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  • Ages 44-64
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Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Buddhism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
My self-summary
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I'm a host & senior editor at an NPR member station.

Life-long fascination with linguistics—from 4th grade to college, and beyond. Violinist (also since 4th grade). Guitarist (vaguely), and erstwhile a cappellist. Polymathic dilettante. Tangentialist (!).

After some years of fun in glorious Northern Arizona, returned to the Northeast six years ago. A wealth of strong connections here—family, friends, Yale & Columbia alum.

Vegetarian for about 25 years—health, compassion, clean living great motivators for me.


Differences and disagreements can be fun and enlightening, and they’re welcome!

I also appreciate being aligned on some stuff that's pretty central to me, mostly political and ethical stuff, in that I’m pretty left of left.

For me, it seems it’d be best if we could see eye-to-eye on all kinds of egalitarianism—including gender roles, minority rights (including LGBTQ), and the essential task of governments addressing poverty, hunger, education. Also the barbarity of the death penalty, the broad reach of the first amendment (including flag-burning), and that Ayn Rand is useless.

Also, I'm unrestricted in terms of race and ethnicity when it comes to who I’d date/am attracted to; I strongly prefer to date people who are like that too.

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Listening . . . then telling stories.

Here's a favorite among the stories I've filed for NPR—kind of inspiring!

Gettin' in the bike saddle (as in road cycling).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Articulating accreted wisdom.
Noticing the periphery.
Staying strongly positive.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, the first things that I notice people remarking on:

Unusual eyes.
Resonant voice.

Also, maybe noticed formerly, according to one woman,
     I 'could charm the birds out of the trees.'

. . . yah, I think with the right person!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ursula K. Le Guin, Oliver Sacks . . .
    perennial touchstones: Didion & McPhee.
        Marie Howe. Brautigan.

The Last Station, The Royal Tenenbaums, and Mumford.     Cookie's Fortune, Big Night, and You Can Count on Me.
        And . . . Stranger than Fiction.

Van Morrison, Ravel, and Sam Cooke.
    Etta James, Alison Krauss, and Bach.
        Johnny Mercer.

And, some favorite poetry:

Plena mujer, manzana carnal, luna caliente,
espeso aroma de algas, lodo y luz machacados,
qué oscura claridad se abre entre tus columnas?
Qué antigua noche el hombre toca con sus sentidos?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The word 'never' seems foolhardy—
        I do strongly appreciate the following:

open space
a musical instrument
meaningful work
the riches to be had from knowing people
       who've known me for decades
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm calendrically autistic—strongly so.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are extremely positive—
            or extremely willing to explore being that way!

You are warm, and kind.

You are completely clear that part of being here is being unambivalently ready to joyfully welcome into your life . . . ROMANCE!

If maybe you rarely wear shoes you could walk less than a mile in, and prefer to eschew much makeup—sounds great to me!

"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye"