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33 M Ypsilanti, MI

My Details

Last Online
Apr 12
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
First, some essentials: my sweetie sunnydecho9 and I are in an open relationship- a stable, long-term, ethically non-monogamous marriage. In English, I'm Available and everybody's okay with that.

I love music- especially the nuts and bolts of making live music. I love Left-ish and Scientific '-isms': Humanism, Darwinism, Liberalism. I love language and NASA and things narrated by David Attenborough. I have a nerdcrush on Neil DeGrasse Tyson and this new Cosmos series gives me the biggest science boner ever. Haters need not apply.

I'm basically looking for a stable secondary- someone who's into enough of the same stuff that we can hang out somewhat regularly, geek out and enjoy our time together, and then go back to the rest of our lives.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in a library and I think I finally got over a lurking mania with Grad School. I'm much happier with less formal, but much more practical learning. You're doing it? Great! I don't have the patience for long-winded professorial ego anymore.

Thoroughly enjoying the local breweries- I'd evidently had the wrong opinion of wheat beer for the last decade or so.

If I can bike or walk to where I'm going, I'm happier once I'm there.
I’m really good at
I listen like your best friend over a pint at the pub. I can mic a typewriter, tubular bells, a scratchy gramophone, and your vintage-but-shitty amp. I can find space in the mix so your cello doesn't get lost under the bass. I absorb languages- I more or less figured out Cyrillic script to make my job easier. I grew up playing with the things that became the Adobe Creative Suite and used to do graphics for a car magazine, so I'm pretty handy pushing pixels too.

My superpower is always looking directly into random camera flashes in public.
The first things people usually notice about me
I often wear a tie. No occasion. Or did you mean the ginger hair and ruddy complexion?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
History, Classics, Science, and Science Fiction figure heavily on my shelf- Dawkins and Sagan, Vonnegut and Asimov, Herbert and Tolkien. I've read Hitchhiker's and Dirk Gently and found the Electric Monk frustratingly undeveloped. I grew up on the cynicism and misanthropy of Calvin and Hobbes; more than two decades later, my sense of wonder is as strong as ever and my faith in humanity has yet to recover.

Musical standbys include American Analog Set, Nick Drake, Lou Barlow, Neil Young, El Ten Eleven, Pinback and GY!BE; throw on The Stooges, The Flaming Lips, or Built to Spill any time. Unabashedly love Explosions in the Sky and Make Me Armored by The Scourge of the Sea. Kinda glad that New Wave and Glam are coming back, but only so that Grunge can come back too and kick their asses again. Auto-Tuning hurts me in my heart-place.

Mythbusters, The Daily Show, Top Gear, Kids in the Hall, Battlestar Galactica, Venture Bros., and Robot Chicken come into my life via the magic of the Internet. I gotta add Archer and Rick & Morty to the list too now. I kept putting off getting a digital converter until one day I realised I didn't miss daily TV. I follow Formula 1 pretty seriously, but I won't inflict it on you beyond highly recommending that you see the Senna documentary.

Kevin Smith movies are always good for a laugh and toe-dabbling intellectualism. So-bad-they're-good B-movies are LOTS of fun. Any documentary gets a chance, but most summer blockbusters do not. Thrillers are okay, but with the notable exception of zombie flicks, gore is a non-starter. Obviously, Thriller itself is golden.

I love cooking, and usually cook for an army that never shows up, leaving me with a week's worth of lunch. It's happened that I usually only eat meat when I'm out and about. But I make passable chili, acceptable deep dish pizza, and decent Indian and Mexican food. I am willing to go to some lengths for good coffee, cheeses and chorizo.
The six things I could never do without
Reading material.
As much music as humanly possible to experience.
Friends to tell me if I'm being a jackass.
B-Movies. Overacted? Shaky plot? Bruce Campbell? Press play!
Good coffee.
My bike and my camping gear.

Some of this is most easily covered by (or purchased via) an Internet connection, though, so that might have to rank fairly highly in there, too.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things from obscure corners of museums and libraries lurk in my semi-conscious- like feathered dinosaurs and 150-year-old pornographic daguerrotypes in special curated collections. Me and the 'Random Article' button on the Wiki have spent some slow workday afternoons together. I'd like to know why my Indian and Thai food are reliably tasty, but (with the exception of butter chicken) never quite turn out like what you get at a restaurant. I also think about how I would go about getting Bill O'Reilly to cut my mic and kick me off his show as quickly as possible.
On a typical Friday night I am
doing *something*. Out with friends, on a date, gaming, making dinner at home, or on the couch with a book. Boredom is a thing of the past.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I really hope that when my hair starts to fade, it goes white or silver instead of salt-and-pepper.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
• You think an MST3K marathon is a good idea for a snow day.
• You think playing in the snow is a good idea for a snow day.
• There's a new beer on tap, 'cause I wanna try it too.
• You enjoy oddball film, and enjoy enjoying it with a friend.
• You've gotten this far and are open to a medium-to-long-term something.

I had a thing here for the longest time that was basically an excuse to use the word 'satyrical' in a sentence. Really though, the gist is: sex is awesome, but I am not here primarily to get into your pants. That's a fantastic amazing thing that happens sometimes, but blood is still flowing to my brain.