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26 F Chicago, IL

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:12pm
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish

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My self-summary
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I'm queer, but okcupid doesn't have that as an option, what is up with that?

My dad is an atheist marxist who makes bad puns, writes his own acrostic puzzles, and did union organizing as a typesetter back in the day; my mom is a former dyke who works as a nurse practitioner doing geriatric low-income home-based health care in NE D.C.: I'm working on being as rad as my parents.

Here are some ways my fashion has been described recently (which I like): a Ladies Auxiliary union maid; a lost boy goes to college, Bettie Page (hair fashion). I would like to dress/have swag like Robyn; Ashley Spinelli; Rizzo; Denise Huxtable.

One time a drunk friend described there being--in addition to the metaphorically typical two sides of the coin--a third side which combined both of the other two, and usually that is the side I'm on.

I'm a hopeful romantic! ya like that?

I'm a bit embarrassed by how long this is, but a concisely representative self-summary is hard, it turns out.
What I’m doing with my life
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Workin': organic neighborhood grocery/taqueria
Schoolin': everyone alla the time (j kidding). truly: nursing masters (figuring out how to do health care as organizing and vice versa)
Reading/drawing/playing music/writing/moving my body
Trying to explore Chicago! Trying to explore everything
Thinking shit through and figuring shit out
Being a renaissance woman
Transitioning, still, always
Sticking it to the man
Growing my hair out
Playing, in general
Pushing myself
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making lists
Being excited
Low harmonies
Righteous anger
Creating spaces
Cutting my own hair
Packing and inventory
Reflecting and mirroring
Asking pointed questions
Appreciating puns, limericks, dad jokes
Metaphor, especially body and science metaphors
The first things people usually notice about me
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My enthusiasm, and my eyes. How fast I talk. My bangs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(never in any order)

Current and recent-ish reading: the Fifth Book of Peace/Maxine Hong Kingston; The Birth of the Clinic/Michel Foucault; Q/Luther Blissett; The Fat Studies Reader; La Muerte y La Doncella/Ariel Dorfman; As Consciousness is Harnessed to Flesh: Volume II of Susan Sontag's Notebooks and Journals; Giovanni's Room/James Baldwin; My Antonia/Willa Cather; Bel Canto/Ann Pattchet; The Shock Doctrine/Naomi Klein; The House of the Spirits/Isabel Allende.
Always: Just So Stories/Rudyard Kipling; The Phantom Tollbooth/Norton Juster; Cosmicomics/Italo Calvino; The Everyday Language of White Racism/Jane Hill; the paper (NYT 4eva).
It's sometimes hard for me to get into poetry, but I really love some Philip Larkin and W.H. Auden, and Walt Whitman, and I think maybe Charles Simic and Mary Oliver too.

Here are three movies that just changed my life: Micmacs, Frances Ha, Her. Also: Cradle Will Rock; Salt of the Earth; The King of Hearts; Disney's Robin Hood; Wet Hot American Summer; The Pink Panther (Peter Sellers, duh); The Brave Little Toaster; Newsies; the Marat/Sade; nature docus; Target Women!; Arrested Development; The Daily Show; TED talks of Brene Brown. I like looking at photos too, like from Diane Arbus, and especially The Family of Man.

Folk, blues, soul, hip hop, canto popular, new weird america, ladies who don't always try to make their voices sound pretty, people who speak truth to power and feelings, radio top forties. RadioLab, This American Life, the Savage Lovecast, Democracy Now!, Life of the Law, On Being with Krista Tippett.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Verbal and written processing
Tastes and textures of food, and being able to eat with my fingers
Listening to, moving to, and making music
Connection, contact, community
Not choosing only six things
Feeling thankful and lucky
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Light, colors, and visual and tactile textures. Faces. Feelings. Backstory. Openness. What are the right fucks to give? Equanimity. How do be grounded. How I'm walking and if its muscularly symmetrical; posture; yoga shit. Biological processes in my body, and in other things. Anatomy and physiology terms (like the sella turcica of the sphenoid bone--you can't make that shit up). Life as a science experiment. Intentionality and awareness. Resources and generosity. Trust of emotional intuition. Anxiety. Seeing-as (metaphors, frames). Venn diagrams. Categorization. In/justice and intersectionality. Responsibility and ownership. Praxis. Habits. Reminders. Time signatures.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
oh you know
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I wish I were good at lying, but I am not. (but then I guess, how would you know, amirite.)
You should message me if
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You have something interesting to say. you care enough about shit to be real.

I'm trying to have chicago adventures--if you have a really good idea for a good chicago adventure, I probably want to hear it

You're pretty queer, regardless of who you do.

You're down with non-monogamy.