my band, the awful waffles, is playing a show at a little bar called Howler's on Liberty Ave in Bloomfield. come out and enjoy some local music and bring your friends.  dont even have to introduce yourself to me... i just want people to have a good night out!  starts around 9:30pm.

i mentioned in one of my other posts (i guess i only have two) that things haven't been all that great lately... and that i'd talk about it later. this is later. i've been trying to debate whether or not this is a good idea... and i decided that i'm going to do it, because if nothing else, it'll explain why i may seem a little "off" or "distant" when you try to talk to me. i'm not doing this for sympathy or anything of the like, but it's all welcome if you wish to give it.

here goes:

november of 2007, the girl i was planning on marrying broke up with me... i say we were engaged: we decided to get married, she just didn't have the ring in her possession yet, due to monetary reasons. the reasons she broke up with me are not the focus of this. after we broke up, i started talking to a girl from work who was also going through a hard time with a breakup. i had known her for about 5 or so months prior, and had a huge crush on her. as did she for me.

we talked. we hung out. we did a lot, just as friends... then it got to the point where she wanted a relationship. no problem. i knew i liked her, and i wanted to be with her, however, i was a little distant towards her still, though we were together... i was still emotionally strung out from my engagement. i asked her for some time to deal with this and sort it out. after a week or so, she got impatient and thought i didn't like her after all. she went to one of my friends that she met through me and asked advice. this was march-ish.

this guy had been my friend for 8 or 9 years now... since early high school. he told her that she was right that i didnt like her... and that i was just using her as a "rebound." she felt as though he had saved her from something horrible, and decided to date him. when i found out they were together, i asked him why he did that. he simply stated that he had no idea how i felt about her and that she moved on... so should i.

a week later, she contacted me again. i asked her why she was talknig to me if she moved on. she was confused by this, as she had told him that she was still in love with me and still wanted to be with me. he has lied to me to get me to stop talking to her. he lied continuously to her to get her to stop liking me. and he then lied to my friends to get them on his side of the situation.

her and i decided that despite the misunderstandings and current situation... we were still going ot be friends. her and i still hung out and talked all the time, just like before... except my now-former best friend didn't know we were. he was doing everything in his power to make her upset at me.. (some believe as far as vandalizing her truck while it was in his driveway at night... as the only person with a motive for it would haev been me.... i have an aliby and witnesses, i assure you). sure enough, stress built, and drama ensued.

when he found out that i was still talking to her... she claimed to him that she had asked me to stop talking to her months ago... and that she doesn't contact me. my phone records, IM logs, and emails show otherwise. due to her claims, charges were pressed against me for harassment and stalking mid july.

despite the claims of proof i have showing that the allegations are slanderous and false, instead of dropping the charges, everything is being drawn out to the legal limitation on time frame that is allowed (my friend's dad is a state cop) simply to cause me stress and hope that i lose my job, as i'm not allowed to work while charges are pending. i work on government contracts... so you can understand why i wouldn't be allowed to work having legal charges on me.

to date, i still sit and await decisions from my company's HR dept. and from legal advisors on what's going on, and if i have enough counter-evidence to force the DA to drop charges (which i'm told i should have enough).

all in all... life has been nothing short of interesting for the past weeks... however, i'd be glad to have a little "boring" for a while.

due to to all of this, i am currently in the process of finding new friends, as mine were apparently fake... and maybe some entertainment to keep my mind off of things. as stated before, i'm not asknig for sympathy or guilting anybody into talking to me... far from it. i'm simply putting this out there as a disclaimer, that this is what i'm dealing with, and this is why i may be a little distant at first, as i'm sure you can guess that i have a little bit of a trust issue coming out of this.

(is this 1000 words?)

-- mike

looking for: a date to see either "the dark knight" or "mama mia" (yes, i like musicals)... or both would be even better ^_^

i've been a memeber of this for... a while, and i've never posted on the journal thing because it's just not something i do. well, i'm doing it.

i'll start with something nice: though i have never posted my own journal entry, i commonly read other people's and post on theirs some tid-bits of advice and the like, and only 2 days ago did i get a reply from the journal i posted on the day before thanking me for the kind words i left.

life has been rough lately (really rough... i might post on that later), and to me, getting that message, though it could have very well just been a generic message sent to everybody that posted on this person's journal, made my day a lot better... kinda felt like i helped somebody out, even though i have never met them, and probably never will. and of course i replied to them that it wasn't a problem, and that i hoped things were going better for them....

what's that silly movie?... pay it forward?