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mikeyvermin

36 M Rosendale, NY

I’m looking for

  • All who like bi men
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, and might want more
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English, Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Chubby, bearded, tattooed, and awesome guy newly relocated to the mid-hudson valley. I am in a committed long-term non-monogamous partnership with user_name_face, and we have a young toddler. Just starting to get settled into our new home, learn our way around, and trying to meet folks and connect with radical and queer communities.

I enjoy eating, snuggling with my animals, and the various activities that take place in my bed. I'm a jaded anarchist who struggles to hold onto hope for revolutionary societal change, though I have shifted the brunt of my energy to working and manipulating the existing systems to improve conditions in people's day to day lives.
What I’m doing with my life
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Settling into my new home/town/life. Working on my house and yard/gardens. Social worker by trade, currently managing a program providing housing and supportive services for people in recovery from addiction.

I am also learning how to be a parent.

I view everything I do through the lenses of social justice and harm reduction. I am really interested in learning more about and eventually working on harm-reduction based applications of trauma therapy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being shy and modest yet verbose on social networking sites.
The first things people usually notice about me
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tattoos if it's warm (primarily what gets noticed are my two sleeves, one of images from children's/YA books and the other of plants and insects), my dogs if i'm out with them (a young pitt/lab mix and an old shepherd/lab mix), and the fact that I have/wear several purple articles of clothing and accessories (apparently its a big deal for a cisgender guy to do this)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like to read a lot, and all kinds. But I have been very very tired the past several months and have not had as much energy to read as I would like. I am currently reading 'Fire in the Belly' (a bio of one of my favorite artists, David Wojnarowicz) by Cynthia Carr. The previous books I read were the 33 1/3 series book on 'In the aeroplane over the sea,' ' Telegraph Avenue' by Michael Chabon, 'A queer and pleasant danger' by Kate Bornstein ,and Hubert Selby Jr's ''Last exit to brooklyn.' I have been trying unsuccessfully to finish Gabor Mate's 'In the realm of hungry ghosts' for like two years. I like everything from dystopian sci-fi/fantasy to memoirs about being 'anti-normative' to non-fiction/ theoretical social sciences to children's' books.

Music wise I'm all over the place. I had older sisters and my formative years took place during the 1980's; so I was raised on a healthy diet of new wave, classic rock, old school hip-hop, and glam/hair metal. Political/peace punk, riot grrrl, 90's hardcore, traditional ska/rocksteady, and a handful of 90's indie rock and grunge bands guided me through my teen years. I also love 90's hip hop and a smattering of more recent indie hip-hop. I have grown increasingly obsessed with metal over the years. It started with 80's thrash and 70's psych/stoner metal in my late teens, which lead to NWOBHM, then sludge/doom stuff, and now I even dabble in some of the more interesting (and less reactionary) death and black metal. I also can't enough of old school r&b; krautrock; garage rock; bluegrass; psychedelic rock and jazz cross-over; shoegaze; bebop; afrobeat; motown, memphis and northern soul; old country; tropicalia; delta blues; soul jazz; traditional folk; and even some 60's/70's country rock. And I'm sure I forgot a few things. Like I said all over the place.

In terms of film and television I prefer depressing ones about people with messed up lives, ones with muppets or muppet like creatures, ones about ordinary people living out rock star fantasies, and ones that inspire existential crises

Good food and spirits are really important to me. That's how I was raised. I am vegetarian and have been so for the vast majority of my life. I grew up with a hippie mom, a dad from the southwest US, and was surrounded by a large extended italian-american family . . . so there is really no cuisine I don't like. I'm really into good craft beer and affordable but amazing wine. I'm getting really obsessed with the relatively affordable top shelf whiskeys.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my partner;
my kid;
my dogs;
one of my cats;
my family (the one I was born into and the one I have chosen);
community.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the last few months my mind has been occupied with thinking about how to be a parent and raise a healthy, happy, and radical kid who will do awesome things to make the world a better place; also moving, becoming a home owner, which of the multitude of home repairs needed can my partner and I do and which do we need to hire a skilled professional to do, fires (in the wood stove and fire pit) . . .

but usually: my partner, my kid, relationships, social justice, oppression and privilege, harm reduction, my animals, my family (blood and chosen), my garden, prefigurative politics, radical applications of social work, feminism, intersectionality, how insanely complex and vulnerable our brains are and yet how successfully healing and empowering relationships can often times undo that harm
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Taking care of an small child and trying to figure out how to make food get into my mouth. Although occasionally I hang out with friends/family or go out to dinner. One time a few months ago on a Friday night I went to two separate parties! I was still home by 9:30, though.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I find myself increasingly interested in kink, but have not had the opportunity to explore that side of myself. I would like to change this, but I have found it very difficult to find experienced kinky folks interested in taking on a newbie.

Also, travel is hard to manage at this point in my life, so in order to connect we would need to live close by (ie. less than a 30 min. drive), or would have to be willing to travel to within that radius.
You should message me if
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I am primarily looking to make new friends and establish community with fellow radicals, queers, harm reducers, lefty social workers, non-douchey people who go to metal shows, queer and/or radical parents, and other swell types who don't mind that hanging out with me often involves a small child in tow. If you can connect me with lefty community groups/organizations doing awesome work in the area, please do so.

Date wise I think we would have to become friends first, and then if there is a spark the relationship could grow from their. However, I am interested in other queers, (qenderqueer and transgender folks of course are included). I am only interested in someone with whom I have shared interests (outside of smooching). I might also be open to the potential of someone interested in my partner and I as a couple (Update: the kid thing makes this difficult and probably VERY unlikely at this point in our lives).

Alternatively, if you can teach me how to ride a motorcycle feel free to offer your services!