It sounds hyperbolic. Feel free to interpret that as metaphorically or literally as you will.
Long profile. It is mostly me being neurotic about nuance and still not getting it right.
Im not into law enforcement. I think im not competitive. Gallows humor appreciated if youre not being an asshole while doing it.
Im gender-queer. I always dress in drag.
I prefer to date queers of all genders as it feels important for me to be comfortable. Though I am not outright excluding folks if they are not queer.
I think what I am really trying to get at by saying this is because I have certain perceptions about my own identity and body I desire for others to not have certain expectations of either of those things.
I am hesitant about people who have a body type preference for their lovers, even if your preference is for my body type. I like to be thought of as attractive by people I romantically esteem certainly, but I dont like that to be a part of some sort of body script I am supposed to fit into. I don't think all preferences fall under this category necessarily - we like what we like and there is, fortunately or unfortunately, not always a lot of controlling that. This is just something to keep in mind when considering pursuing interactions with me.
I guess that a vague exception is if you like something really weird, I feel likely to be into that.
I don't care about "bad" grammar, "bad" spelling, or
academic qualifications. I mean, do what you do and if its empowering that is sincerely really great, but I have a hard time believing that those kinds of things make one better or more exciting than other folks. It bugs me if you think other people are stupid.
I historically I have listed atheism as an identifier but thats not exactly currently true. It is true to say that as a child and adolescent I lived in a very spiritual home where I didnt really feel affinity with most aspects of the spiritualities I was exposed to aside from the community mindedness that came along with it.
I came up as a late adolescent and early adult in punk-anarcho-atheist scenes. As of late I have been questioning atheism and its role in colonialism, white supremacy, and "progress" I think that spirituality is a nice idea that I dont really know how to enact in my life. Religion and atheism might be more strongly similar than spirituality is to either of those things. Maybe I am culturally atheist though that is kind of sad to say. I am not agnostic, though I admit I don't know.
Working all of this out.
I, in theory, date multiple people. Though I am not really actively trying to date at the moment, more open to falling into situations. Im sort of doing other stuff at the right now.
I just got out of a sort of heart-break situation with someone who had monogamous tendencies and that was dysfunctional. So anyways, if youre not open to hanging out with, running into, hearing about the other people I may or may not be dating then we should definitely definitely not date.
I am married and fluid-bonded respectively. These relationships are really important to me. Not that there is not space for other relationships in my life, but these take precedence for me at the moment.
I dont want to have unprotected sex with you. I recently compromised my commitment to myself and my fluid-bonded date and I feel not-so-good about myself for that. Not looking to do that again without intention.
Talking about statuses and testing is very important as well. Regardless of what my status might be, regardless of what your status might be I strive towards and require honesty, compassion, kindness and above all respect toward one another during these conversations. I attempt to offer these things of myself and expect them from others towards me when talking about STI status.
I am more concerned with serial monogamists who assume that they are "clean" (barf #awfullanguage) than intentional sluts with confirmed STIs.
I am actually super disappointed when I see people discussing this briefly and callously in their profiles. "I'm DD free and would like to stay that way kthnx" Is fucking rude. What an awful way to talk about STI statuses which is something actually emotionally and physically impacts so many lives. Don't be that person.
Im an anarchist and a feminist
Body and sex positive. DIY, Poly
I appreciate a complex analysis of oppression - not
just class struggle and war on the state. I fully support both of these things but desire a dedicated interest in intersections of oppression and struggle. Kyriarchy.
I have a lot of things to say about myself and a lot of buzz words that are a part of that.
I used to be a little worried about this but I find myself caring less and less as I seek to hold those identities in ways that are really personal. I use them to see myself in contrast to the environments around me, to identify myself with people who I have chosen as my peers/friends/community/scene/whatever while also making those labels flexible. This means Im more looking to figure out what words mean to me, regarding myself, and trying to care less what they mean to others, though what others think does matter to me, Im currently working out how to hold these things I a way that is functional.
It follows that any of the words I use here might give you closer to the wrong idea than what I consider to be the right idea of who I think I am. Seems that even if I use the same words as someone else to self-describe it doesn't mean we are going to agree or get one another.
I think the world can hold a number of contradictory truths at the same time. Lets talk about it? Whatever "it" is.
Not particularly militant, in some ways, though I would not say I have a high level of tolerance for folks supporting certain aspects of dominant culture or other extreme or moderate politics that stand in contrast to mine.
Im kinky and or interested in hanging with more asexual folks. Yeah sexuality is complicated. I dont care if mine makes sense to you or not.
This profile is sort of aggressive. I am just having a hard time bring myself to care about anything at the moment. Charming, I know. Doesn't it just make you want to ask me on a date! I swear I am nicer in person most of the time. Interfacing with a glowing screen doesn't inspire me to present some of the best parts of myself.