I am in an open marriage and love adventure. My ideal date shows me
something I've never seen before.
What I’m doing with my life
I teach, I write, I am a husband, I am a dad. And there is all the
ancillary stuff I have to do in order to do all that, which is
important to me. Beyond that, there is music, theatre, live
performances of all kinds, things I don't know, things I need to
I’m really good at
Reading things--a book, a room, a person. I pick out oddness,
particularity, better than most. In fact, I seek it. That, more
than anything, is my drug.
The first things people usually notice about me
Oh, the glasses probably. In life, I am a slow-burning fuse, a
series of occasionally thrown-out comments that strike you as so
right. I don't want to be noticed at first. I just want it so,
after a while, you can't stop thinking about me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is an impossible question--I teach books and film, and I write
about music. Stephen Sondheim, Johnny Rotten, and Fozzie Bear were
the trinity of my adolescence, and if you get all of that you're
halfway to my heart. Joss Whedon is also a certified god, but there
are so many more--Shakespeare, Scorsese, Springsteen---argggh! Do
you accept art? Are you open? I could never touch a snob, of any
stripe . . . but if you get excited by wildly varying things . . .
The six things I could never do without
My sons. My music (25K tracks on my iPod). Creativity/something
new. Coffee. Curiosity/the pursuit of knowledge. God (you don't
have to believe but I do)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to trap the intangible into a sentence.
On a typical Friday night I am
(a) trying to remove old tracks from my iPod so I can add new ones;
or (b) seeing friends perform
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If I admitted it to everybody, it wouldn't be private, would it?
Privacy, you've got to earn--and I assume it works the same on your
You should message me if
You think neither of us has ever met someone like the other before.