I am a 39 year old mom of 3 looking to find a kind and loving man to join me on life's journey. I don't believe that life happens to us. We make life happen. For example, when I sat back waiting for my life to be traditional and acceptable (find a man, marry, have children), I spent a lot of time waiting. Finally, I decided to take control. I couldn't force myself to fall in love, but I could try to start a family before I met the love of my life. So, I have adopted my three kids over the past year and a half. They are wonderful! A four year old girl, six year old boy, and ten year old girl. I am so glad that I took charge of my life.

Now I am looking to find a family man who can hopefully join my family one day. I would like to start with friendship first though, because I need to be cautious. I don't want to take a chance of having my kids be hurt, so I need to move forward as intelligently as possible.

I like to do family kinds of things: camping, bbqs, swimming, going to the park with the kids and the dogs, etc. Besides spending time with my family and friends, I enjoy reading, playing on the computer, and watching a good action packed movie.

I'm not much of a drinker; I don't smoke or do drugs, and I hope to find someone similar in nature.

I teach high school English in Fresno County. I am a mom, so much of my time is spent helping the kids with homework, going to the pumpkin patch, eating at McDonald's (I'm so sick of chicken nuggets), doing laundry, grocery shopping, yada, yada, yada. Basically when I am not at work, I am with my kids. I would like to set a priority of getting myself out without the kids every once in a while. I need it to stay sane, if you know what I mean.

making people laugh, working with computers, and making chili beans and corn bread.

are my smile, my sense of humor, and my kind nature.

Books: I tend to read more factual stuff - computer books, professional pedagogy, true crime

Movies: I have been going to see things like Monsters vs. Aliens and G-Force, but I prefer action movies or crime/drama.

Music: I like it all, but with the kids I feel so out of touch. I think I know how to spell all the color words though. R E D red, R E D red, I can spell red, I can spell red, fire trucks are red, stop signs are red, too, R E D, R E D ---Isn't that the music you like? Ugh@!!

Food: I like mexican food and italian food. Enchiladas are a family favorite and lasagna is one of my comfort foods.

Well, since my kids are not "things," I will not start with them.

1) phone - I am not a big phone person, but it is my primary connection with my mother who lives 3 hours away.

2) computer - silly, I know, but I love to do much of my reading on the computer and it is how I stay in touch with the world.

3) my dogs - animals are sweet; they make us feel good even when we are down; I have two dogs and I don't want to ever have to be without them. Besides, on a cold night, my chihuahua helps to keep me warm.

4) my bed - sleep is essential to the quality of life. I don't know about you, but when I don't get to sleep in my own bed for a few nights, I am exhausted.

5) companionship - being able to talk to people and share the good and bad of my life is important. Without having friends around to talk to, life would be boring and lonely. Why do you think I am writing this list? I'm looking for some companionship.

6) air conditioning - I live in Fresno where during the summer it gets to be 110 degrees for several days in a row. Heck summer here goes from about May to October. Without a good air conditioner, I would go nuts.

Love, life, and the meaning of success. Ok, not really, I don't have much time to think about anything other than whether or not I remembered to run the dishwasher, what dinner is going to be, and whether or not we have a dentist/doctor appointment scheduled today.

Eating at McDonald's with the kids, watching them play in the play area while I text message a friend, and going home to watch The Hunchback from Notredam and eat red licorice and popcorn. Sound like fun to you? Just spending time with my kids is fun. Hopefully you like stuff like this, too.

I think I would prefer to get to know you before I start sharing private information with you. Let's talk; then we can work on sharing more intimate information.

You are a family man in search of a down to earth woman who is just as happy eating at home and watching Wizards of Waverly Place as she is going to the Cheesecake Factory and watching a movie out.