Even though it seems like a trial at times
The path is full of twists, turns and mystery
One never knows what the lady has in store
And the ride is seldom dull
What goes out to sea comes back on the tide
when you least expect it
A happy treasure in a field of sand -LM
And, I mean every word of that!
I recently moved from Oakland to Vallejo. I don't know how long I will stay here, but it's working for now. I still spend a great deal of time in Oakland, Berkeley, Emeryville, Alameda, etc. And some in the city and peninsula so pretty much anywhere in the bay area is workable for me.
I have a regular client up near Mendocino / Fort Bragg and am living up there as much as half the month. I am smitten with the Northern California Coast, always have been so I am really enjoying spending so much time there. So who knows, although OKCupid seems to have very slim pickings up that way. I would love to connect with other musicians up there also!
And now, I’m just going to throw random facts, thoughts and quotes at you. Duck or catch, that’s up to you!
Chase the sun around the world
I want to look at life
In the available light -Neil Peart
--I am indeed , "bigger than a bread basket." I am however, much smaller than a linebacker, and much more lady-like!
--I'm attracted to honesty, humor and kindness and people who are comfortable with their uniqueness!
--I have a generous number of amazing friends, I can call, “close.”
--I see very few things as black or white. I see many things as shades of purple!
I am perplexed by finding out so many people I'd be interested in dating have had crushes on me, but are afraid to ask me out. I find it hard to believe I am that intimidating, but there it is. *sigh*
--I was born blonde Now most days I sport a much more colorful look.
I own a specialty pet care business.
I also do personal organizing, interior design and tarot readings.
I'm a vocalist, an artist, a writer and occasionally, an actress.
I hand-craft soap and perfumes.
In the past among other things, I've had my own mobile bar, worked in restaurants, art galleries, was a licensed optician, a barista, worked for a bankruptcy trustee, and a veterinary assistant.
I love what I do and I'm really good at it!
--I only speak English and “Sailor,” fluently. Despite my frequent use of expletives, however, I could wash my mouth out with soap & clean up for tea with the queen (or your mom) in a pinch. I know what's appropriate.
---I am pretty much an open book, but some of the pages are meant to remain a mystery until I find the right reader.
--I may message you if I like your profile, even if I don’t think we are compatible, If you message me, sincerely, I will respond.
--I have 2 guitars, but don't know how to play them. (This is on my "to learn" list.)
--I have had a boyfriend and a girlfriend. (at the same time even) A side note-I have had successful polyamorous relationships. I consider myself bisexual, but haven't met the right woman for a while.
--I've never been to New York City or Las Vegas!
--I want to visit ; Spain, Portugal, New Zealand, Greece, Egypt, Morocco, Turkey, Scotland, & Costa Rica.
Why I’m here:
--My friends nagged me into it.
--“New friends and activity partners.” Yeah. I like that description.
--I'd love to meet some compatible men for dating.
I am not interested in first date sex, casual hook ups or one night stands! Repeat I am not interested in first date sex, casual hook ups or one night stands! In case you missed that I am not interested in first date sex, casual hook ups or one night stands!
--I am open to just having some fun, but I want to get to know who I'm intimate with. I'm interested in seeing someone regularly if I like them.
--I'm not actively looking for the BIG relationship, but if the right one comes along I'm ready for commitment!
--I'd love to meet someone who will introduce me to new things and share some of the things I love.
I'm focusing on moving more slowly when it comes to new people. I like sex, a lot. Moving too quickly in the past has impaired my judgement and wasted my time. Sometimes I make a point to go slower when there is definite chemistry. I may not even kiss you on the first date. This doesn't mean I move at a glacial pace but it means I want to get to know someone and have a bit of genuine affection and build some trust first. That leads to better sex anyway.
--And yes, I have answered a lot of the questions about sex on OKC, but privately because they're none of your business until we start to get to know each other.
I like a lot of things! However; DISLIKE:
--People who make promises they can't /won't follow through on
--Narcissism & Arrogance
--Disrespect (this is not the same as irreverence)
--Judgmental attitudes; bigotry, cruelty, injustice, religious extremists and those who try to force their beliefs on others.
And, Dating Site DISLIKES:
--Messages with generic content, "hi" or some brief comment. I will just block you and move on.
--ARE YOU INTO? (fill in age, ethnicity or fetish here) questions as an opener. YAWN
--Married (not separated) men asking me out. when it is not a consensual poly situation.
---Men whose profile pictures are obscured, just torso shots, have a bunch of shots with women hanging on their arm and no explanation, I mean what the? Also when every profile picture of you is you on a mountain, in front of a famous world monument or doing sporting activities it makes you look like a bit of a braggart and also as i you expect me to do all these extreme sporting adventures with you. Nyet!
Which brings me to this. I am a soft and curvy gal. Some days I wish I could change things about my body but I've accepted my limitations and that it's unlikely I will ever be skinny again. I'm ok with that. I am not motivated to join a gym. So if you are looking for a workout buddy or someone to go running , biking, skiing, climbing, jumping out of a plane with, I am not your gal. I am game for most anything else and not only sedentary things; travel, getting out in nature, dancing, movies, restaurants, libraries, museums, live music, volunteering, brainy things, riding on the back of your motorcycle.....that stuff, I'm in.
--The questions on here! Oy! They always have either/or answers, especially when it comes to sexual compatibility. Yes, I occasionally like to have my hair pulled during "sexy times" but the question only asks me if I love it or hate it. I am kinda with Mae West about most things in life, "I'll try anything once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure." It all comes down to 1) chemistry) 2) Communication 3) Really knowing your partner 4) Trust!