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mewho

43 Seattle, WA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 33–53
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:22am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Please read my whole profile, particularly the "message me if..." section at the bottom, before contacting me. I'm very interested in meeting certain kinds of people, and not at all in getting hit on by low matches casting a wide net. BTW, if you also have kids, that makes me more, not less, interested in meeting you--we'll have more in common, and maybe they could be friends! Now, on to the self-summary!

Mm, matching algorithms. Mm, smart sexy people.

I love learning and teaching. Some of my favorite experiences are when I can do both at once in an hours-long conversation with a loved one, making all kinds of connections. One of my favorite things to hear is, "Oh, I get it!" I'm grinning just thinking about it.

I keep forgetting I'm apparently not from this planet, as all the pop culture and street conversations seem to be about the logic of some other social world than I live in. If you're from Polygeeklandia too, that would be helpful. I'm neurotypical, just not mainstream. I vastly prefer compersion to jealousy, and vulnerable, open communication to soap opera plots.

I have a poly family of six plus our extended polycule, so my life is a bit complicated, and sometimes I don't get around to checking back with OKCupid for a long time.

I am kaizen, sapiosexual, and verbally precise.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My life purpose is to help people be smarter and happier. This includes myself as well as family, friends, professional contacts, and random strangers.

I live with my husband Meowse, our three kids, my husband's fiancee, and several housemates in a great big Victorian house. Decluttering it is an ongoing project. I'm currently raising two children and a teenager or two and working part-time, ramping my career back up from a childrearing break.

I'm a devotee of kaizen and gamification. My life is absurdly quantified. I use Health Month, SuperBetter, HabitRPG, and Tiny Habits. Over the past couple years I have transformed several of my behaviors and attitudes through long conversations, written exercises, irritating yet helpful insights, occasional epiphanies, and small, consistent habit shifts. I have actively improved my communication to be clearer, gentler, and more positive. While I'm told I'm now better than average in these areas, I have realized that still leaves a lot of room for improvement, and I'd rather be asking for what I want and telling my family I love them, not snapping at them or being quietly resentful, even occasionally. I'm also working on building habits of healthier diet (less sugar & starch, more vegetables) and more exercise (walking--mostly playing Ingress!, yoga, and the Hacker's Diet fitness plan). I am a work in progress and will remain so for life, because there will always be new ways to be better.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
reading out loud, writing, teaching, learning, applying what I learn, parenting, drawing, word games, making analogies, experiencing, loving, being loved, sex, stealth compliments, dreamwork, communicating, self-transformation, polyamory, kaizen, collaboration
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I probably just said something outrageous. And I used big words to do it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Metamagical Themas and anything else by Douglas Hofstadter; Consciousness Explained and anything else by Daniel Dennett; Little, Big and anything else by John Crowley; Learned Optimism; John Gottman's books on healthy relationships; The Chronicles of Master Li and Number Ten Ox; anything by Lois McMaster Bujold, Ursula Vernon, or Pamela Dean; most things by Terry Pratchett or Neil Gaiman

Movies: Bull Durham, Tampopo, Howl's Moving Castle, Secretary, Fargo, Much Ado About Nothing

Shows: Buffy, Heroes, TrueBlood, Red Dwarf, Lie to Me, Bones, Sherlock, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, Game of Thrones, Downton Abbey

Music: mainly alternative and Celtic rock, filk, and folk; Barenaked Ladies, They Might Be Giants, Phish, Enya, Suzanne Vega, Indigo Girls, Tempest, Richard Thompson, Stump, Jonathan Coulton, Tim Minchin, Vixy and Tony, Regina Spektor, P!nk, The Postal Service, Sia, Nouvelle Vague, Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds, Leonard Cohen

Food: artichokes with hollandaise, candied ginger covered in dark chocolate, lamb curries, sushi (specifically Mashiko), green tea ice cream, Cambozola, blackcurrant anything, mead, things I haven't tried before. I don't eat octopus, conventional beef or pork, or endangered species including bluefin tuna and unagi.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my family, kaizen, books, collaboration, new ideas, being useful
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Getting the kids dinner & to bed, and walking around the neighborhood playing Ingress.

Or maybe eating the best sushi in the world with someone I love and then having mindblowing sex that may or not involve any genital contact, interspersed with delighted laughter, abject sobbing, deep philosophical conversation, and reading aloud to each other. Not as typical as I'd like, but it does happen.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Gee, that's funny--all my matches keep coming up poly kinky geeks!

I've been told I'm kinkier than I look. And it's not just the piercings that don't show in my pictures.

Seriously, though...I'm not comfortable driving. On the other hand, summer before last I drove a van full of people at 80mph through Montana, so, well, you can tell I'm working on that.
You should message me if
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...and only if at least one of the below sets of conditions apply:

1. (old friends category) You already know me.

2. (fellow parent category) You live in Seattle, you are not dangerously insane, you think I sound nice, you are not alarmed by my family arrangement, and you have a 3-to-9-year-old child. Yes, I am looking for playdates. No, that is not a euphemism.

3. (potential dating category) You're a 95+% match and enemy match below 10%, you have taken the OKCupid Dating Persona Test (you can find the link at the top of my Tests section), you live in the Seattle area, you think I sound like I'd be fun and interesting to know, and you think I'm hot. I'm currently seeing several people, all of whom match me in the high 90s and are totally fantastic, so I'm quite busy and really not interested in anyone less compatible. If you are not willing to take the dating persona test, if you message me with random sex talk, or if you otherwise demonstrate that you are bad with consent boundaries, you will not get positive results. On the other hand, I might still have a little room in my schedule if I'm careful, so, if you're brilliant, compassionate, funny, polyamorous, and pervy, you have a fairly good chance. :)

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