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29 Portland, OR Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 22
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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What I’m doing with my life
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Striving towards honesty - honesty with myself, honesty with others.

I don't have ambition in the school, career, "stability" sort of a way. I pretty much just want to be what I and some others consider to be a good person and do things that fulfill me and contribute to the people around me when I find people who want that contribution.

Cloning succulents. Going to hot springs and sunbathing.
Lately I have been watching Daria, crafting until 3am, and trying to drink more water.

Fixing up my house and power tooling with degrees of competency depending on the tool and job at hand. I do it regardless and will probably/hopefully not circular saw my fingers off some day.

Currently having a life freak out. Between that and all the other things I do or am trying to stop doing I don't really have a lot of space. I'm having a hard time being present right now. I don't really like it, but it's where I am at.

I have a really awesome job with great people. I guess a job is a job, the people though are truly excellent.

I spend a lot of time trying to contribute to a culture that listens to 'no'. I like to lend what I can to enable and empower myself and others to be able to say no without negative consequences.

I am interested in making latex clothing. Mostly to fuck in and wear to annoying and not so annoying events. Also to dinner with my family. You have to mix it up somehow.

Organizing some, but stepping back.
I have a lot of thoughts about transformative justice, some thoughts about grand juries.

Sometimes I record my voice singing or saying things.

Trying to be alert to my emotions and deal with them in a transparent and appropriate way (though I acknowledge appropriate is a relative label) Interested that in others too. Attempting to be personally accountable for my actions etc...

I hang out with people a lot and have many close long-term relationships that I cherish and contribute time towards.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I try hard at the following things and think I am moderately good at them most times. At the very least they are things I take more than occasional pride in or have often heard from others that they appreciate.

Cleaning up, not stressing out at others, confrontation, having non-goal oriented sex, dancing, super mario brothers world for snes, wearing lots of layers, listening to the same song on repeat for hours, giving props, cuddling hot water bottles, casually wearing fancy dresses, talking about STIs, applying liquid eyeliner.
Probably other stuff.

I am not good at: emailing back the next day - it usually takes me several days, watching a movie, sleeping - I have some body pain that makes that difficult some nights
The first things people usually notice about me
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"You have something right there, hanging from your nose. No, right there. Yeah, that. Oh. Is that a nose ring? Did that hurt?"

My profile was edited by auto-correct and or is missing or repeating random words and my tenses are all mangled.

"You're so posi!"
"It's unattractive when women spit"
"Those are really huge earrings, what are those 162mm?"
"That outfit makes you look like you're from the future"
"Why do you wear so much black?"
"Hey I love your dress!!"
"Was that you singing?"
"I love your hair, is it naturally like that?"
"Subtle but you are totally passable!!"
"Hey baby, I like your...oh that's a fanny pack"
"Did you play basketball in highschool?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I laugh out loud at Get Fuzzy comics.
I can get stuck on /r/funny for hours, it is extremely hit or miss though


Sci-fi, fantasy, non-fiction, some political theory, young adult dystopias, kinky-erotica.

Book candy: Ursula Le Guin, Ender's Game, Harry Potter, Dune, Octavia Butler, Anne Rice, Gail Carriger, Sherri Tepper, Clan of the Cave Bear etc, Stone Butch Blues, Douglas Adams, Lonely Werewolf Girl (and sequels), Kushiel's Dart etc.
Recently have been reading A Song of Ice and Fire and just discovered how hilarious the Discworld novels are!

Inexplicable movie favorites:
Darjeeling Limited: thanks Wes Anderson for sucking me into another sometimes charming, quirky, and visually stunning though not particularly deep film about rich people, odd colonialism, and death. So over it. But actually obviously not.
Rivers and Tides, Labyrinth, Best in Show, Harry Potter, Lost in Translation, Garden State, Fantasia, Kill Bill, Inception, Resident Evil movies, Lord of the Rings, Bring It On.

The L word, Daria, The Office (US), Ace of Cakes, Dark Angel, Firefly.

I really like pop. Notably by "pop" music I mean music that is described as pop (see: Beyonce, Ke$ha, etc) but also catchy songs regardless of genre.
I like some modern and old timey folk, some metal, pop dance remixes, classical, fiddle.
cajun fiddle, banjo, gregorian chants, shape note singing, cello are among my list of long standing loves. I like to chill out and or fuck to post-metal and ambient electronica.

mushrooms, garlic, tangerines, spiced cider, sausage, kale, fresh basil, ice cream, mulled wine, ginger beer, curry paste, coconut milk, miso broth, almond milk, cashews, cupcakes, kombucha, fuji apples, dates, pho, cinnamon, beets, candied ginger, pork, anything with 'blueberry' as an idea, floral flavors and aromas, sticky rice, stouts/porters. coffee.
sweet & savory combos
I'm on again off again with sugar, but when it's on, it's really on. Bring the cake, 3 times a day!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Some things I really would not want to do without:

My glasses
Chosen peers
Counter culture
Dance music
Weird sex
Dental floss
Sci-fi and fantasy escapism
A ridiculous dress
STI tests
My period-cup-thing
A bed I can sleep on

I really like coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time considering integrity.

Feelings and stuff. Politicized bodies and sex, heteronomativity, white supremacy and how I perpetuate those.

Fear, compassion, survival, generosity, my friends, my dates. technology and bodies, money, awesome gear, my house, honesty. How to be more compassionate with myself, how to be more compassionate with others. Holding boundaries.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Fisting to post-metal or working.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Otherwise known as 'the fun facts section'

I like the idea of bromance and am concerned with the concept of frienemies - take what you will from that.
I started drinking coconut water because everyone else was doing it.
I like Christmas music.

I sometimes imagine macing random jerks I overhear in public.
Say some annoying shit:
Its just a fantasy.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you know me already, or we have seen one another around at an event or something and you want to say hi. I love seeing people I know, am acquainted with, or straight up just barely recognize, on this site.

You want to send me a link to your fetlife prof or wanna see mine. Super into that in friends, randos, or people who want to date. Curious!

You are not into the cops, in general.

You're not racist, ableist, sexist, homophobic, heteronormative- relationship seeking, femme phobic, misogynist, transphobic, classist, ageist, if the jokes you make are not at the expense of another group of people, etc... If you care about the language you use.
I really don't expect people to be perfect and I know I am not but I would like for people to be actively and openly (read: interested in) working on all of this stuff.

Write something more than "hi, how are you?" seriously. I block senders of those messages.

You are really really okay with the fact that I might not message back and that this is, most of the time, not personal. I experience a time deficit and have to prioritize accordingly.

You are out about being queer and poly.
You don't require a binary-gender in a person you are dating. Also if you think, from what very little I put out there on the topic, that we might practice compatible styles of polyamory. Also if you are body affirming.

I'm interested in a number of different things that actually don't really matter (a fact I reiterate at the bottom of the page):

You want to play (er, read: teach me how to play) Magic the Gathering.
You are explicitly interested in Dom/sub dynamics in any direction.
You are a feminist switch, which is where most of my experience lies.
You are curious about exploring an asexual romantic relationship together.
You want to try to understand Foucault together.
You are into being fisted.
You want to make large paper mache models of the planets in our solar system with me. Yes, Pluto included.
You want to go winter camping.
You like to play cards
You are kind

I only sincerely care about the last line on that multi-item list and even that can be open to creative interpretation, all of the other things are optional.

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