I've been on sites like this one for a while now and whilst I have met a handful of nice ladies, I have yet to find one that has fit what I'm looking for (I certainly mean no disrespect to those of you whom I have met.). I know what I'm looking for and I'll admit that my optimism for finding that person online is starting to diminish.
I'm a huge nerd. I often find myself watching lectures on astrophysics (although, I don't understand the math) and theoretical physics on youtube. Stephen Hawking, Neil Degrasse Tyson, Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert are my heros. I used to play Dungeons and Dragons in high school (with paper and dice, folks). I think I have my nerd cred. covered. I am also not from California but I have lived here most of my life. I was raised with Midwestern values and still feel out of place here in California but that doesn't mean you're gonna see me sitting around watching Duck Dynasty either; I'm pretty civilized.
I am gainfully employed and independent. However, like most of the dying middle class, I live paycheck to paycheck. I certainly make enough to have some nice things and enjoy some vacation time but I do have to budget for those things.
I also have a vehicle and love the occasional "drive for the scenery" drives.
I'm not much of an outdoors man but that is only because I don't know a whole lot of outdoorsy people. I would love to explore that lifestyle a little more.
I don't do drugs, I don't smoke and I drink socially. I'm not the kinda guy that has to have a beer (which I actually hate, I'm more of a whiskey drinker) with every meal and I certainly don't understand this craft beer craze. I feel smoking is a waste of money and makes no sense. It has no benefits and to those of you who say "But it relieves stress..." I say: There are many things that relieve stress. Take masturbation for instance....that's free! Drugs are just as pointless as smoking and more dangerous when misused.
I have no prison record, nor am I a violent lunatic.
I love animals.
I do play in a "rock" band but I'm certainly no rock star nor am I conceited. I do it strictly for fun, It is not a source of income.
I have a very cynical wit about me (think Ricky Gervais). I do not sugarcoat life in order to deal with it.
For those of you who are religious, I have no tolerance for those who lack tolerance. I can handle spirituality but I don't do fanaticism.
[Disclaimer!!: If you are Republican and by this I mean the Sarah Palin/Michelle Bauchman kind of Republican or ultra conservative then we will definitely not get along.]
Now here's what I'm looking for….
I'm looking for someone who can also balance being young at heart but knows when to be an adult. (not as easy as it sounds).
I have an affinity for the girl next door type. There's nothing cuter than jeans and a T-shirt. However, ladies if your best asset is your looks then I'm not interested. I'm not looking for arm candy or a trophy girlfriend. I need some moral, intellectual and affectionate substance.
I have no interest in drama or liars. I can spot them a mile away (years of experience….)
I have little patience with people who use text speak (acronyms withstanding). I feel it's dumbing us down. I'm amazed at how much bad grammar and punctuation is on here, especially from those who are attending or have graduated from college. Not to mention that you're using a device that will correct it for you to set up your account.
Now here is my stance on children…I don't mind if you have a child, I love children (not in a Michael Jackson way). However, I don't have the resources (financial or emotional) to raise multiple children from previous relationships. This is somewhat negotiable if I find that there is an absolutely, undeniable connection.
Based on what I've read from your profiles (yes, I do read them) the pickings seem slim, at best. I can only apologize for my gender so much before it becomes a waste of my breath.
Also, I'm sure you like the guy to "make the first move" and while my online demeanor would suggest otherwise, I can be a bit shy. So please feel free to break the ice. I definitely try but don't be turned off if I don't write you. I'm not always in a clever frame of mind. I wish you all luck on your endeavors and may the force be with you……