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34 F Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Straight men only
  • Ages 27–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:46pm
Middle Eastern, White
5′ 0″ (1.52m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I am what I do.
What I’m doing with my life
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Music, dance, theater, voice acting, teaching. Learning how to write a killer grant proposal.

I should probably say that while I'm a pretty playful person, I'm also quite serious about what I do. I'm happiest when I am busy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at connecting with people, fixing stuff, cooking, stories, learning languages, forgetting languages.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I can talk to anybody about anything.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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alice contrane, iggy pop, rushdie, phillip glass, calvino, mingus, jim jarmusch, milton, david bowie, salinger, huysmans, jaco pastorius, leibniz, pharaoh sanders, carl sagan, john donne, miles davis, david foster wallace, miranda july, piazzolla, bradbury, stephen fry, fritjof capra, jared diamond, sci-fi (and sci-fact) in all its forms.

Long music story short: In recent years, my active listening has pretty much collapsed to different varieties of jazz and contemporary classical. I'm not anti-pop/indie, but I usually won't know all the bands a person my age is supposed to get excited about.

And noodles. All the noodles of the world.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My unconditionally loving family, friends who make weird noises, good walking/hiking shoes, working, lively conversation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm often with friends at a performance of some kind. Or just with friends. Or sometimes not with friends. I like to maintain a healthy fun time to quiet time ratio.
You should message me if
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... you enjoy physical activity. (Hiking, anyone?)
... you totally dig learning new stuff.
... you want more than a hook-up. Seriously. No hook-ups, no couples.
... you value compassion.
... you are OK that I make no room for religion and spirituality in my life.