came here at the end of the sixties with, literally, the brief to 'improve international understanding,' eccentrically instantiated in physics and philosophy, that in one way or another i still teach (i lecture erratically on the former at Cal).
I've had two fifteen year marriages, that i do not regret; four children, with whom I have excellent relations; i love children, am in awe of them and the very old. I find people extremely interesting (we are, aren't we?), and (to half-quote John Barth) am not gregarious, nor even very sociable, but can maintain a thoroughgoing interest in one or two people at a time; well, i am friendlier than that, but paradoxically shy, something my students rarely guess. my intimate relationships run at one a year, are sincere, and might be with someone in their sixties or twenties - seriously. i do not lose those i have known, and always want to know them very well.
life has taught me that the bohemian verve - i'd say intensity, but the connotations are too powerful - I appreciate is not confined to academia ('clerks got out of hand' - william carlos williams), but someone is going to be most happy with me if they appreciate books. I seek a long term relationship: starry-eyed daddy-seeker?; abandoned mother seeking a (grand)father to her children?; if you will – but best: an equal, of whatever age, with whom to play my violin.