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40 F Tucson, AZ

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 36–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Oct 21
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am not on this site for hookups or cyber sex. Move on if that is why you are here.

I have very long hair which is becoming more white every year and I like it that way. I am considering adding more red but haven't yet. That said, here's info about me:
I enjoy spending time with others but need downtime alone. The week is spent with teaching teens with their energy, crises, and learning, so afterwards, I expend a lot of energy to be social whether for a night out dancing,playing games, or watching movies with friends. I can be very talkative but it takes time for me to open up enough to share myself. I do not trust people easily and it is even harder for my trust to be rebuilt once broken. Analyzing other people's actions and inactions as they relate to what I am doing or trying to do tends to affect me more than I should allow.

I am looking for a relationship - not a hookup. I am looking to actually develop something meaningful. I truly miss the process of dating and building attraction. Much of what happens today feels so rushed and superficial. What has happened to the thrill of holding hands for the first time?

I am looking for someone I can trust and believe in. Someone who has similar interests and takes pleasure in a variety of activities. Someone who enjoys being out socializing with friends, camping on clear starry nights, and cuddling at home watching movies. If I am worth the effort to know and love, I expect someone who is also worth the effort I am willing to put forth.

For many hobbies, I am involved with the Society of Creative Anachronism. I am loving it! Medieval life, arts, crafts, fighting, and more are at my disposal. Many of the people I currently spend time with are in the SCA. That said, I also enjoy RPG and tabletop games so I can be found at a local game store having fun too.

I enjoy learning about cultures and spiritual beliefs. I know energy flows through everything and can affect/be affected by us. I believe the human will is stronger than we know or understand.

Dating is an adventure and I have been in monogamous relationships with both women and men - they are equally confusing. Monogamy is my preference so gender is not what I worry about first when dating; it is attraction. I ask questions and share quite a bit when I feel comfortable and safe with a person.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I teach high school English.
I have two senior cats that require a little extra care and attention. This means I can't just go away without planning for someone to watch them. Also, I will not get rid of them for a relationship - a pet is a lifetime commitment.
As mentioned before, I spend my time in SCA activities (crafts, fighting, socializing). When I can, I also participate in camping events.
I also enjoy going to movies and concerts though I have been to relatively few concerts.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I teach. What's your superpower?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Depending on the day, I either hear about my long hair or my smile.
I look like a teacher, a librarian, or someone very religious. It depends on the individual judging.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite plot is the Cinderella plot so I love Jane Eyre. I read a lot of fantasy and also enjoy contemporary supernatural tales. Authors like Jacqueline Carey, Jean Auel, and Kim Harrison are fun reads. I also love the worlds created by George R. R. Martin's words.

I love musicals on both stage and screen. Additionally, I enjoy a range of movies from action (Die Hard) to teen (Harry Potter). I only have difficulty with gore and any horror that I can imagine happening in real life.

Recent favorites on television: Being Human, Two Broke Girls, Person of Interest, and Lost Girl. I only get a local channels through my antenna so I generally watch on Netflix or online.

Soft rock, classic rock, and folk music are my go-to's whether on the radio or Pandora. I can identify some artists, groups, and songs but I mostly listen for enjoyment and don't concern myself with the details.

My weaknesses are chocolate, pizza, and spaghetti but I have been trying to remove gluten from my diet so I need to add to my favorite foods list. I love Mexican food, and jalapenos are a requirement in life!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Books
2. Cats
3. Friends
4. Blankets
5. Chocolate
6. Lists
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to improve my life. I am constantly looking to make tweaks and changes that make my life and world more effective, efficient, peaceful, and secure.

How to help my students succeed.

How to help my friends be happy.

Love and cuddling.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing whatever I feel like doing. Sometimes that is dancing, watching a movie, or playing games with friends. Other times it is staying home to watch TV and sleep.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you ask me, I will usually answer - in forthright honesty - so be certain you really want to know.
I do not trust you; even if you think I do, I don't.
You should message me if
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You think we could enjoy spending time together out and about since we share interests. If you are interested in creating something real and aren't afraid of communication.