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My self-summary
I'm a go-with-the-flow, laid back kind of guy. I think I'm an INTP of the Myers-Briggs Personality Types; I'm an introvert, introspective, and tend to be more of a listener than a talker. I like people who are kind, intelligent, patient, honest, witty, loyal, non-judgmental, open-minded, supportive, considerate, and don't play games; I like to think I have these same qualities. I'm a bit of a geek, maybe (probably) a little dorky sometimes.

To state the obvious: I'm looking for someone to be with. It doesn't matter if we're going out or staying in, I just want to be with someone who wants to care about more than themselves, will let me care about them, and can be honest about what they want. I'm not against finding "just" a friend.

I love music--especially metal, hard rock, and similar genres; my favorite bands are Trivium, Five Finger Death Punch, Katatonia, and Ghost Brigade. It would be absolutely awesome to find someone who would sing along with me and rock out to tunes while we listen to the radio. I'd love to find someone who would play "This World Can't Tear Us Apart" at our wedding. Well, I'm only half serious; I wouldn't want to "ruin" someone's dream of a traditional wedding, but you can't tell me that song wouldn't kick ass.

I watch a lot of TV, movies, and anime. It'd be great if we could lie together, cuddle, and watch something we both enjoy. If you're in to sci-fi, anime, or cartoons (e.g. Archer, Robot Chicken, American Dad, Family Guy, Bob's Burgers) you get major bonus points. I also enjoy reading books and manga. I don't watch reality TV unless I've got nothing better to do and Gordon Ramsay is involved.

I've never done drugs, never been drunk, and that's not going to change; I don't mind what other people do or judge them for it, it's just not for me. That said, if your decisions on what to do and where to go are heavily influenced by how high or how drunk you can get at the locations or events we're considering, then we probably wouldn't be compatible for a long-term relationship. Example: not wanting to eat at Friendly's because you can't get beer there; I mean, come on, have you had their chicken fingers with honey mustard sauce? I [need] that every once in a while.

Tattoos and piercings are a major turn-on. I don't have any (maybe someday), but at this point I consider my dreads a body mod. It's cool if you don't have any; in the end, nothing trumps a smile.

A bit more:

Music has meant a lot to me over the years. Nothing like listening to something really heavy to get you pumped or something mellow when you're down or just want to chill.

I love anime--the stories, the characters, the art style, and the way that the best anime can evoke strong emotions. I like reading manga too, but that's been a more recent development.

I like video games and own a 360, but I don't play a lot. I still have all my other systems packed away somewhere. Occasionally I go to an arcade.

I go to the movie theater 10+ times a year.

I'm interested in writing, photography, and film. Interested, as in I'd like to be doing these things professionally and for fun.

I like card games like Setback, Rummy 500 (or Gin), and Texas Hold'em. Recently I've enjoyed playing Pretend You're Xyzzy (online clone of Cards Against Humanity) and would like to find people who play CAH. I like playing pool and bowling (only played once so far though). I've been thinking about trying indoor rock climbing. I want to buy a recurve bow and targets. I like going to concerts, but I haven't been to many. I'm open to trying new things.

I try to keep up on news, especially on science and technology. My main sources are Google News, Reddit, and Arstechnica. I watch The Daily Show and The Colbert Report. I usually catch the evening news too on CBS, but it's not a priority for me. I take my news with a grain of salt and don't believe Fox News should be taken seriously by anyone.

I lived in California for 2 years, when I was 19-21. I've been to Canada, Belgium, The Netherlands, France, and Germany. I'd like to see more of the world--more of the universe, if there were viable spaceflight options for the average Earthling.

TL;DR: "For the time that I've been given, I am what I am." - 5FDP
What I’m doing with my life
Looks wistfully at the "Hang In There Kitty" poster on the wall. The best I can, kitty, the best I can.
I’m really good at
Procrastinating, I'll tell you more about it later.
The first things people usually notice about me
I imagine it's my hair. That's probably the thing I've received the most compliments for; after that it would be my eyes, my smile, and my butt. Who doesn't like a nice butt? By the way, how many times do you think I can say butt before it starts to sound weird?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: I listen to a few different things. In the guitars and drums vein I like metalcore, melodic death metal, nu metal, gothic metal, industrial metal, alternative rock, post grunge, etc.

