Hey there , first of all ,if you're too lazy to read all the way to the bottom of the profile and didn't read that I don't want to see any more pictures of you guys and dead fish -consider yourselves notified !! and secondly , If you're on the casual sex tour -just keep movin'!! I'm fun to be around , I can find the ironic-humor in any situation , no matter how dire, I'm self sufficient so I can appreciate a man but not necessarily need him to save me-no clingy girls here . I'm artistic but strangely logical and practical . I enjoy the outdoors . I love to swing dance , but my real favorite is alternative music - I used to listen to WFNX, they will live again....I spend a lot of time making my own clothes and jewelry , mostly because I'm really picky about colors and fit and lets face it - clothes for big girls hasn't been anything but flowered mu-mus and polyester-knit since the 60's , Yuck!! I like museums, the theater-loved the latest cirque de sole' , ballet , movies (not just the chick kind) , silly stuff like a pro-wrestling match , Badminton , Air hockey or a bad B-movie and blue man group . I have done everything from make-up artist on movie sets to a professional dom/SUB , I tend to have more than one job and I work hard to provide for my child , she is 13 and VERY precocious . I currently work as a personal assistant to someone who could make Godzilla cry and I'm surviving it and working on what seems like a never ending mural project for what I like to call a Type A+ personality(sometimes I think I work way too hard for my $) . I also like to use my down time to its fullest since it is sometimes in short supply . As the frosting on the cake - I'm mildly dyslexic so forgive the spelling. We won't even talk about my "other" issues .....

Mostly thinking globally and acting locally . I have at least a small village-worth of people who , in one way or another , depend on me for things as small as a ride somewhere or as large as figuring out the best hospice plan for their loved ones . Sometimes its fun , painting murals for a child's first room or making clothes for someone who is really hard to fit and in the end I get to help them feel beautiful . I'm trying to raise my 13 year old the best that I can and I hope she will grow to be independent , wise , (she's spell-checking for me as we speak )and maintain her sense of humor all of her life . I joined a gym and I've started to take boxing lessons too , no reason a girl shouldn't know how to throw (or dodge) a decent punch ;)My Native name used to be "She who bares the weight of the village on her shoulders". It has recently been changed by the People to "Stands-with-a-killer-right-cross".

Artistic endeavors , I was an art-major and I enjoy creating beautiful things . I rebuilt my home after we had a house fire 11 years ago . I did every thing , hanging doors , painting , installing light fixtures . I enjoy cooking and do catering and bar tending for private parties , I love to hear people making yummie noises about something I've made .I recently started target shooting with hand guns as a hobby and I've been told I'm scary good at it ,Grammy always said a women should know how to play poker , mix a decent drink and shoot a gun accurately , guess I'm just keeping up the family tradition! And most importantly , I'm a great cheerleader - I listen to and support my friends whenever they need me to (that's not the same as agreeing with them , BTW).

That I don't look even close to being 41 , all of my profile pictures are a year old ! My coloring , people notice the almost black hair and eyes I was lucky enough to inherit from my Native American Grammy and my glow-in-the-dark ,whiter than white skin from my Irish Nana . Sometimes my hair has a few streaks of pinball machine light Red or Purple or even Turquoise in it .

I read way too many how to and referance books , I was told as a child that I could learn to do anything and for the most part its turned out to be true . I love live music ,art shows ,almost any of the performing arts , with the exception of mimes - can't stand em' , they're creepy....

My child and closest friends, my books , access to a kitchen and art supplies , fresh air , and music .(I kinda count my closest friends as family I've chosen or was lucky enough to be chosen by and so include them in with my kid as the most important "things")

Lately that the quality of the whos in my life are far higher than the whats in my life and that that's really ok with me . How many whos in my life need me more than I need them and how many I just want in my life .What do they add to my quality of life or drain from my life .

Working like mad or hanging out with close friends and maybe imagining what if ....

I just cut my hair , its shoulder length now . It was a symbolic rejection of a toxic long term relationship coming to an end and dumping all of the oldest most contaminated things around me including the oldest parts of me .

You don't mind that my husband still lives in my house in separate rooms as roommates for tax and financial purposes and our child can spend the maximum time with both of us . Just as a heads-up , I got off the Drama-go-round a while ago , I'm too tall to ride that ride anymore and you should be too if you're interested in me . No Green Card inquiries please ! Anyone with an action figure collection , keep moving. And Please , for the love of all that's unholy , Stop sending me pictures of yourselves with dead fish !! I don't care how big they are!!
Yea , that was long , give yourself a pat on the back for me !