35 San Francisco, CA
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
Hi, I'm Matt.

If you agree that spending several hours planning and cooking food for that night in is completely appropriate, then it's pretty certain that we'll get along.

The point is not that I'm planning a life for two revolving around Pecorino Romano and Chianti although actually that sounds pretty good. Maybe we should plan that? The point was supposed to be that this says a few things about me:

1. I'm an INTJ. My scene is with a group of close friends, with people I know and care about. If you want to bring me to a nightclub, I might go kicking and screaming a little bit (although I'll hit up Blackbird any day!).

2. I put in effort for the people who mean a lot to me. Two weeks planning a party for friends is not uncommon for me. Neither is going far out of my way to see someone I haven't seen for some time.

3. I do love cooking. I've kind of turned my attention towards Mexican food recently. I love the flavors and it's not the most common thing for people to cook seriously, but of course it's also pretty easy to access the right ingredients and check my work against the pros.

So, that's a start. True, I can be pretty direct, intense, or inwardly oriented sometimes. But I'm also caring, focused, hilarious in rather ridiculous ways, cuddly, supportive and strong. If this sounds at all appealing to you, send a little message and maybe we can start something.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in tutoring and test preparation, and I'm self employed, which is great because I'm able to be independent and set my own schedule. I think I need those things, which is probably why I've never had a normal 9-5 kind of job. I'm not sure what I'll be doing in ten years, but I'm very happy with what I'm doing now.

Outside of work, my biggest interest is golf. I compete at a pretty high level — if you know golf handicaps, I'm a +2 — and I've been playing since I was 4 years old. It offers just about everything that I could want - it's social, competitive, and athletic, it's outdoors, and it's something I really enjoy, although sometimes the competition brings occasional heartbreak along with all of the good stuff. Golf keeps physical fitness on my mind as well. People say a lot of things about golfers as a group, but I've made a lot of great friends through the game.

Cooking is the other pursuit into which I'm putting a lot of effort these days. As I mentioned, I'm in a bit of a transitional period right now, trying a number of different things. Cooking French food the last few years was a perfect foundation, because not only do I have a pretty strong repertoire of those dishes, but I've also figured out the secrets to tons of stuff like spinach dip, meatballs, spring rolls...anyway, it's a lot of fun.

I enjoy trying new things and having a good time, but in the end I don't have a long list of hobbies like some people do. Basically I do a few things - I work, I play golf, I cook, I keep fit, and I spend quality time with my friends - and I try to do each of those as fully as I can.
I’m really good at
I can make people laugh and make them keep laughing. It's one of the things I'm really glad that I can do. I'm good at mental and intellectual kinds of things. I can usually solve just about any sort of problem I'm faced with. I'm a pro at explaining things because, well, that's my job - I'm actually a pro at explaining things. And I'm a champion at grammar.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm smiling. On work days, that my shirt and tie are impeccably matched. That I'm a great listener. And that I give wonderful hugs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Honestly, I need to read more, but one of the good things about my job is that I get to spend a lot of time with some of the classics. I've been through Romeo and Juliet four times now and I get more and more out of it every time. Still, I hope to be a much more well-read person a few months from now.

Movies: Igby Goes Down (my intellectual side), Office Space (my funny side), Caddyshack (my golfer side).
The six things I could never do without
1. My backpack. Essential gear for a tutor.

2. Facebook. You can laugh at how often I check it, but I really value being able to stay closer to people whom I don't get to see very often.

3. My good silicone scraper/spatula. Seriously, I can't stand leaving all the good stuff in the pan!

4. My extra iPhone charger. I listen to a lot of internet radio and I basically have to recharge everywhere I go.

5. A few close friends who I know care a lot about me.

6. A sense of humor in good times and bad.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A lot of things! I'm a thinker. But typically I'm thinking about what I can do for one of my students, what I'm cooking for my next meal, and whether the joke I just thought of is funny or just dorky. In a more long-term sense, I think ahead months, not years. I'm not exactly sure where I'll be in a few years but I'm planning the ride, not the destination.

Also, I love the Instagram feed on here but it would be even better if they showed the captions too, right?
On a typical Friday night I am
Meeting a couple of friends for a drink, maybe hanging out at someone's house. Might be getting ready for a long night out, or might just as easily be chilling on my own at home just winding down.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I keep my cereal in the freezer. What's the point of cold milk on room-temperature cereal, right?
You should message me if
You've made it this far and you think we might get along. I'm nice, I promise. :o)