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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 60–77
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 30
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
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My self-summary
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As the years have gone by, I have become kinder to myself and more tolerant of others. Expectations are only resentments in the making. I've had some heart break but it has only given me more strength, understanding, and compassion for others. I know the joy of being imperfect and appreciating that same imperfection in others--knowing it is what make us all unique. I find it easier to be positive about life, perhaps because there are fewer years ahead of me than behind me. I think I've gotten past most of the would've, could've, should've's of life. I'm ready for a relationship filled with warmth, laughter, and bringing the best of my life to another person and receiving the same in return.
What I’m doing with my life
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After four and a half years in retirement, I got enticed back to work part time as the Mental Health Director for a large health plan that services Medi-Cal clients in 14 northern CA counties. Lots of responsibility but a great work environment and something I've been missing--a paycheck! I would love to find a partner who also works part time in retirement.

I still have plenty of time to enjoy my two young granddaughters nearby and two older grandsons who live in Oregon. I am active at my church (Presbyterian) and enjoy my long-term commitment to 12-step programs for my own growth and recovery. I am respectful of religious and philosophical views different than mine.

I love car racing and auto and airplane shows, and enjoy exploring Bay Area back roads--nothing better than a drive somewhere new and discovering the perfect little cafe and an interesting local museum. I've been hankering after a sports car but recently, in deference to having a back seat for the granddaughters, bought an Alien II Green Kia Soul. Very fun and c'est moi!

I am also a writer of fiction and just published my second novel MOTHER TONGUE--a suspense story set in the midst of the often violent separatist movement in Corsica. I have just been asked to submit the novel for The American Library in Paris Annual Book Award--since it is a novel written in English about France. $5000 and a trip to Paris for the winner. But I'd love to be just a runner up.

I enjoy watching BBC shows, especially crime, detective, and spy dramas, WWII dramas, and their spectacular costumers of course.
I’m really good at
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I believe I have been a good Mom to my two children and am a much loved grandparent. I am a good writer (my author website can be found at and am enjoying doing more in the whole social media world (@docflamingo on Twitter) to market my novels. I play the harpsichord well. I'm a good listener--hey, I was a professional for 40 years but I don't "analyze" anyone! I absolutely love participating in new adventures with the man in my life and inviting him to share mine.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Green eyes, blonde hair with very little gray, which along with good skin and few wrinkles (all inherited) leads to a much younger appearance, and an easy smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Love Mediterranean and French food. My movie favorites are French films, especially Catherine Deneuve (would love to be just half as elegant). TV mostly BBC dramas like MI-5, Prime Suspect with Helen Mirrin, Midsomer Murders, and all the period pieces like The Tudors. I also have enjoyed shows like The Voice. And my guilty pleasure is watching Overhaulin' and Wheeler Dealers (love those makeovers--makes me wish I still had my 1959 Mercedes Benz 190SL). Because I play the harpsichord, I love Bach and other Early Music but also am fond of musicals, soft rock, Golden Oldies, Elvis Presley.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My faith in my higher power and figuring out what His plan is for me in this life. My children and grandchildren. My best friends. My faith community. Time for reflection each day. Laughter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why they never let girls take auto shop back in the 50s!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Winding down and looking forward to time for myself and the opportunity to see friends on the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Everything I have written on this profile are things that a part of my public life, things I'm willing to share with anyone who asks. The private side is there, waiting for that special person, someone with whom I have built a trusting relationship.
You should message me if
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You think we might share some interests. You're willing to take a chance on love. You would just like to have a literate, witty conversation with an interesting woman.