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medeski99

33 Berkeley, CA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Status
Single
Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Another in a long line of Chicagoans to move to the East Bay. History nerd, and semi-reformed political junkie. Lost soul of a writer, with a set of keenly observant eyes. INFP. GGG. Somewhat of a homebody, who's often looking to find something better to cook or make use of around the house. A vigorous yet respectable debater, rooter for the underdog, thoughtful and attentive listener, and advocate for the use of the parenthesis, ellipse, as well as the semicolon (within reason of course!)...; as well as occasional schadenfreude vampire.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After going to school initially to be a history teacher, and then trying to grind it out working in politics for awhile, I settled into working in home health care. It can be demanding at times because of the amount of time it takes, but I take value from the work that I do and the direct value it has on someone's life, as opposed to any other number of things I found I could be doing.

On the personal front, after dealing with and figuring out a lot about myself during my twenties, the past couple years I've been looking more at what's ahead and deciding what I would like out of life, and potentially what I'd like out of a partner to share some of that with. Not there yet but I've figured out a lot more about myself and both what I have to offer, as well as what I'm looking for in someone else going forward. Fortunately, I've found I'm also In no particular rush to get anywhere though, just trying to just be patient and enjoy the ride.

Here's my accompanying theme song that fits here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=841Du4DHFso
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being able to find the subtle humor in the seemingly mundane.

Thinking about problems and scenarios from multiple perspectives and being able to appreciate the different nuances involved in the different actions, communications, and potential conflicts between multiple parties.

I usually possess, what has been referred to by others, as "super-human levels of patience."

Using my hyper-metabolism to produce way too much excess body heat, which has it's uses as either a hand-warmer or as a thermal blanket. (Seriously, why do SO many of you ladies have such cold hands?)

I'm fully confident that my pasta carbonara is better than yours.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Usually my hair, for which I am increasingly thankful as I get older and know guys who are engaged in fierce, combative, and losing battle with their hairlines.

Also, if just left alone and just casually observed, I'm undoubtedly going to do or say something (possibly to myself) in a manner that just a bit off-kilter when left to my own devices.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books- I'm a history nerd, so I've read a bunch of varying histories, biographies, and political books. Lots of articles and current events type stuff; understanding the world around me as best I can is kind of important to me. I haven't read much in the way of novels since college, not as much my interest, but some favorites from my youth include: Fahrenheit 451, A Wrinkle in Time, Lord of the Flies, Slaughterhouse 5

Movies- I really like movies of most kinds, though I don't get out to as many modern films as much, but I love me some Netflix. Some that randomly come to mind that I really enjoy: Dr. Strangelove, The Big Lebowski, Usual Suspects, In the Loop, The Blues Brothers, Slacker

TV- Arrested Development, Parks & Rec., Freaks & Geeks, Wilfred, Doctor Who, Breaking Bad, Louie, The Wire, Game of Thrones, Orange is the New Black, House of Cards, The Daily Show, Last Week Tonight, etc.

Podcasts- Democracy Now!, This American Life, Dan Savage, Judge John Hodgeman, Jordan Jesse Go!, Radiolab, Risk!, Men in Blazers, Dan Carlin's Hardcore History

Music- Hardly an exhaustive list, but here's a reasonable cross-sample of my tastes I would think: The Beatles, Jefferson Airplane, Miles Davis, Muddy Waters, The Velvet Underground/earlier solo Lou Reed, David Bowie, Grateful Dead, James Brown, Bob Dylan, Spirit, Pavement, Talking Heads, Pixies, Phish, De La Soul, Pulp, Primus, Silver Jews, Medeski Martin & Wood, Cornershop, Kula Shaker, Jurassic 5, Beastie Boys, Radiohead, Luna, Galaxie 500...

Food- I'm open to a lot of things, but being out here I have been able to learn and come to a new appreciation for what an experience good sushi can be like.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I really don't care that much for this question because the answers trend towards being the same thing, so I'll answer a more fun one of my own: Name 6 decrees you'll make once you assume the role of "Dictator of Everything:"

- First off free education, health care, housing and public sponsorship of the arts. I'm definitely a dictator of the benevolent sort.

- Golf? Sorry it's over folks, all existing courses will be converted in time into public parks or however otherwise deemed to be best utilized by locales, and we won't mindlessly waste so much water, just so that people have a nice place to hit and chase a little white ball.

- As much as I value freedom of expression, and the arts in general as described earlier...I couldn't wait to institute my own brand of censorship and black-listing to things that are either awful or lacking any artistic value. I dare to dream of a world devoid of Nickelback, and other monstrosities; my leadership will bring it about.

- To the pets of my people, I have not forgotten about you my furry friends, for I shall end an indignity which too many of you have had to suffer: there will be no more dressing up of dogs and cats in cute outfits SOLELY for the amusement of their human companions! This injustice will end on my watch, full stop.

- These *magical* crosswalks that they have out here in California? Abolished! No more of this. Please Californians, just teach yourselves and others to jaywalk effectively like everyone else in the universe. Out of disorder comes a greater order, I promise.

- Taco Tuesdays! Because seriously, who doesn't want a good taco?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If we can get artificial intelligence to get to feel emotions, will it ever get depressed enough and just turn it's own power off?

Does Bono just feel more generally comfortable in wind tunnels, or is that where he hangs out generally in real life? Did he have one built inside his Irish mansion?

Why does it seem like so many podcasts, which are by far most often consumed in a passive setting, start with some sort of upbeat intro music with some kind of funky bassline or horns section that comes in during the bridge section? (No matter how many times you try Democracy Now!, I'm not going to dance along with you...or at least ever admit to it.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I really don't like this question either, I guess because I'm getting old and the answer gets less exciting over time. Probably just making a tasty meal and watching Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Okay, so I'm a grown man, but I still own/care for some stuffed animals...but I SWEAR I don't play with them - at least as long as my older brother isn't in town.
You should message me if
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I'm looking for someone else like me who is also ready to try to laugh at life, isn't ashamed of their own past or personal peculiarities, has their own life reasonably together, are both extremely patient and understanding, yet are also still able to know when to call someone on their shit when they need it, and all-in-all are looking for something real and mutual in another person.

Or...you want to or something. :)