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50 M San Miguel de Allende, Mexico

My Details

Last Online
Nov 16, 2013
Asian, White
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Me1: Hook Ups Here! Get your hot and spicy hook up with a discrete, well endowed SWM!
Me2: What are you doing?
Me1: Trying to get us laid, buddy! Stand back!
Me2: I don't think this is the best way to go about it. You're coming off as obnoxious and crass. Besides, you're going to scare of the cool women who might make cool friends or even have long term potential.
Me1: Naw, man. Chicks dig the forceful, direct approach. I'm all about truth in advertising.
Me2: They might also appreciate a little subtlety. It's like your pushing our, uh, endowment into their faces before they get to know our other qualities.
Me1: Your doing a bang up job convincing them otherwise, by butting in. Now they're going to think that we're a schizophrenic nut case.
Me2: Ok, first of all, you're referring to Multiple Personality Disorder, which is quite different from Schizophrenia. The women that *I* want to attract are intelligent enough to know the difference between a Socratic dialogue and MPD.
Me1: It's still weird. Most are not going to view this "dialogue" as creative or intelligent. It's going to trigger red flags that you're some kind of weirdo with emotional issues.
Me2: I hate to throw this back in your face (not really), but aren't you the half that's all about "truth in advertising"? Besides which, we've come along way with the emotional issues.
Me1: That's true. We learned a lot from that restraining order.
[Me3: That was a joke! We've never been under a restraining order.]
Me2: What the hell was that?
Me1: That was an editorial comment. It was "Meta", as the kids say.
Me2: I thought this dialogue was already meta. Now I've lost my train of thought.
Me1: You were talking about how we've made progress on the emotional issues.
Me2: Right. We have. Years of therapy. A year of three times a week psychoanalysis. Almost 20 years of sobriety. Overcoming depression.
Me1: I think it's a little early to start talking about the depression. Besides which, it's still an ongoing issue. Save this for second or third date.
Me2: But we've made so much progress with the depression. Besides, there won't be a second or third date, or even a first one, with your approach.
Me1: Well can we at least focus on our good qualities, what makes us interesting and all that. Save the complicated stuff for later?
Me2: A compromise? OK, we can do that.

I am a writer living in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. Born and raised in Los Angeles, I worked in the movie business until I quit it forever for the 6th time and it finally took. I'm an animal lover and I currently have two dogs. I volunteer with an dog adoption group. I love motorcycling, camping, walking/hiking. Books are my drug of choice, but music comes in a close second. I like smart movies. I like art. I spend a lot time just thinking about things and ideas, i.e., I have a very rich interior life. I'm very smart, and I like to hang out with people that are even smarter than I am.

Me1: You didn't mention penis size.
Me2: Will you stop!
Me1: Girth! It's all about girth, ladies! You know what I mean!
Me:2 OK, that's it. This interview is OVER!
What I’m doing with my life
I love my life as currently constituted. I love living in Mexico. I'm writing! Short stories this spring, and I'm mentally gearing up for a second pass at the novel I began last year.
I’m really good at
Sex. [Me2: Will you stop that?!]
Lighting for film, video, still photography.
Carpentry and fixing things.
Learning new skills and experimenting with new interests.
The first things people usually notice about me
You'd have to ask people that notice me. I'm not good at these kind of questions.

Maybe it's that I look a lot younger than my age, but I don't know if that qualifies as a "first thing" that people notice.

Perhaps it's that I am friendly and talk to strangers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
EDIT: I have a question for the book readers out there. I just started reading (the English translation of) The Savage Detectives by Roberto Bolaño. Am I supposed to read it all in one sitting, like I did with Infinite Jest (by David Foster Wallace)?

Books movies shows music food

Books: I'll just throw out some names, some of which I have been reading lately and some of which are all time favorite authors.

Phillip K Dick, Doris Lessing, Margaret Atwood, Nick Harkaway, David Foster Wallace, Pablo Neruda, Octavio Paz, Jim Thompson, James Elroy, John Scalzi, Elmore Leonard, Pynchon, Iain Banks, Chuck Palahniuk, William Gibson, Bruce Sterling, Neal Stephenson.

Really, there are too many to list, so consider that a sampler.

In comix, I like indie stuff, but I am a HUGE fan of Los Bros. Hernandez.

