Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy

metaphorge

41 Oakland, CA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Feb 11
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Native American, White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Dislikes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I grew up in rural Tennessee, though as you can see from the profile, I'm not a typical Tennessee-native. I'm queer (or bisexual, though I don't really like that word), polyamorous, pretty kinky, and an esoteric Discordian. I'm looking to meet like-minded freaks and geeks for fun, stimulation, guerrilla surrealism and world domination.

I waffle between being an INTJ and an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs depending on the particular questionnaire.

I like toys. A lot.

I love travel and would like to spend a lot more time in Eastern Europe.

I'm militantly agnostic.

I believe very strongly in science but don't have quite as much confidence in its results being reported without cultural bias.

I'm a pragmatist and enjoy political discussions that focus on nuts-and-bolts details over grand theory. I have strong anarchist sympathies, but in practice I'm more of a European-style social democrat than anything else. I'll agree that the government pretty much sucks, but tell me how you want to handle hospitals, power, sewage and water treatment before you advocate abolishing it.

I'm fascinated by propaganda and rhetoric.

I am currently involved in long-term relationships (with haileris and darkmoon, BTW, in case you're curious) and am not specifically looking for romantic entanglement, but then again, I wasn't looking for them, either. My relationships tend to grow organically from shared passions and pursuits, intellectual, political and spiritual.

If you're looking for a monogamous relationship I'm not your person; however, I'm not using this service only to look for "hook-ups".

In any case, we're looking for new friends close by, as we don't have that many friends that live in the East Bay.

I love people and need a constant supply of fresh opinions and insights for my brain to work optimally, so if this brief profile piques your interest, yes, I'd love to have coffee and conversation. OKCupid has done a good job of exposing me to people I don't come across in my other online and real-world social outlets.

I am specifically seeking more local queer co-conspirators. I tend to not care for people that have extreme gender performances, preferring a degree of androgyny and gender dysphoria. I personally identify as genderqueer.

I have found OKCupid to be uncannily accurate in predicting romantic and social compatibility, so if you've got high matches with me I'll probably enjoy your company.

I am quixotic, playful, and intense
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After spending close to a decade working in various tech-related fields I'm in the process of a career change. I'm endeavoring to chart the course to becoming a hybrid of Joseph Campbell and Andy Warhol, with a dash of Wile E. Coyote thrown in for good measure. In less poetic terms terms, I'm trying to draw a bead on precisely where in the soup of academia my research interests would end up being labelled; as near as I can tell, it's somewhere between sociology, cultural anthropology and communications. (My previous academic background is in communications and political science.)

I'm particularly interested in the societal and legal ramifications of copyright and intellectual property, especially in the chilling effect that the [mis}use of IP laws has had on public discourse. I'm not sure I have quite enough drive to do the law school thing, but, considering my interests, it's an attractive option.

I enjoy conventions and conferences, and have presented on using illegal art, culture jamming, and memetic piggybacking as strategies to pursue social change at venues as diverse as EsoZone in Portland, Oregon, the Chaos Communications Conference in Berlin, Germany, and Pantheacon in San Jose, CA.

haileris and I run discordian.com and put on Kallisticon, a Discordian gathering every summer in the Bay Area.

In the meantime I do contract computer work to pay the bills.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
communication and mediation... I'm a big fan of seeking consensus and win-win scenarios. I'm good at comforting people when they're upset or distressed. I'm a decent photographer, and I am often told that I am witty.

I'm becoming increasingly impressed at my ability to integrate disparate ideas in new and interesting ways.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
the long, single dreadlock hanging from the right side of my head; my dark chocolate eyes, my penchant for wearing black-and-white stripes, camouflage, and bright orange; and, lately, my glasses (I just got them earlier this year).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Fiction: Authors: Douglas Adams, Mark Z. Danielewski, Cory Doctorow, Umberto Eco, Warren Ellis, Neil Gaiman, Madeleine L'Engle, H. P. Lovecraft, Henry Miller, Alan Moore, Chuck Palahniuk, Neal Stephenson, Robert Anton Wilson

Titles: Cryptonomicon, Foucault's Pendulum, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, House of Leaves, The Invisibles, The 9-11 Commission Report, Promethea, Sandman, The Televisionary Oracle, Transmetropolitan, The Witching Hour

