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27 Chicago, IL Genderqueer, Cis Woman, Non-binary

Genderqueer, Cis Woman, Non-binary

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 24–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Oct 1
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 2" (1.57m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Working on Post grad
Might want kids
Has cats
English, Spanish
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
here's how we know gender is pretty fake--to say we identify as non-binary AND cis?? itsa fascinating time we live in. so: she or they.

My dad is an atheist marxist who makes bad puns, writes his own acrostic puzzles, and did undercover union organizing as a typesetter back in the day; my mom is a former dyke who works as a nurse practitioner doing geriatric low-income home-based health care in NE D.C. and is concurrently impassioned by more extracurriculars now than I ever took in school: I'm working on being as rad as my parents.

Here are some ways my fashion has been described (which I like): a Ladies Auxiliary union maid; a lost boy goes to college; Bettie Page (hair fashion); good. I would like to dress/have swag like Robyn; Ashley Spinelli; Rizzo; Denise Huxtable; Spot Collins; Ilana Glazer.

One time a drunk friend described there being--in addition to the metaphorically typical two sides of the coin--a third side which combined both of the other two, and usually that is the side I'm on.

I'm a bit embarrassed by how long this is, but a concisely representative self-summary is hard, it turns out.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Schoolin': everyone alla the time (j kidding). truly: nursing masters (figuring out how to do health care as organizing and vice versa)
Reading/drawing/playing music/writing/moving my body
Trying to explore Chicago! Trying to explore everything
Thinking shit through and figuring shit out
Growing (some of) my hair out
Being a renaissance person
Sticking it to the man
Playing, in general
Pushing myself
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being loud
Making lists
Being excited
Reading aloud
Low harmonies
Righteous anger
Cutting my own hair
Packing and inventory
Reflecting and mirroring
Asking pointed questions
Creating spaces/interior decorating
Appreciating puns, limericks, dad jokes
Metaphor, especially body and science metaphors
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
haircut, enthusiasm, eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(never in any order)

Most currently: on beauty/zadie smith; start where you are/pema chodron; the ethical slut; trauma stewardship; jorge amado; notes from no man's land/eula biss; breakdowns/art spiegelman; the Fifth Book of Peace/Maxine Hong Kingston; Autobiography of Red/Anne Carson; 7 Nights/Jorge Luis Borges
Always: Just So Stories/Rudyard Kipling; The Phantom Tollbooth/Norton Juster; Cosmicomics/Italo Calvino; The Everyday Language of White Racism/Jane Hill; the paper; Edna St. Vincent Millay, Philip Larkin, W.H. Auden, Walt Whitman, Charles Simic, Mary Oliver

Cradle Will Rock; Salt of the Earth; The King of Hearts; Disney's Robin Hood; Wet Hot American Summer; The Pink Panther (Peter Sellers, duh); The Brave Little Toaster; Newsies; the Marat/Sade; nature docus; Target Women; TED talks of Brene Brown. I like looking at photos too, like from Diane Arbus, and especially The Family of Man.

Folk, blues, soul, hip hop, canto popular, new weird america, ladies who don't always try to make their voices sound pretty, people who speak truth to power and feelings, radio top forties, all those podcasts we all listen to (radiolab, tal, professor blastoff), democracy now!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
being Seen
Verbal and written and movement processing
Tastes and textures of food, and being able to eat with my fingers
Listening to, moving to, and making music
Not choosing only six things
Feeling thankful and lucky
TLC (the band, the love, the care, etc.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What are the right fucks to give?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
oh you know
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I wish I were good at lying, but I am not. (but then I guess, how would you know, amirite.)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have something of interest to say; you care enough about shit to be real.

You're pretty queer, regardless of who you do.

You're down with non-monogamy.