I sometimes describe myself as confrontational (not to be confused with aggressive) I often think that it comes off as combative in a culture not supportive of confrontation. I think that I come off as combative especially via this profile on the internet.
I often find traction with people via the things I sense we disagree about rather than the things that we already seem to agree on. I like people who I feel affinity and agreement with, but within that I am drawn to explore the things that don't seem to fit or make sense to me. Im curious, why you said that thing you said, why it seems contradictory to another thing you said. I am similarly fascinated and affronted by the things I say and do that are not in alignment with other things I say and do.
Currently looking for photographers to work on a few sexy and/or vanilla projects. Drop me a line if you are interested in hearing about them and possibly taking photographs. I am into hearing about and possibly working on projects you have in mind as well.
Not into fast connections. Don't touch me unless you ask. Seriously, don't fucking touch me. ASK IF YOU CAN TOUCH ME BEFORE YOU DO.
While familiarity is incredibly important to me and takes me a lot of time to develop with someone, warmth and connection come easy enough in any given moment.
Anarchist, feminist, complicated gender, body-positive, sex-positive, kink-friendly, DIY, poly.
I like to think I try hard at compersion. I am not into law enforcement. I don't often feel competitive. Gallows humor appreciated if you are not being an asshole while doing it.
I'm gender-queer. I always dress in drag.
Because I have certain perceptions about my own body and gender I desire for others to not have certain expectations of either of those things. This is not to shut down conversations about gendered dynamics and or invisiblizing privilege.
I am hesitant about people who have a body type preference for their lovers, even if your preference is for my body type.
I don't care about "bad" grammar, "bad" spelling, or your
academic qualifications. I mean, do what you do and if its empowering that is sincerely really great, but I have a hard time believing that those kinds of things make one better or more exciting than other folks. It bugs me if you think other people are stupid.
I am actively and currently seeing other people, this is also to say that my free time is very little.
You should expect to talk openly, if the need arises, with other people in my life.
I am in a relationship with someone who I am fluid-bonded with in a pretty complete way. Barrier sex is what I'm into.
STIs: Testing is cool, I try to do it often. Regardless of what my status might be, regardless of what your status might be I strive towards and require honesty, compassion, kindness and above all respect toward one another during these conversations. I attempt to offer these things of myself and expect them from others toward me when talking about STI status.
I am more concerned with serial monogamists who assume that they are "clean" (barf #awfullanguage) than intentional sluts with confirmed STIs.
I am actually super disappointed when I see people discussing this briefly and callously in their profiles. "I'm DD free and would like to stay that way kthnx" Is fucking rude. What an awful way to talk about STI statuses which is something actually emotionally and physically impacts so many lives. Don't be that person.
I appreciate a complex analysis of oppression - not
just class struggle and war on the state. I fully support both of these things but desire a dedicated interest in intersections of oppression and struggle. Kyriarchy.
I think the world can hold a number of contradictory truths simultaneously. At the same time I wish I employed patience more often and eye-rolling less.
Not particularly militant, in some ways, though I would not say I have a high level of tolerance for folks supporting certain aspects of dominant culture or other extreme or moderate politics that stand in contrast to mine.
I think its strange when people don't like children. How are you not going to like an entire class of people indiscriminately? Questionable...
Not really into drinking all that much and I am not often intoxicated or tipsy.
I really like to make things, mostly in a haphazard kind of a way. Art, crafts, clothes, food. Lately I have been making vinegar, hard cider, kombucha.
I think I am really nice, I believe others think this as well.
my fetlife name is 00000000000 (eleven zeros) Feel free to send me yours.
Concerning kink related labels, Currently and historically I loosely identify as a versatile fluid switch.
I am interested in asexual romantic relationships too so really most of this sex stuff doesn't actually matter unless it is important to you that we might have sex.