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30 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 20
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, and very serious about it
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I was uncomfortable. So I decided to move to Oakland on a pre-mid-life crisis. Now I'm approaching being comfortable while uncomfortable in Oakland. Wherever I go there I am.

Sometimes I do not enjoy feeling sad. Other times I appreciate the friction-full fall of a tear, the way it gets stuck in the crevice between my nose and my cheek. I prefer the later.
What I’m doing with my life
Bringing more to the table than I take away.

Being perfectly imperfect.

Currently I am of service at my place of employment designing infrastructure systems for the redevelopment of Candlestick Point (where the 49ers used to play).
I’m really good at
Holding doors for strangers while smiling.

Thinking more than is necessary. Metacognition.

Being honest.
The first things people usually notice about me
I stare. I don't mean to, it's not you it's me.

I enjoy eye raping food.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Catch-22, The Tao of Pooh, 1984, Sirens of Titan, Tao Te Ching
Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Stranger than Fiction, I Heart Huckabees
Music: Nine Inch Nails, The Velvet Underground, Neil Young, Gorillaz, The Roots, Binary Star
Activities: Meditation, Rock Climbing, Cycling (mostly mountain but some road), Hiking, Camping, Snowboarding

"God does not care... The purpose of human life is to love whoever is around to be loved" -Kurt Vonnegut

If life has taught me anything it's that it's all simply a matter of perspective.
The six things I could never do without
The best things in life aren't things. But, despite any philosophical differences I may have with the question, and in the interest of promoting dialogue:

Quiet time
Actual old fashioned phone calls
The off switch on my phone
A todo list app
A good Chef's knife
I spend a lot of time thinking about thinking

If you have one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow you're pissing all over today.

"I try to think but nothin' happens" -Curly (Three Stooges)
On a typical Friday night I am
Meditating while listening to Junior Dad by Lou Reed & Metallica
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I used to think I didn't feel feelings. Then I realized that I feel them very deeply, and thus I want to avoid them. Now I appreciate the pain because it helps me to enjoy the delight.

The only constant is change
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex
You should message me if
You enjoy sitting silently, by yourself or with others.