyes are placed on our face.
I'm not trying to sell myself here just laying out where I'm coming from right now.