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Born in Belgium, raised in the Bay Area, got "toughened up" in New
York (i.e., reading philosophy and waiting tables and working
construction), travelled to various countries to "broaden my
horizons," currently residing in the Crescent City. A friend once
described me as simultaneously the most serious and the silliest
person they've ever known. I like children, animals and nature.
Adults and books are also pretty good.
What I’m doing with my life
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I write about three hours a day, which I usually enjoy, sometimes
giggling like a loon, and then I read a lot and a person has to
work to earn a living, so that leaves precious few hours for being
the social butterfly I would otherwise greatly enjoy being. That is
to say, I actually DO like people, socialization, etc., but the
most I get out into the world is usually a half hour run or walk
around the block, a chat with the roomie in the backyard. And then
on a couple nights a week I find myself talking too much on ambling
walks between bars and perhaps on a Sunday I'll be laying under a
tree or driving through the Bayou with a friend. Long-term, I want
to publish my novels (I've now written two, working on a third),
save my pennies to buy a house (urban or country, still not sure)
and raise a child or two with a lovely, warm, supportive, secure,
ambitious and otherwise perfect woman. But a lot could happen
between now and then.
I’m really good at
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Listening, being quiet (solo or with others), talking (I suppose
all variations on the scale of communication). Understanding,
empathy, relating to people of all types (I've worked with
academics, schizophrenics, autistics, junkies, homeless, blue
collar, etc, and I honestly can't say which I like most, though
it's not academics). Making people laugh or making people think
deeply about something. Commitment, whether it be to a person or to
a project, and honesty, sometimes to a fault. Helping people
articulate their desires and needs (but there's a corollary
weakness here in that I'm less good at articulating my own needs,
being the solitary and strong man that I usually am and always
believe myself to be).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Don Delillo, Cormac McCarthy, Pynchon (though I can't
understand more than 20%), Louis-Ferdinand Celine, Henry Miller,
Roberto Bolano, WG Sebald, Dante, Dostoevsky, Nicannor Parra and
Other: Wittgenstein and THE VISUAL ARTS (and Duchamp).
Movies: Snooty films usually of European origin, Antonioni,
Tarkovsky, Godard, etc. Also, Cassavettes, anything made in NYC in
the '70s. Romantic Comedies are my tub of ice cream when I'm truly
Shows: Modern dance, for me, is either the greatest or most truly
god awful thing ever. I like Beckett and Brecht in theatre.
Music: Everything from Glenn Gould doing Bach to James Brown to
Fugazi to Bob Dylan, except that decade he was on coke and
Christianity. I like that crazy Mexican mariachi shit you find on
the radio and everyone always thinks I'm joking, but that stuff
makes me really, really happy. Paul McCartney's song, "Home in the
Country," is motivational for me. Desmond Dekker is an excellent
way to start the day.
Food: All of it and a lot of it. I like to strictly follow Italian
recipes or whip together the old random ingredient stir-fry. When
I'm down I exclusively eat from Verti Marte.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love, friends, culture, nature, creativity, sex (in varying order
depending on the current phase of my life, and I'd probably change
this list in ten minutes so let's add a seventh thing, change).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My brain is a thoroughfare of ideas about the book I'm currently
writing, ideas about the books I've been reading, snippets of song
and human voices, things friends have said, passing scenery and
female faces and bodies. Sometimes I snap out of this delightful
revelry and neurotically check my bank-account to remind myself
that I am in fact working towards the very "real-world" goal of one
day buying a house, so as to have a family, etc. Then I go back to
the first type of dreaming I mentioned.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Chatting with the roommate in the backyard or watching a movie or
laughing at myself because I have a very silly way of dancing when
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've lived in New York and Barcelona and have travelled through
Asia, the Middle East and Africa, but things are a bit more low-key
and focused now, which I like. My life has always been interesting
(to me, that is), and I just don't try so hard anymore. I can come
off as a whirlwind of energy and opinion, but I'm much more
interested in everything EXCEPT myself and I pretty much just want
to walk through a park or museum, have a conversation, laugh and
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