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36 • F • Berkeley, CA
I’m looking for
- Men who like women
- Ages 27–42
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last Online
- Oct 28
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body Type
- Strictly anything
- Buddhism, and laughing about it
- Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from masters program
- Relationship Status
- Open relationship
- Relationship Type
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Has dogs
- English (Fluently), Croatian (Fluently), German (Fluently), French (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)
taking care of myself by engaging in joyful activities with wonderful people, and these days also learning the pleasures of solitude
keeping a balance of mind/body and thought/action. My dog is an excellent agent for this.
Using my body to move around, and being happy that it's there and does its job. One of its forgotten jobs, recently rediscovered, is to sing to my heart's content.
Dancing. Dancing. Oh, maybe some dancing...
figuring out what it means to be me, and really enjoying that, too. Looking for people to connect with, have deep and/or fun conversations and experiences with.
trying to brainstorm and ultimately pick excellent summer travel adventures
...apparently this also means that people don't approach me because my gaze is too intense and intimidating. Which is weird, because I am super friendly.
making terrible puns or getting the English language slightly wrong,
putting my foot in my mouth. Being honest.
cooking with specific people in mind, with a few key words as a guide
getting dogs to come hang out with me,
enjoying a good night's sleep,
I can be a bit much, really, and need a good counterbalance - these days literally as well as figuratively - trying to get better at acroyoga
books - any magical realism, Michael Chabon, good cookbooks (yes, I curl up in bed with them), getting entangled in trilogies and such and only emerging at the far end of them. Used to have a real soft spot for Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Salman Rushdie, but it's been a while. Hesse and many similar authors in the original German are awesome.
movies - Pulp Fiction, Django Unchained, Baraka and Samsara, Kieslowski's Red, White and Blue trilogy, Up!, Silver Linings Playbook was interestingly awkward due to recent family experiences with similar mental breakdowns ...well I basically just really like watching well-made movies.
TV: Battlestar Galactica, The Wire. I could go back and happily rewatch those for a good long while. Buffy the Vampire Slayer and all Joss Whedon products, including his comic books. True Blood, Glee.
music - I like, but forget to listen sometimes: all time classics involve Bjork or Radiohead, possibly on a 5-album-in-a-row sequence on a road trip. Recent favorites: Lumineers, Bon Iver, Patrick Watson, Active Child, Black Keys
food - well, anything. Except these days can't eat wheat. I love to explore, especially authentic ethnic food (home-made Thai is a favorite) but also modern California food. I love to cook, with and for people. I love exploring places to eat, whether local, or far away. Total omnivore with serious Bay Area leanings. Love Ethiopian, Korean, Vietnamese, Tapas, Sushi, Sichuanese (yum! any recommendations?)
Travel to elsewhere often leads to comical, yet understandable vegetable cravings. I spend summers traveling, and good food is a heavily weighed criterion: one of the reasons I haven't been to South America yet, really.
plentiful supply of quality food ingredients
stimulating conversation and silent company
variety in all things (scenery, people of all ages, language,...)
salty briny sea air
a capable body and fun things to do with it
How skiing for a full day will keep me elated for a year or two in a way nothing else will.
How having one more arm/hand would be really useful. I could have breakfast in the shower. I could carry more things. I could eat a cup of ice-cream AND walk my dog. All this while trying to live a more chill life and slow things down...ok, if I can't have the arm can I at least teleport? Commuting and airline safety lines are the worst things getting in the way of connecting with people, don't you think?
Whether I can deal with bald/shaved guys (update: yes!) and facial hair (jury still out. Anyone want to convince me otherwise?)
How I managed to avoid dating people with strong masculine energy for so long and am now incredibly drawn toward it. Also drawn to people who are grounded, know who they are and are little mischievous.
you have an idea for a shared activity or passion
you want to show me some of your favorite, personal, secret, bay area spots that delight you and you want to spred the joy of it...
you are in a philosophizing about relationships mood
you have something tasty to share
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