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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
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Working on Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Chinese (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'm pretty damn active. I'm seriously into camping, hiking and biking (I bike everywhere). I'll accept any excuse to go to the beach (Stinson beach is my favorite), or to Dolores park.

I have a strong theater itch (plays), and an especially strong pub theatre itch. I love live music and live music festivals. I especially love live music festivals that involve camping and traveling through the woods. I also love dark foreboding blues bars, because dark foreboding blues bars are great places to sip whiskey and feel serious.

I have a serious wine and whiskey addiction, though not of the 12 step variety. I love bad, campy television and particularly bad campy, teen related television (I may be the world's top expert on Degrassi; do with that what you will).

I’m thoroughly academic (I’m in a Ph.D program, see below), and accordingly I can argue the principle points of philosophy and literature. I can discuss why Jane Austen needed therapy, how Eddie ruined an otherwise flawless Rocky Horror or why skinny jeans are an abomination. I can also discuss other topics.

I have a bit of a hippy streak, but more Keseyesque merry prankster than drum circle. I privately find drum circles unnerving, unless they’re surrounding a fire. I’m not sure why that is.

I travel a lot, as much as my Grad School routine (and budget) will allow. If you enjoy weekend trips I will be a good companion.

I can't type, though I write for a living. I assure you I can spell. I also, on occasion, flip between the American and British spellings of theatre(er). Kudos if you caught that; a gold star to you.

For an actual description of what I am doing in the career, what I want to do with my life sense see below. It’s a long story and I’m fairly complicated.
What I’m doing with my life
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OK. Here’s the serous version of why I’m here and what I’m doing with my life. It’s a long story.

I went to law school after college, all the while hoping that I could get into academia someday. I love philosophy and history and the legal side of both subjects has always fascinated me. So law school it was, with the thought that eventually I would be a law professor researching either urban development or gay rights issues.

Somehow I got sidetracked after graduation (spending my third year in Holland didn't help). I clerked, took a job as a criminal defense attorney and then worked as a union lawyer for the UAW (in St. Louis and Chicago). It wasn't a bad time; I became heavily involved in urban "save the city" issues (if you've ever lived in a shrinking city like St. Louis or Detroit you'll know why this is important) and gay rights issues. Specifically, I started representing a lot of recently outed parents in custody matters. Midwestern courts do not look kindly upon homosexual parents so it was rough going, but eye-opening.

It was a good time and I enjoyed it, but actually practicing law was soul-crushing. I still wanted to be an academic, and I had my eye on a Ph.D program at Berkeley. So basically I finagled my way in. I went to Policy School at Berkeley for my master’s work and now I’m at the Ph.D level (in Jurisprudence and Social Policy). This is also a long story but I’ll spare you. Basically I’m now exactly where I've always wanted to be and quite happy about it. I’m actually stunned that I receive money to do something that I would gladly pay to do.

Currently I'm studying LGBT legal issues (largely discrimination against sexual orientation) and the societal impact of urban design. Disparate I know, but they're both fascinating. Last semester I worked for Equality California on the Prop 8 lawsuit (we just won by the way). This semester I'm working for SPUR on the redevelopment and design of San Jose. Eventually I'll have to choose. If you want to debate or discuss same sex marriage or urban design, I’m your guy. I’m also your guy if you want to camp, hike or drink wine while watching bad television.
I’m really good at
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Air-hockey, writing, finding my way around strange cities, getting lost in my native city, interior design, trivia contests, finding good music, confusing my cat.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have no idea.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Hmm. .. lets start with books. I'm currently obsessed with Dan Dennett. I've always loved Bukowski, Nabokov, Dostoevsky, Ferdinand Celine, Fitzgerald, Flannery O'Connor...

Pixies first and foremost; XX; Spoon; Mississippi John Hurt; Tribe Called Quest; Etta James; Al Green; LCD Sound-system; Wilco; Gogol Bordello; Tom Waits; Scissor Sisters .....

Shows. Let's see: Daily Show and Colbert of course. Mighty Boosh. Degrassi (next gen). Breaking Bad. Walking Dead. Mr. Show (It's old but it's classic - trust me). Game of Thrones. Boardwalk Empire. Arrested Development (of course). Portlandia. Futurama. ....
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Live Music. Dots (the gelatinous kind). My bike. Divey blues bars. Jameson & wine. Books. (I'm counting Jameson & Wine as one thing).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The influence of disgust on homophobia, the history of sexual prohibition, the legal conceptions of sexual identity, what I would say to Scalia if I could tie him to a chair and - most importantly - if it's possible to attend burning man for "academic" purposes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have not been to Machu Picchu, which apparently is a rare thing amongst the OKC crowd.
You should message me if
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You have fun and you're interesting; you find the world fascinating and worth the effort to explore.