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71 M Berkeley, CA

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Atheism, and very serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
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English (Fluently), Swedish (Okay), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
i've heard it said that happiness is an act of will; if so, it is not for me – it simply wouldn't be interesting enough. the joy that others promise on this site is on the face of it puzzling: why, if they are so happy, are they here? I belong to that class of intellectuals raised on existentialism, that emigrated from europe, people finding it disconcertingly difficult, in the sunshine of california, to be morose.

came here at the end of the sixties with, literally, the brief to 'improve international understanding,' eccentrically instantiated in physics and philosophy, that in one way or another i still teach.

I've had two fifteen year marriages, that i do not regret; four children, with whom I have excellent relations; i love children, am in awe of them and the very old. I find people extremely interesting (we are, aren't we?), and (to half-quote John Barth) am not gregarious, nor even very sociable, but can maintain a thoroughgoing interest in one or two people at a time; well, i am friendlier than that, but paradoxically shy, something my students rarely guess. my intimate relationships run at one or two a year, are sincere, and might be with someone in their sixties or thirties - seriously. i do not lose those i have known, and always want to know them very well.

life has taught me that the bohemian verve - i'd say intensity, but the connotations are too powerful - I appreciate is not confined to academia ('clerks got out of hand' - william carlos williams), but that, and music, has been my life: i'll be most familiar if it is yours.
What I’m doing with my life
asking that question - of myself, and you.
I’m really good at
generating, articulating, explicating ideas. it's my job.
The first things people usually notice about me
people smile at me in the street because i am screwing up my face, to hide my eyes under my bushy eyebrows from the sun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
forget shows (& kill your TV). and food: is that interesting here (well perhaps - but none ever more so than for friends who are so synaesthetic, or so sensual that they hardly bear to eat).

book lists never end. Gombrowicz, Pilch, Kundera, the end of the road, confederacy of (you know the rest), tristram shandy, thomas urquhart's rabelais ... i guess a certain irony & a way with words. did o remember torecommend m john harrison? gots stop editing this thing. stoppard, pinter.

films? i tend to prefer them to be black and white, and for nothing to happen for long periods at a time (think tartovsky, antonioni (painfully slow), and the final shot of five easy pieces) - my children are liable to walk out in disgust. i identify strongly with charlie in tirez sur le pianiste, and pretend to identify with the subversive tramp of boudu sauve de l'eau (please, the original renoir version). oh yes, in russian (that i don't speak), or french or swedish (that i do). and no dubbing!!

or else

withnall and i ; harold and maude ; songs from the second floor!
On a typical Friday night I am
there is nothing typical about any night - or day.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i am more amusing to others than i perhaps should be (unintentionally adorable, remarks a young friend who, i think, has my number).
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 29–74
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
you like a british accent.