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64 New York, NY Man


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  • Ages 45–66
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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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Je suis Charlie.

We must never allow anyone or any ideology or any set of beliefs to prevent us from speaking and writing as we wish.

They can never be but words and can break no bones. Francis dropped a few notches in my admiration, and respect, for asserting that just because some call it a religion I may be prevented from criticizing it, or mocking it. If you agree with him ask yourself if you'd apply that rule to scientology.

I enjoy museums, mainly classical concerts, chamber music, early music, galleries, serious films (maybe they were made for some purpose other than just profit; the director entertains at least some notion that it is art, or socially redeeming, e.g., The Lives of Others, many more--usually the ones at Lincoln Plz., Film Forum, IFC, etc., no Hollywood "adventure"). Opera, theatre, and dance, too, when I can. I do not find organized sports of much interest (well, maybe a baseball game once or twice a year, maybe a world series game) and I do not watch much of anything else on tv either. I rarely plug it in. Mainly I listen to NPR radio, WQXR (but it's now, sadly, classical "lite"--WWFM on the web is much better), WKCR, WFUV. I wouldn't know most movie actors if we collided on the sidewalk, don't see most hollywood films or tv series and I wish they'd get off our streets--frequently filling several blocks in my hood. (Well I've tried now a couple of the big crime 'n cop serials--and they are horrible. Whence this fascination with cops? And why so many wrongful killings of civilians by cops. When will we stop this? Is this the result of hiring returned soldiers, who grew accustomed to fearing that every inhabitant might want to kill them? Who learned to turn and fire at once?)

I hope not to again to meet someone who is unrecognizable from posted pics. Had that happen too many times.

I do like walking outside, in The Park, my park (Riverside) or the woods (Westchester or similar) and on city streets.

I do not travel around town with a book because I always see things I learn from and enjoy looking at: buildings, cityscapes, art, people, the activity on the street, people. (An old friend used to say, the great thing about NY is that if you wait a bit there's always a free show.)

I am quite interested in good food and like both restaurants and cooking. Luckily, some genes seem to prevent obesity. A recently published persuasive large-scale medical study has caused a sudden reversal of my devotion to red meat; it's now a rarity in my life. Pity! But I'll just have to drink all this red wine anyway.

I am thoughtful, socially concerned, and liberal. I guess I should say very liberal--in case it's really true that 53% of our people would consider letting the others starve.
What I’m doing with my life
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Talking with strangers on the bus or subway. I love this article/study. It's so true!

Practicing a little law; trying to make more time for myself; living and working on the upper west side. Trying to work less, trying to get to be fully-retired (end of year?). I might add: the many who assert that they "play hard" kinda miss the point, I think, and do not entice me. That nearly makes it work, on which subject, and leisure versus "hard play", I recommend this recent essay:

Remembering a lesson from Julia Child heard recently: after her frequent "failures", she promptly doctored them in some way and declared, "this is good, too!" (albeit not the planned outcome).

Life can be that way too.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Questioning, I hope.
Questioning authority, for sure.
The first things people usually notice about me
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How do I know? Ask them.

When listening, talking, writing, communicating: my wish to have things clear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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How do I chose some and omit others I love as much? If I ever do this properly it will be a long list--some films: Jean Renoir, Coen Brothers, the Dardenne Brothers--I just discovered them, but READ the review by AOScott of Lorna's Silence!! Wow! And do go see it, or their others if they can be found. Before the Devil Knows...., Krzysztof Kieslowski's trilogy, Water, Brokeback Mt., The Lives of Others, Julia & Julie...

These are just some that popped into mind on one occasion. They are not "best" and certainly not ranked. I could list many more, with the patience for typing them in here.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
night's darkness and stillness
changing seasons
a distant horizon
your attention when we are together, see infra
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
This bit from yesterday's NYTimes, re one of the shapers of our new social media:

"Joanna Coles, the newly named editor in chief of Cosmopolitan magazine, a cool blonde, turned up wearing form-fitting black leather and looking like a contemporary version of Emma Peel.

And Ms. Coles, though she had been on the new job just a day, was saying how she had already turned her attention to the Cosmo girl’s eternal dilemma.

“We all want more sex, and no one is getting enough,” Ms. Coles was saying, noting that the problem is perhaps more exaggerated here than elsewhere. And the reason, she said, may be that in New York people are so busy they forget to bookmark sex time in their day planners. Whereas in England, where she is from, people routinely head out in the evening with the expectation of drinking a great deal, going home and making love, although the term she used for the sex act was vintage Austin Powers.

And in New York and especially during Fashion Week, Ms. Coles, expanding on the subject, was saying, you can easily form an impression that the majority of people have altogether forgotten that one of the primary purposes of looking good in clothes is to attract the amatory interest of someone who might wish to help you remove them. “I’ve been thinking about this a lot,” Ms. Coles was remarking. “People don’t appreciate enough that sex is free. You don’t have to be rich to have great sex.”

life, death, taxes, war
art, science
the welfare of society
politics (if that is not clear from combination of some of the above)

Such as the current right-wing claims that Pres. Obama is trying to institute socialism. Yet there has been government economic activity from the very first days of the US, and the preceding colonies. Roads and highways were built with public funds (even when some highways were private ventures, built, operated, and tolled by businesspeople). Examples of government economic activity which one might call socialism include public schools and universities; public libraries; police and fire departments (each of which had been private at some times and places); public hospitals; flood control and hydroelectric dams; etc. And this list doesn’t even include corporate welfare which, long before the 2009 corporate "bail-outs", has subsidized almost every “private” economic activity in the country: farming, housing, small business, oil exploration, space exploration, computers, nuclear reactor, pharmaceuticals, etc.

So we see that when tax money goes to advance corporate interests, it is called “progress.” When it goes to help individual citizens in need, it is called “socialism.”

AND, I've written too much already, but, to quote some expert:

“Engaging in technology separate to [sic] a partner while in the presence of them encourages a disconnection rather than a connection,” said Christina Leggett, a senior researcher at the School of Psychology at the University of Queensland in Australia, who wrote the study with Pieter J. Rossouw, a professor there. “Disconnection in relationships tends to lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and comprises an individual’s sense of safety, attachment and control.”

So pay attention to each other--not the ipod/phone.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
going to a museum, concert, film, restaurant
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I shall buy a larger day planner forthwith.

Another: I think that you should not weigh more than I do--that's 159. Seems like plenty for an attractive, healthy woman concerned with her appearance, n'est ce pas?
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You can see that I am actually nice, sweet, caring, good--despite my perhaps somewhat grinchy responses, supra.

Oh, and you are, too.