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39 Brooklyn, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 34-45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:04pm
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Portuguese (Somewhat), Hebrew (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
About Me
I'm a real mix of things. It's fair to say my life feels empty if I'm not involved in a project that's driven by a search for meaning and purpose. But I'm also someone who loves lighthearted, raucous fun... going out dancing, partying with friends, sports, etc. I can be vulgar, refined, serious, and silly.

I like meeting people from all walks of life. I've got little time for snobs or people who feel superior because they're richer, better educated, better employed. These are not real measures of who we are.

I love to write and tell stories about all the strange contrasts in our lives, the absurdities, the things beautiful and ugly.

I’m drawn to unconventional thinking.. to people who are warm and genuine and maybe rough around the edges in some ways.

I can be daring at times. I'm very curious and free-thinking. I don't have it all figured out and I'm regularly in the battle of trying to live better for myself and for the people in my life. I accept that life is full of incredible struggles and joys. I've experienced both. So have you if you've breathed air for very long.

I love being active. I've been a tomboy since I was a girl and I'm not quitting anytime soon.

I want dramatic romance in my life. I’m not sure what exactly that will look like but I'm open to discovering it in unexpected ways.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a writer and a teacher. After ten long years of trying to get my book of poetry published I finally succeeded a couple of years ago. I just finished my first novel and I'm on to the second one.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
languages...most things athletic...empathy
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My full lips, which as a child were the bane of my existence!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My favorite poet is Yehuda Amichai... a blend of the raw, the emotional, and the cerebral. That's the type of work I'm drawn to.

Some of the work which has left a special mark on my life is....

Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl, Junot Diaz, The works of Emily Dickinson, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Walt Whitman, Langston Hughes Mark Twain, George Orwell, Garcia Marquez, W.B.Yeats, John Keats, Theodore Roethke, Elizabeth Bishop, John Ciardi, Claribel Alegria, Roque Dalton, Cesar Vallejo, SHAKESPEARE.

I could go on and on and on...great writers have always shaped me in important ways.

I love reading books which teach me about concepts, history, inventions, people, culture...

I love films, just usually not ones which are formulaic or lacking in any subtlety. Generally I love that which captures some truth about human yearning.

Sarah Vaughan, Ottis Redding, Nina Simone, Pablo Milanes, Silvio Rodriguez, Rolling Stones, Cesaria Evora, Brahms, Lucinda Williams, Caetano Veloso, Thelonius Monk, Sam Cooke, Etta James, Al Green, and a lot more.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
laughter, my loved ones, affection, music, sincerity, empathy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to finish what I am writing...or if what I'm writing is any good.

How to live an inspired life...

How easy it is to fall into cliched versions of ourselves and how to not succumb ...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Bachata and salsa dancing
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm kind of a hopeless romantic...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're a person of ideas. If you have a sense of wonder. If you're grounded. If you're not a spoiled brat. If you can be bold. If you appreciate romance. If you care about making the world a better place. If you're not committed to staying in NY forever. I want out.

My trajectory for the near future is marriage and a child. If that's not your trajectory I'm not your gal.

I'm attracted to men who are masculine, openly affectionate, and very active.