There's so many genres it's too hard to list all the ones I like or examples for each. But, my favorite CD for a while has been Viva Emptiness by Katatonia. Some of my favorite bands are Trivium, Five Finger Death Punch, Katatonia, Ghost Brigade, Soilwork, Killswitch Engage, Mudvayne, Stone Sour, Rise Against, and so many more.

In another vein I like Industrial, EBM, synthpop, and futurepop. Last Man Standing by Fr/action is a very good and interesting CD that falls under futurepop.

Finally, there's other Electronica genres like lounge music, downtempo, trip hop, trance, IDM, and nu jazz. Favorite CD yet to be picked, but let's say Ki-Oku by Toshinori Kondo & DJ Krush for now.

I listen to a lot of music on Music Choice's metal channel (sometimes the rock channel too) and through Pandora (especially when I'm driving).

Books: The Bourne series, Arkady Renko series, Robotech, Ice Station Zebra, The Towers of The Sunset, Red Badge Of Courage, Anthem, Job: A Comedy Of Justice, and Soon I Will Be Invincible.

Manga: Naruto, Psyren, Cage of Eden, Gantz, Veritas, Chikan Otoko, and Onanie Master Kurosawa, The Breaker, Btooom!, City of Dead Sorcerer, and Tower of God.

Anime: Death Note, all things mecha (Gundam, Eureka 7), Psycho Pass, Steins;gate, and Wolf's Rain.

Movies: Lord of the Rings, Nolan's Batman Trilogy, The Negotiator, Vendetta, eXistenZ, Lone Hero, The Untouchables, Training Day, A Knight's Tale, Full Metal Jacket, Gattaca, Gladiator, Gone in 60 Seconds, The Great Sinner, The Game, and Frailty.

TV (currently airing or due to return): Game of Thrones, The Walking Dead, Marvel's Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., The Blacklist, Person of Interest, The Newsroom, Supernatural, Castle, Falling Skies, Continuum, Warehouse 13, Suits, Sleepy Hollow, Robot Chicken, Family Guy, American Dad!, and Archer.

Foods: Pizza (preferably just a really good pepperoni pizza or Hawaiian BBQ chicken) or other Italian food. I also like Asian food like orange chicken, pepper steak, and roast pork lo mein. I like trying new things, but I'm no Andrew Zimmern. If it's pumpkin flavored, I will try it--nay, I must try it.
The six things I could never do without
There are two main ways to answer this question, through materialism or emotion. Three, if you make a mix of the two. Four, if you want to go the ultra-literal route (food, water, air, etc.). Five, if you examine the question instead of or in addition to answering it.

I've tried answering this a few of those ways, but it's back to basics this time.

1) Glasses
2) Music
3) Computer/Internet
4) TV
5) Movies
6) Books

Technically I only need 1 & 3, because you can find 2, 4, and 5 online. I go to the library for 6, but even books are becoming fairly well digitized. There may be a Kindle in my future, but I'm waiting to see what kind of new tablets will come out first - no iPad, thanks.

A) Love
B) Meaning/purpose
C) Camaraderie
D) Amusement

Didn't get a full 6 for this list, oh well.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Various things and nothing, the mundane and the profound--this and that, as it were.

Myself--it's not narcissism, it's introspection.
Fantasies--stories I want to write. You didn't think I meant something else, did you?
The world--did you know it's not a perfect sphere, but more of an oblate spheroid? It's a bit pear shaped as well; the ol' girl's got some hips.
Love--sure would be swell if I had some.
Sex--it's actually just a myth that men think about sex once every 7 seconds. I'm sure I just went at least 8 seconds.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing the same thing we do every night, Pinky, trying to take over the world!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been spanked on more than one occasion and I liked it.

Oh, and I kind of like DDR, even though my average at the end of all stages has never been higher than a B on Light Mode.
You should message me if
If you think we might be simpatico. Even though I'm here and hoping to find something, I find myself not sending a lot of messages. If you want to talk, don't wait on me; the guy doesn't always have to make the first move.

I'm more interested in starting a relationship, but I wouldn't turn down a friendship.