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25 Vancouver, British Columbia, CA Woman, Non-binary

Woman, Non-binary

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 28
Bisexual, Pansexual, Queer, Sapiosexual
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Graduated from university
Seeing Someone
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello, lovely okcupid-goers!

Let's see...I'm reasonably badass. I like sunshine, and crazy flavors of ice cream, and media with gratuitous violence. I'm into creative chaos, dice with too many sides, long books, craft beer, getting lost on purpose, and world class level kitten spooning. I also enjoy creating improbable back-stories for people taking public transit.

Disclaimer: I am poly. I have a female partner of four years who is a large factor in my life although we do not currently consider ourselves to be dating, and a ridiculously awesome boyfriend-person of roughly a year. I am not currently in a "primary-style" relationship but am pretty happy with how things are going in my life. So what am I looking for? Friends. Lovers. Cohorts. Collaborators. How am I supposed to categorize you when I haven't even met you yet?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now, I coordinate service for security-related systems in the healthcare industry.

It’s actually pretty cool – they’re essentially paying me to solve extremely high liability resource puzzles, and I get to actually do some good, too.

There's still a slight chance I'll scrap everything, listen to all those prophesies, and just be a goddamn superhero already.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Maybe you?
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I read a lot. I tend to like existentialist philosophy, re-imagined fairy tales, non-linear story lines, transhumanism, and huge goopy amounts of symbol.
Bookage: -Shakespeare (in full on fangirl ways) -The Master and Margarita -China Mieville -The Children's Hospital by Chris Adrian -Tolkien -Vellum by Hal Duncan -Neil Gaiman -Ovid's Metamorphoses -The Satanic Verses by Salman Rushdie -Who Fears Death by Nnedi Okorafor -Deathless by Catherynne M. Valente -Dianna Wynne Jones -Angela Carter -The Magicians by Lev Grossman -Frankenstein -Wicked -Trickster Makes This World -Mr. Fox by Helen Oyeyemi -The Rook by Daniel O'Malley -The Temeraire series by Naomi Novik
Graphic Novels: -Akira -Ex Machina -Sandman -Watchmen -The Arrival -Scott Pilgrim
Poetry: -Neruda -Rumi

Movies: Just don't make me watch reality TV and we're prooobably good to go. I go in for a lot of animation.
Examples: -Studio Ghibli (Princess Mononoke, Spirited Away) -Guillermo del Toro (Pan's Labyrinth, The Orphanage) -Hugo -The Lion King -I'm a Cyborg, But That's OK -The Beguiled -Inception -Wall-E -Wreck It Ralph -Birdman

Shows: -Firefly -Carnivale -Buffy -Avatar: The Last Airbender -Mad Men -Community -Dexter -Deadwood -Higurashi no Naku Koro Ni -Sherlock -Arrested Development -Gravity Falls -Misfits -Pushing Daisies -Orange is the New Black -My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic -Dollhouse -Raising Hope

Music: I tend to go for complexity-per-second type songs, if that makes sense. I also think well layed bass lines are sexy as hell.
Examples: -Blitzen Trapper -Blue Roses -The Decemberists -The Dresden Dolls -Hybrid -Jesca Hoop -Kimbra -Massive Attack -Metric -My Brightest Diamond -Phantogram -The Gorillaz -Two Gallants -Warpaint -Wye Oak -The Yeah Yeah Yeahs

Games: -MTG -Glory to Rome -Flashpoint -Catan -Small World -Ticket to Ride -Scrabble -King of Tokyo -ALL THE BOARDGAMES REALLY, just introduce me to your favorite; -nWoD -Anima; -Disgaea -The World Ends With You -BlazBlue -Pokemon

Food: Uhh... macaroni and cheese or mashed potatoes. Sushi! Desserts, if that isn't a given. Indian, Italian, Mexican... Mangoes. Cinnamon buns--Cinnamon anything, really. Vanilla. Cayenne. Goat cheese. Chai spices. PUMPKINS. Little tiny tomatoes. Pistachios.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My friends and lovers, which is possibly corny but absolutely true
2. Books
3. Hot beverages--Quality tea is absolutely essential, and I also love coffee
4. Sex (this isn't in order by the way)
5. My fuzzy babies Blackberry and Jam
6. The moment you realize you've bitten off slightly more than you can chew, and the subsequent moment where you realize you don't care
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Aleatoricism--It's not a religion or anything in spite of the -cism. Look it up if you like pretty words.

Dreams. Souls of places. Games theory. Cyborgs. Intrigue. Noise. Quiet spots. The past, the present. People, animals, and gods. Private mythologies. Masks behind faces. Doppelgangers. Jelly-Belly flavours. Bloody kisses. Heavens and hells, and all things in between.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Really I'm a mixed bag, and quite bad at having patterns. I like social board-gaming and sometimes host that or Disney nights. I'm happy going out and grabbing fancy beers or staying home for cuddles and netflix and a homemade meal.

Next Friday, I'm free*.

*May not actually be free
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I was little, I had imaginary invisible horses.

My twitter account is @Messy_Muse . Click if you dare. Be prepared for random furry references and lots of dad puns and cat pictures, basically (so, it's entirely representative).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you want to and you aren't sure you should. =)

Note however that I'm NOT looking for casual sex--That's why I didn't tick the box. If I like you and we have chemistry sex isn't off the table...It might even be on a table... Sexy friends=<3. But I'm not really into the whole one night stand thing. I like being at least friendly with my food.

I also like friends without ANY sexiness thrown into things! So you should message me if you're into that, too, you oddball kinky freak. ^^

You MUST be:
-Ok with polyamory (and if you have questions, please don’t hesitate to ask)
-Able to convey yourself well via text
-Willing to put up with my occasionally being too skittish to go out without taking it too personally (I have intermittent social anxiety which, unfortunately, sometimes makes itself a factor)

Also, if you are one of the following I might well swoon:
-A sultry red-head or a big-eyed, innocent-seeming brunette
-A geek, aesthete, or anyone who gets really into what they love
-An iconoclast
-Someone willing to mess around with preconfig relationship settings