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markpubradio

51 / M / Straight / Single

New Haven, Connecticut

His Details

Last Online
Today – 7:26pm
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Life-long fascination with linguistics—from 4th grade to college, and beyond. Violinist (also since 4th grade). Guitarist (vaguely), and erstwhile a cappellist. Polymathic dilettante. Tangentialist.

After 5 years in Arizona, returned to the Northeast 4 years ago--a wealth of strong connections here: Connecticut native, alum of Yale and of Columbia.

Vegetarian for about 25 years.

Egalitarianism in all its flavors is a core value for me.

I'm forthcoming and flexible, and really enjoy those who share those two strengths.

I'm a casual dresser. Almost always. (occasional tuxes, obvious exception)

I'd be thrilled at the rich possibility of starting a family with someone. I'd also be very happy to integrate into an existing one. At least for now—2013—I'm making that some kind of priority. We'll see how it goes . . .

Here's a lovely endorsement. A friend of mine unexpectedly lost her ex-husband Marvin and was concerned about her young son; she asked if I'd be willing to be his guardian if need arose. Here's some of what she said:

"I think highly of who you are in this world. I know of your great intellect, values, and capacity to love and nurture. I believe in who you are and what you stand for. It is for all of those reasons, I would want my son (and I think Marvin would also) to be raised by you or someone like you."
What I’m doing with my life
Listening . . . then telling stories (the ones I get paid for right now are in public radio: I work at an NPR member station).

Being hopeful. Making music. Spreading positivity. Appreciating. Giving.

Gettin' in the saddle (as in amateur cycling--set a (for me) big mileage goal for this year--can I do it? God willin'!).

Piece for NPR I did last year--kind of inspiring!

Okay, sumpthin' else fun I did on NPR.

And . . . so happens, Ira Glass thinks I'm a grand interviewer.

I've been covering this thing . . . Xmas.
I’m really good at
Listening.
Noticing the periphery.
Staying positive.
Letting go.

. . . seems I'm pretty good at radio journalism—won a National Murrow Award (how swell to have his name have anything to do with mine!)
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, the first things that I notice people remarking on:

Unusual eyes.
Resonant voice.
Curiosity.
Youthfulness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ursula K. Le Guin, Oliver Sacks . . . perennial touchstones: Didion & McPhee. Marie Howe.

The Last Station, The Royal Tenenbaums, and Mumford. Cookie's Fortune, Big Night, and You Can Count on Me. And . . . Stranger than Fiction.

Van Morrison, Ravel, and Marvin Gaye. Etta James, Alison Krauss, and Bach. Johnny Mercer.

Wood-fired brick oven apizza with fresh mootz, Ethiopian, and the cucumbers at my farmers market in summer.

And, some favorite poetry:

Plena mujer, manzana carnal, luna caliente,
espeso aroma de algas, lodo y luz machacados,
qué oscura claridad se abre entre tus columnas?
Qué antigua noche el hombre toca con sus sentidos?


Guilty pleasure: Game of Thrones.
The six things I could never do without
The word 'never' seems foolhardy.

I do strongly appreciate the following:

open space
a musical instrument
meaningful work
people who have known me a few decades
touching
peace
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm calendrically autistic.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You are an enthusiastic, expressive, and compassionate person.

You enjoy being grounded in the here & now.

You are extremely positive—or extremely willing to explore being that way!

Maybe you are open to letting the circumstances of our lives soften us, letting us choose the brave path of kindness.

"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye"