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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22–34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 24
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Dutch (Okay)
My self-summary
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Born in Belgium, raised in the Bay Area, got "toughened up" in New York (i.e., reading philosophy and waiting tables and working construction), travelled to various countries to "broaden my horizons," now live in Knoxville. A friend once described me as simultaneously the most serious and the silliest person they've ever known. I like children, animals and nature. Adults and books are also pretty good.
What I’m doing with my life
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I write about three hours a day, which I usually enjoy, sometimes giggling like a loon, and then I read a lot and a person has to work to earn a living, so that leaves precious few hours for being the social butterfly I would otherwise greatly enjoy being. I hike the smokies and discuss philosophy with my roomie. Long-term, I want to publish my novels (I've now written two, working on a third), buy a house (got the savings for a small place in the less than ideal for a yuppie type area) and raise a child or two with a lovely, warm, supportive, secure, ambitious and otherwise perfect woman who understands my need to write and read with most of my time, while of course contributing my fair share and being cognizant of her needs as well. Until that, if it ever comes, people have their needs...
I’m really good at
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Listening, being quiet (solo or with others), talking (I suppose all variations on the scale of communication). Understanding, empathy, relating to people of all types (I've worked with academics, schizophrenics, autistics, junkies, homeless, blue collar, etc, and I honestly can't say which I like most, though it's not academics). Making people laugh or making people think deeply about something. Commitment, whether it be to a person or to a project, and honesty, sometimes to a fault. Helping people articulate their desires and needs (but there's a corollary weakness here in that I'm less good at articulating my own needs, being the solitary and strong man that I usually am and always believe myself to be).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Don Delillo, Cormac McCarthy, Pynchon (though I can't understand more than 20%), Louis-Ferdinand Celine, Henry Miller, Roberto Bolano, WG Sebald, Dante, Dostoevsky, Nicannor Parra and crime novels.
Other: Wittgenstein and THE VISUAL ARTS (and Duchamp).
Movies: Snooty films usually of European origin, Antonioni, Tarkovsky, Godard, etc. Also, Cassavettes, anything made in NYC in the '70s. Western, crime and anything where men talk in gruff monosylabics.
Shows: Modern dance, for me, is either the greatest or most truly god awful thing ever. I like Beckett and Brecht in theatre.
Music: Everything from Glenn Gould doing Bach to James Brown to Fugazi to Bob Dylan, except that decade he was on coke and Christianity. I like that crazy Mexican mariachi shit you find on the radio and everyone always thinks I'm joking, but that stuff makes me really, really happy. Paul McCartney's song, "Home in the Country," is motivational for me. Desmond Dekker is an excellent way to start the day.
Food: All of it and a lot of it. I like to strictly follow Italian recipes or whip together the old random ingredient stir-fry- for a girl, that is. By myself I'll cook a massive batch of stew, freeze it and thereby allow myself to focus more on writing, less on subsistence.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love, friends, culture, nature, creativity, sex (in varying order depending on the current phase of my life, and I'd probably change this list in ten minutes so let's add a seventh thing, change).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My brain is a thoroughfare of ideas about the book I'm currently writing, ideas about the books I've been reading, snippets of song and human voices, things friends have said, passing scenery and female faces and bodies. Sometimes I snap out of this delightful revelry and neurotically check my bank-account to remind myself that I am in fact working towards the very "real-world" goal of one day buying a house, so as to have a family, etc. Then I go back to the first type of dreaming I mentioned.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Bartending, making money off the more typical answers to this question.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've lived in New York and Barcelona and have travelled through Asia, the Middle East and Africa, but things are a bit more low-key and focused now, which I like. My life has always been interesting (to me, that is), and I just don't try so hard anymore. I can come off as a whirlwind of energy and opinion, but I'm much more interested in everything EXCEPT myself and I pretty much just want to walk through a park or museum, have a conversation, laugh and smile.
You should message me if
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You are open to whatever might happen when two people meet, granted they respect each other.