Individuals who self describe as nice guys, good guys, or "drama free" (insert those annoying sentiments regardless of gender) need not apply. Also if you say you don't like TV and "like haven't owned a TV in years" - I find that profoundly annoying, especially when followed by a list of TV shows you watch on the Internet.
I think its just untrue and not possible to spend a lot of time thinking about "everything" - its one of my least favorite non-answers on this site. Additionally, answering "I'm an open book" or the like to the 'most private thing I'm willing to admit' section is also a statement that I would put in the same non-answer category. However, I recently I read someone's profile who said they would admit anything and nothing was private followed by some things they said were hard to admit. I respected that, many things are hard to admit.
Don't say you want a partner in crime unless you're actually looking for that and if you're looking for that look elsewhere: I don't know you and won't commit crimes with you.
In other news
I have a lot of things to say about myself and a lot of buzz
words that I use to describe me. I used to be a little worried about this but I find myself caring less and less. Some of these words might mean something different to me than they do to you. They might give you closer to the wrong idea than what I consider to be the right idea of who I think I am. I believe that even if I use the same words as someone else to self-describe it doesn't mean we are going to agree or get one another. That being said, below is an ever growing list of some ways I see myself.
Some things about me:
I like your partner(s)
Im not into law enforcement
I am not competitive
Im an anarchist and a feminist, anarcha-fem. Def
A friend of mine recently stated in her profile, "*I think
it's annoying that it's currently necessary to specify atheism and feminism outside of anarchism." Word. I see how this statement (in terms of atheism) could be problematic. It is still a way that I feel even while i recognize that others are not fucked up necessarily for having beliefs to the contrary. I think the world can hold a number of contradictory truths at the same time. Lets talk about it? Having said that I do date and socialize with spiritual folks.
I appreciate a complex analysis of oppression - not
just class struggle and war on the state. I fully support both of these things but desire a dedicated interest in intersections of oppression and struggle. Kyriarchy.
Not particularly militant, though I would not say I have a
high level of tolerance for folks supporting certain aspects of dominant culture.
I think its strange when people don't like children. How are you not going to like an entire class of people indiscriminately? Questionable...
Also if you dislike small dogs, personally but especially politically. Your shitty politics make no sense. BUT FOR REAL.
Body and sex positive. DIY, Poly
While I identify as anti-civ I am not working towards pre or post-civ world. I am not trying to advocate for mass-die-off/eugenics nor trying to advocate for a noble savage sort of mentality - things probably always sucked/do suck. In addition to identifying as anti-civ in that it feels the best for my mental and emotional health (even as I realize that we are where we are and dealing with the realities of that leave us with different goals than that the one of no civ) I also spend a lot of time thinking about the intersection between technology, bodies and identities. I dont feel aligned with ideas of transhumanism but I am interested in becoming educated about the realities of how technology impacts our bodies, identities and experiences. I think the idea of some humans as inherently cyborgs is a really interesting one.
Im queer - not lesbian, or bi which I
consider to be gender exclusive at best - though I do understand when I hear others talk about its usefulness. I dont really care if you're bi, Im just not sure you have thought about what that term indicates about what you think about other people's gender(s).
Im gender-queer. I always dress in drag.
I prefer to date queers of all genders as it feels important for me to be comfortable. Though I am not outright excluding folks if they are not queer.
I think what I am really trying to get at by saying this is that because I have certain perceptions about my own identity and body I desire for others to not have expectations of either of those things.
I don't care about "bad" grammar, "bad" spelling, or
academic qualifications. I mean, do what you do and if its empowering that is sincerely really great, but I have a hard time believing that those kinds of things make one better or more exciting than other folks. It bugs me if you think other people are stupid.
I am actively and currently seeing other people. Some of those people have a high priority in my life. I dont have a lot of time to share.
Im femme. So fucking deal with it.
It really annoys me when people use the word "clean" to describe whether they have STIs or not. I think it contributes to stigma and isolation of folks who are by comparison "dirty"(?) I try to work to figure out different language and new ways of framing concepts around this.
Im opposed to a lot of things. Sorry to be a fucking buzz kill but I dont really care about enabling you to be a toolbox. Not usually in a mean way, usually in an assertive conversation way. Sometimes not though.
Im not vegan. Not opposed to veganism (why, some of my best friends are vegan!) and often eat vegan but I think it is worth mentioning that I eat meat intentionally and on purpose.
I think a lot about the way I live and interact with others.
Being intentional is important.
I like to talk about sex - like our sex that we have together.
I think it is important. If we cant talk about sex, we probably shouldnt be having it.
My stories are often tangential and anti-climactic. I l dont
see this as a problem. I recently read this: TMI = life at its
fullest. I agree.
I work a lot and its kind of a bummer
I like to dance and party. And dance. And yeah, dance.
Not really into drinking all that much and I am not often intoxicated or tipsy. I prefer that we be able to share those moments in that we can choose to have them together. If being intoxicated is more of a compulsion than a choice I dont think that it would work well for us to hang out long term. Which is fine too.
I really like to make things: art, crafts, clothes (poorly), food. Lately I have been making vinegar, hard cider, kombucha (always) and I just started some kefir. My housemate and I are going to make kefir icecream in our friends icecream maker.
I think I am really nice, I believe others think this as well.
my fetlife name is 00000000000 (eleven zeros)
Words that might identify me as interesting to some people:
dumpster, free box, femmestache, gender variant, restorative justice, transformative justice, slutty,
intersectionality, social justice, singing, kink,