I've got a little bit of life advice for those who wish to take it.  Know your job, and do it.  What is your job?  You job is not easy, it is a 24/7 committment, and payday might not ever come...but it likely will pay off in amazing ways. 

I will suggest that the most important job you can do for yourself is to make the people in your life extatic that you are their: Husband, wife, daughter, son, friend, employee, auto mechanic...the list goes on.  The theory behind my reccomendation is that your own happiness, and personal success in life is closely linked to how you treat, and view others.  If I am the happiest guy on earth to be able to call you my friend, girlfriend, dad or whatever, then I will work extra hard to return the favor, and defend your name against anyone who would try to besmirch it.  I will love you, and cherish the relationship we have above all others. 

But wait!  There's more.  Let's suppose you are a part of a gropup of some kind (as we all are), whether it be a religious affiliation, ethnicity, sexual oriantation, or subcultural belonging, smoker, or non-smoker.  Don't you want your group to go unharrassed by society, and don't you want to be instrumental in your group's gaining  clout?  Be a beloved person to as many as you can, and make people think twice about stereotyping you, and your group. 

We are all to quick to deride, hate, castigate or disdain people in our circle of living.  Many of them feel the same way about us.  We don't care about treating them well, and as a result neither do they.  You have the power to possibly change this by changing your behavior toward them first.  If it works then you have removed a thorn from your side.  If it doesn't, then you have left them with the ulcers gotten from hating you, while you get off scott free.  Think about how much better life would be if people would do anything for you just because you're just that awsome of a person. 

Try it! 

OK, I klnow it means pretty much "If it doesn't work out at least we had fun", but seriously, what would happen if I contacted a woman and said "Hey, I see you're up for short term dating!  I'd sure like to short term date you". I'm thinking bomb.

I am undertaking a brave experiment. I have no fait whatsoever in this % friend/enemy shinannigans. I have a good friend who just happened to be on this very site, and we found ourselves to be listed as 80% enemies. Poppycock! My new goal is to find a 90 + enemy woman to take out. Please turn all applications to mdunawaym in care of OKCupid. Applications will be assessed in completely random and capricious order.

I know we all like what we like, but I'm a bit confused as to why so many women find it necessary to eliminate the vast majority of potential mates, casual dates or anything in between by imposing stringent litmus tests. "You must be..." (and the rather extensive list follows). I consider myself to be a good looking guy, nice, smart, relatively fit, posessing a good sense of humor, caring and a gentleman (except for when the beast is awakened) ;) I don't, however have a long list of "You must be's". It amazes me at the fun, intelligent and attractive women I've met who would have skated away to another lucky guy had I declared "You must have a bikini body, read Plato, and have voted for the same guy I did". Would I love that? Hell yes! But to make that a litmus test for having dinner, a few laughs and a cuddle or two is beyond insanity! Most of us here have listed what we are looking for as including "Short term dating". Would it be that bad to go out with someone who didn't play beach volley ball for a few dates?! And what about long term? Are you so shallow that you have to have a mate who shares your particular fascinations? What about the quaint notion that two people bring different things to the table; I like that!
I don't know whether to admire women who feel they have so easy of a time attracting a guy that they feel confident in writing off 99.9% of humanity, or pity them for their shallowness. My guess is that not many guys will be willing to look deeper into their character once they've bagged their bikini wearing, extreme sport playing, U2 listening, sushi eating, properly voting bimbo, and soon move on to their next conquest. Don't be left in the dust. Go for a guy with character and charm whether he rollerblades and reads Aristotle or not.

Just a question to put out there to all. A few months back I had a brief relationship with a woman with whom there was a strong mutual attraction. Her son's dislike of me put an end to that, and we have both since moved on. She recently messaged me telling me that her new boyfriend was taking her to a concert for her birthday, and I messaged back that I hoped that they waould have a great time. A coulpe more exchanges had me teaseing her that I had yet to find anybody who could kiss as well as she could, and that I hoped that he appreciated her, and treated her well.
Now the nut of things...She was mortified that I would write about the quality of her kisses, and told me that her new boyfriend checked her messages. I apologized, but in my mind had two thoughts: If somebody else mentioned that my current girlfriend was a good kisser I hope I could agree, and be proud of that fact. Second, I would never want the have the password of my girlfriend's account for the purposes of monitering her private messages. Is it me, or is this a weird thing?

For decades now the clarion call of the left has been for tollerance of those who are different than ourselves. To reach out in understanding and open mindedness to those dissimilar from kin and kith to include in your personal rainbow people of all stripes. What a wonderful vision of reaching out!
But I see a problem here. I have attempted to commune with more than a few ladies on this very site whose profiles boldly declare their liberality. I see them as fun, attractive in mind, body and wit, and am quick to tell them so in a well mannered fashion, and they are quick to respond; letting me know that they have been flattered by my interest in them. We have a couple happy exchanges, enjoying each others wit and charm...until...they realize that they are talking to a Christain republican! What will they do? They have already written on their pages that they look forward to engaging with and dating someone whose views open thier minds to new possibilities, and now they have a knuckle dragging Neandrathal on the line here! The response thus far has been to immediately cut things off entirely, openly siting my conservative values as the culprit. Like the coyote who has chewed off his leg to get out of a trap they slink away into the night thus avoiding further exchanges with this person of diversity.
Tollerance and open mindedness would, no doubt, be extended to me if the melanin levels in my skin were to have blessed me with a lovely shade of brown, or if my gender identity were not so doggoned set in stone...that is as long as I thought like them. You see for many, and certainly not all of the lovely liberal ladies in the left wing bleachers diversity means diversity only on exterior trappings; things that add to or take away nothing from character. There is no difference between a black man and a white man, or a homosexual man and a straight man, so a facade of tollerance is easy for anyone to attain. However, if I could please get some kumbayah for a good, witty, loving, decent, caring man who feels he has good reason to vote down all initiatives in the upcoming special election in California I might feel a little less skeptical when I hear of how accepting of others the left is.
It's easy to embrace those who think along the same lines as we do. I enthusiastically claim John McWhorter, Thomas Sowell, Andrew Sullivan and a host of others who either look nothing like me or whose dating circle would not enter my ven diagram. I also have a great circle of friends whose politics are diametrically opposed to mine. That's the diversity right there! Not in that I accept Clarence Thomas as a fit Supreme Court Justice.
For the true believer on the left it is unfortunate that tollerance for the Americans of African descent, or those whose sexuality enclines them toward their own has left the building if these good people disagree with them. Should Justice Thomas suddenly change his ideas of juricpredence the diversity rule would suddenly apply itself as firmly as it does to our President, or Barney Frank.
So please, ladies; give a good guy a shot, and let things die only if it is I who proves to be a scoundrell, and not my votes. I love healthy debate, and to hear what informed people of the opposition have to say. I can embrace you, tollerate you, be open minded toward you, love you and like you. All I ask is that same chance.
If you need liberal references I have a friend here who has offered her services to vouch for my kind heart, open mindedness and charm. Just ask me.