Movies: I love smart movies, but I don't actually watch a lot. I tend to like low budget and indie films. I'll mention some DVDs that I own to give you an idea: Being John Malkovich, Buffalo 66, American Astronaut, Scanner Darkly, Mulholland Dr. I like classic black and white movies (Casablanca and Treasure of the Sierra Madre are long time favorited) and I also like European Directors: Antonioni, Truffaut, Herzog, Fellini, Goddard, Wenders, Bertolucci, for example. I adore Tarantino, it should go without saying.

Interesting tidbit: I worked for Iñaritu on a tourism commercial shot in Guanajuato in 2004. It's a funny story.

Shows: Nothing current as I don't have a TV. There are some really great shows, but the thing is, when I have a TV and cable, I start spending way too much time on the couch watching the History Channel. Ever notice how they use the same footage over and over for the World War 2 documentaries? They always use that one clip of the tank rolling over a tree for example. Oh, Arrested Development! Man, I need to sign up for Netflix!

Music: Instead of saying I like all music, let's just say I like all GOOD music. I like a wide variety of music and musicians. I am pretty knowledgeable, but at the same time I have a lot of gaps. This means that I'd be happy to both learn from your musical tastes and teach you about mine. I think this is called sharing. My biggest passion is PUNK ROCK, and my favorite punk band is X, closely followed by The Clash. I like a lot of post punk. Beyond Punk, my tastes are wide ranging, and I find that there is usually a few artists in any genre that I like, i.e., in Country Western I love Johnny Cash and Willie Nelson.

Some artists/bands on my recent playlists: David Bowie (pre Let's Dance), Tom Waits (especially his new album), The Breeders, Joni Mitchell, Charlie Mingus, Duke Ellington, Jane's Addiction, Elvis Costello, Radiohead, Cat Power, Jose Alfredo Jimenez, The Clash, Hope Sandoval and the Warm Inventions, Iggy Pop, The Ramones, Joan Jett and the Blackhearts, Jonathan Richman and the Modern Lovers, Leather Hyman/Listing Ship, Leonard Cohen, Miles Davis, Monk, Mississippi John Hurt, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Roy Orbison, Steely Dan, Supergrass, Todd Rundgren, The White Stripes, and X.

Food: One of the things I miss about Los Angeles is the food. World cuisines are everywhere in L.A., and often the best food is found at little hole-in-the-wall restaurants located in strip malls. Japanese, Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Middle Eastern, Italian, French, Indian, (of course) Mexican. I am sure I am forgetting something. (I tend not to like menudo or buche, however, but I like sesos.)

I occasionally like to cook, but when I cook for myself, usually I am making something simple. I like to take packaged foods and customize them. I have a few set dishes that I am good at cooking, but I would like to expand my repertoire.
The six things I could never do without
There are a lot of things that might go on this list, but I have been learning (sometimes the hard way) that there are many things that we think necessary that really are not. Life may strip away so-called necessities and we will survive and perhaps even be happier for it when we come to terms with the loss.

I am one of those tyranized by things. Objects, cosas, boxes and boxes filled with junk that seems difficult to let go of. In answer to this, my normal solution is to acquire even more stuff. Of course my essays from 30 years ago are *important*! Thus I need to buy a scanner to digitize them so I can get rid of the paper copies. But the originals are the originals, so I must keep them, too. (I didn't actually do this, but this is the way I think, and all to often, act.)

The narrative turn my life has taken over the past few years has involved the stripping away. I am trying to embrace this. I seek freedom from the possessions that ultimately seem to possess me, chaining me to the earth, weighing me down. I want to fly.

I still miss my motorcycle.

My dogs. Lots and lots of free time. Plenty of sunshine. Lamotrigine. Internet porn. Pen/paper or computer with which to write.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Writing. I spend more time thinking about writing than I do actually writing.

I think about all kinds of things. But I spend ALOT of time just thinking. A lot. Be very very careful asking me what I am thinking if you don't have a lot of time to spare.
On a typical Friday night I am
Eating a quesadilla. Down the street from me on Calle Cinco de Mayo, this lady sets up a stand on the sidewalk in front of her butcher shop. It's only on Friday and Saturday nights. She makes the tortillas right there, stuffs them, then fries them. She offers a variety of fillings. Price is 18 pesos, which is like $1.50 U.S. Just one quesadilla is sufficient for a meal.

Sometimes I go out to listen to music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I suffer from depression. As in clinical. SAD related, as it's gotten much much better since I moved to Mexico. Now, instead of many months or years at a time, depressions last at most a couple of months during the winter months.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Want to go walking/exploring in SMA, have dogs, want to hang and drink coffee and spend hours talking, listen to music and talk about the lyrics, grab a bite to eat, kiss, hit a meeting, or hook up for sex.