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  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:04am
Straight, Questioning
6′ 0″ (1.82m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), Greek (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a video game developer living in Brighton and Hove.

I have been in an open relationship for about 15 years, married for most of it, and I am especially interested in comparing my experiences with similar people, so if that is you and you're willing to talk about it then I'd love to listen!

Even if you're just starting out, it would be great to hear your take on it all!

"Relationship anarchy" is an interesting concept. I don't know exactly where I lie in the broad scheme of things, and I don't hugely like inventing names and labels for things that already exist in their own right, but it provides an interesting set of principles to contrast against, and I think a lot of those principles match the attitudes of my wife and me.

I am recently partially vegetarian, and would be very interested in eating out with vegetarians and vegans who can help me to discover new great things to eat in those cuisines! I am not really interested in "fake meat" though, I am more interested in from-the-ground-up meat-free dishes which have their own natural balance.
What I’m doing with my life
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This heading is dull, so I will just write about some things I like!

I like playing video games with friends - especially local "couch" multiplayer games that you play sitting in the same room, and I don't really play much other than those these days. I like the social experience.

Similarly I like playing fun board games and card games with friends - Robo Rally and Ricochet Robots are good, also Dixit, Set, Dobble. I like the idea of games like Carcasonne, but find the competitiveness annoying!

Because of that, I'm also interested in cooperative board games, where the players play together to achieve a common goal, but I have never played any! They seem kind of rare.

If you have any video or board game suggestions then I'd love to hear them, and I'm sure I'd love to play them too!

I like a bit of exercise, but I am not fanatical about it, partly because I really don't like sweating! So my favourite is swimming, which allows varying levels of vigour and totally gets rid of the sweat problem! Plus it is a useful skill, potentially life-saving.

One of my goals for a while has been to routinely go swimming before work every morning, for half an hour or so, in which time I can swim maybe 1.5km. But I don't actually motivate myself to go very often at the moment, I need to sort that out!

I also walk around Hove Park at lunchtimes, which is beautiful at this time of year. I guess I walk about 5 miles per day overall, on working days - I don't know whether that's a lot or not. I don't count it as serious exercise, but it's good to mix some activity into the day rather than just sitting at a desk all through.

I like and am good at ice skating and to a lesser extent roller-blading (it's so much harder...), and I used to play ice hockey when I was a student.

I keep meaning to go climbing at the local Bouldering centre - it's something I used to do but haven't done for a while now.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am very good at computer programming, debugging, and mathematics. The first two are what I do for a living.

In the same vein, I'm good at puzzles, either on paper or physical things like Rubik's-style cubes. I like making patterns and shapes in the cubes, like the heart in one of my profile pictures.

I guess I'm relatively good at cryptic crosswords - but not great. I can usually do about half of each of the proper, weekly ones in the Guardian on Saturdays. If you think you can do the other half then maybe we should get together and cooperate!

On the artistic front, I play the piano. I have a couple of recordings I made on SoundCloud:
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm not really fussy about these kinds of thing, diversity is good and I enjoy a lot of different things depending on my mood. Mostly I enjoy things other people recommend - I like to think about why they liked the book/game/movie/etc, and to try to enjoy it in the same way they might have done.

Books - I loved the Ender series, including the later shadow books, and I also read a lot of Asimov when I was younger. For a while I was obsessive about the Dune universe, even attempting to understand God Emperor. Recreational maths books are fun too and I have enjoyed the depth in classic novels like To Kill A Mockingbird or Far From The Madding Crowd.

I think I have read every Poirot story ever written. I prefer Marple on TV, maybe because I don't already know the stories.

Movies - The Thirteenth Floor, Cold Comfort Farm, Equilibrium, The Usual Suspects, The Island, Galaxy Quest, Gattaca, The Truman Show... all sorts of things, all for different reasons. I'm not picky - I have the capacity to watch and enjoy just about anything, however shallow it may be in some respects. Forrest Gump makes me cry every time I watch it. I love the music in Amelie.

TV - whatever I watch, I tend to do it obsessively, i.e. wanting to watch every episode. The exact content doesn't matter so much. I got hooked on Andromeda and the later (worst?) Star Trek series; also modern US dramas like NCIS, Bones, Criminal Minds, and Leverage. These are not very deep, so it is an unfulfilling guilty pleasure.

I am not fussy about food - I like a lot of cuisines. I am partially vegetarian, in that I am trying to avoid meat a lot of the time, for health reasons, but I am not strict about it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Have you ever looked up at the sky on a sunny day, and marveled at the intricacy of the clouds? So many details in so much randomness, but with traces of order; yet many different types of order. Sometimes it's like a bunch of different artists all had a go at painting the clouds, one on top of another, and they all thought they should look different, but somehow they blend in together and make a beautiful ensemble.

Anyway, sometimes I think about video game ideas, especially for casual mobile games. Most are worthless, but that is the nature of ideas. Occasionally one or two seem worth pursuing, but I never find time. It is still fun to think about though.

What would it be like to go on a date with somebody with a really high enemy score? Probably rather uncomfortable, but it would still be interesting to do, just for the experience! I've never had a drink thrown in my face, so it could be a good opportunity for that!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like to go out from time to time, but pubs and clubs get so busy that I can't hear a word anybody says!

I prefer more cozy, intimate environments, like being at home or in somebody else's home, or less busy places like the park, the beach, a restaurant, cafe, etc.
You should message me if
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... you want to chat about anything - moanogamy, life, video games, board games, science, maths, politics... I don't mind really, I'm just happy to talk - and especially to listen!

Having been in an open relationship for a long time, I am very interested in discussing this kind of thing - including polyamory and relationship anarchy, if that's your tipple.

Or if you are passionately pro-monogamy and want to talk about that then I'd be interested in hearing from you too!