Non-Fiction: Authors: Susie Bright, James Burke, Joseph Campbell, Thorne Coyle, Richard Dawkins, Jared Diamond, Stephen Hawking, Alfred Kinsey, Lydia Lunch, Anais Nin, Ken Wilber

Titles: A Brief History of Time, Evolutionary Witchcraft, The Hero with a Thousand Faces, Linked: How Everything is Connected and What It Means

Films & Video: Creators: Antero Alli, Greg Araki, Tim Burton, Chiaki Konaka, Chris Carter, Sofia Copia, Terry Gilliam, Jim Henson, Alfred Hitchcock, Spike Jonze, Charlie Kaufman, Stanley Kubrick, Richard Linklater, George Lucas, David Lynch, Hayao Miyazaki, Godfrey Reggio, M. Night Shyamalan, Kevin Smith, Orson Welles, Robert Zemeckis

Titles: Airplane!, Battlestar Galactica (the new series), Being John Malkovich, The Dark Knight, Dogma, Fight Club, FLCL, The Last Supper, Lola Rennt, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Lost, Lost in Translation, The Matrix Trilogy, The Maxx, The Muppet Show, Neon Genesis Evangelion, The Nightmare Before Christmas, The Princess Bride, Powaqqatsi, Serial Experiments Lain, Star Wars, Timecode, 12 Monkeys, Twin Peaks, Unbreakable, Vertigo, Waking Life, When Harry Met Sally, The X-Files

Music: Aphex Twin, Belly, Blondie, Goran Bregovic, Boards of Canada, CURVE!, Ann Danielewski (POE), DJ Danger Mouse, The Dresden Dolls, Danny Elfman, Phillip Glass, LADYTRON!, Lords of Acid, Massive Attack, MC Lars, Dan the Automator Nakamura and his numerous projects (Deltron 3030, The Gorillaz, Handsome Boy Modeling School, Lovage), The Pixies, Plaid, Psychic TV, Public Enemy, Radiohead, Rasputina, Nina Simone, Siouxsie & the Banshees, Sleater-Kinney, Underworld, U.N.K.L.E.

Food: I'm an omnivore and I like a bit of everything, but my favorite cuisines are Afghani Indian, Middle Eastern, and Thai. I also greatly appreciate good sausages, deli sandwiches, sushi and New York-style pizza.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I really hate this question, and refused to answer it for the first four years I had an account here... the things I could NOT do without are pretty boring satisfiers of the lower areas of Maslow's hierarchy.

So, I'm going to answer this question with six things I'd PREFER not to do without:

my lovers, my colleagues, my music collection, my toys, my laptop, the Internet

I'm tempted to say something broader like "art" or "science" but that almost feels like cheating. I might as well say "the world".

Did I mention that I hate this question? ;D
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
agnosticism, archetypes, communication theory, cryptography, culture jamming, discordianism, evolutionary biology, feri tradition, gender dysphoria, gender roles, memetics, myths, network theory, politics, postmodernism, pragmatism, propaganda, queerness, rhetoric, semiotics, social engineering, transhumanism, to name just a few broad classifications.

I wish more people would thoroughly examine their own gender, racial, sexual and social privelege, and spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to make this happen.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
discussing and debating a wide range of philosophical and technical subjects with friends over alcoholic or caffeinated (or preferably both) drinks; attending some mostly uncategorizable art event, or dancing. I like to dance; you can find me at raves or industrial or mash-up club nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If I admit it here, it's not private any more, is it? While I'm fascinated by recursion I don't think that there's any positive ending for the spiraling paradox this question demands we create.

If you're really curious, though, ask me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You know the Question to the Answer to Life, the Universe, and Everything.

You enjoy photographing graffiti and urban decay.

You're interested in social engineering through culture jamming and memetic piggybacking and would like to talk shop.

You're smart and sexy and get off on clever wordplay and have a twisted sense of humor.

You can see the fnords.

Add a photo to:

Stay fresh with Instagram

Are you sure you want to delete this album?

Where's your photo?

Drop it like it’s hot

Photos must be at least 400 x 400px
Edit thumbnail
Add a caption

You look fantastic!