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I am: mostly extroverted, a foodie, sweet, stubborn, often
cynically optimistic (if that's possible), and loyal. I'm Italian
at heart (and most proud of the culinary aspects of my heritage). I
think I have a good sense of humor, but sometimes I'm the only one
I love to cook and travel, and I do both as often as possible, but
not nearly enough.
I have little interest in traditional gender roles.
I respect people who run or swim or go to the gym, because I am
trying to be one of them. I've been playing soccer in a rec league,
and I love it more now than when I was a kid. It's a way to run
around that's not boring like the treadmill. But I don't take it
all that seriously (hard to when your team never wins :)
In a partner, I think I'm often comfortable with a
"secret-extrovert" -- someone who may not be the first to open
themselves up to the crowd, but once comfortable, they can become
the life of the party - at least a dinner party. I find someone who
likes to analyze behavior and is attuned to the subtext of a
situation very attractive. If you regularly find yourself
hypothesizing about what motivates other people to act the way they
do, we'll have lots to talk about.
You are probably also affectionate, intellectually curious, honest,
funny, self-directed, passionate about what you do, and comfortable
in your own skin. Of course, as I typed that I realized: who
doesn't want all that?
I am very attracted to someone who thinks creatively about and then
joyously dons their Halloween costume, and I admire this immensely
because I am uncomfortable wearing costumes.
I have pretty stridently held social and political views. I think
society is structured in ways that privilege some and deny others.
I think we should all be doing something, even if just by our vote
and our general posture on the issues, to change this.
I make movies (mostly as an editor) for work, and I'm regularly
hatching ideas for my own big projects. Someday soon I'll embark on
making a dream movie.
What I’m doing with my life
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I make movies. Mostly I edit them, but I shoot, write, direct and
do whatever I need to to get a project done. I love what I do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Having opinions. Cooking. Eating. Movie stuff. Listening.
Conspiring. 65 year old man humor. 15 year old boy humor (I know
it's not PC, but I am glad The Office re-legitimized "that's what
she said." C'mon, sometimes those are funny.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My laugh (it's loud). My eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Shows: The Sopranos was the best thing ever. Still looking for
something as good. Breaking Bad. I gave up on Mad Men, but I'll
probably go back. Damages is a guilty pleasure for sure.
Movies: 70s American classics (Coppola, Scorcese, Bonnie and Clyde,
Midnight Cowboy, etc.); Wong Kar Wai's movies, The Sweet Hereafter,
Cohen Bros, PT Anderson...
Books: 100 Years of Solitude is an all time favorite. Recently read
The Ask and liked it. Currently working my way through Blood
Meridian. It's bleak.
Update: left Blood Meridian in a hotel room. Gotta buy a new one to
get back to that dark, hateful place. Now I'm in the middle of
Americanah, which is wonderful.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
friends/family; Animals to hang out with; great food; something
unknowable to ponder; my bed. that's five. so what.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Movies I want to make. What I want to cook next and for whom. The
sad state of American politics. Race/class/gender issues. Whether I
not I buy the idea of the multiverse (leaning toward believing it
because I want to).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having dinner, seeing a movie and/or playing a nerdy game with
friends (Settlers of Catan, anyone?)
Going to the bar for drinks. Maybe getting up to NYC to see people
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm actually ready to find someone who I love, who I'm happy with,
who knows relationships are always supportive and wonderful, and
always hard work. I'm looking for someone unafraid of that work. I
am not clingy, and I don't want to rush into anything, but I'm
feeling like I've learned how to be single. Mastered that. I could
move on happily, confidently into something like a partnership now
- if it felt right. Maybe that's too corny and too vulnerable for
this site. But I don't give a shit :)
Oh, and I'll admit, I think the judicious use of emoticons is
totally great. It prevents tonal confusion :)
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