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32 M Pittsburgh, PA

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Last Online
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White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly kosher
Judaism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Hebrew (Poorly)

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My self-summary
In life, we each get to choose to be a hero, a bystander, or a victim. I choose to be a hero. Sometimes I fall short, but the virtue is in the trying. If you agree with this statement, please read on.

I am passionate, creative and try to be awesome, and looking for someone who can say the same. I love to write, sing, act and roleplay (which to me is much like marathon improv acting). I'm a natural introvert who's learned to love being with other people, but who sometimes still needs a little alone time to unwind.

I'm as likely to spend an hour having a philosophical, political or religious discussion with you as I am to spend that hour playing the Simpsons arcade game with you, or smoking a hookah with you... or all of the above at once, if you have the stamina. During that time, you'd probably be crawled upon and nuzzled by at least one or both of my cats, Mufasa and Nemo. I am very socially liberal, but open to conservative ideas fiscally. For example, I do think the government should always balance its budget (a conservative idea, at least it used to be), but I also think the most logical area to cut would be military spending (a traditionally liberal idea). I'm always open to rational or even heated debate on any topic, as long as everyone involved understands that the purpose of an argument is to try to learn and/or teach something, not to bludgeon the other person over the head with your opinion until they stop moving.

My interests are fairly typical geek, with some hippie thrown in. They include comic books, role-playing games (tabletop and LARP), video games (especially retro consoles like SNES), tinkering with computers and Linux, good science fiction and fantasy of all types, movies (particularly mind-fuck cinema like David Lynch or Richard Kelly), camping, regional burn festivals (think Burning Man but smaller), Pennsic War, skiing, and religion / mythology / the occult. Psychology is also a longtime interest.

About who I'm looking for: I'm looking for someone who can keep up with me, but also challenge me to try some new things. I can be a bit of a homebody, so sometimes I need a little kick in the pants to go out and do stuff. But often a quiet evening of cuddles and a movie or video games is just perfect. My ideal guy might be geeky, fuzzy, cuddly, and deeply passionate about something. Being a gamer and an occultist would also help a lot.

But if you read up on it, I could be completely off base about this. When asked to list the traits they look for in a partner, most people list things that don't describe a single one of their SOs. So the specific details about your background or appearance interest me less than what your mind is like. Are you adventurous? Creative? Funny? Able to disagree without automatically assuming the other person must be stupid? If so, then we'll get along famously.
What I’m doing with my life
Working for myself doing computer support, for which I've received Super Service Awards on Angie's List two years running.

Writing a romantic fantasy novel with my best friend Maggie (ebola-granola). If you're an awesome guy who likes women, you should check her out.

Designing a tabletop RPG based on Spanish and Middle Eastern mythology.

Relaxing in interesting ways on the weekends.

LARPing, and trying to find new ways to advance the art thereof.

Learning more about how to cook.

Researching ancient Jewish amulets, incantations, and other magical practices, and adapting them for modern use.
I’m really good at
Fixing computers and other problem-solving
Role-playing / improv
Chaos magic
Honesty (sometimes even when it's not welcome)
Coming up with elaborate theories that sound really good, but may or may not be BS
Sex (mainly because I've done research, and also because I'm not shy about saying, "That feels great! What exactly are you doing to me?")
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably the long hair. After that, it depends a little on who you are... to some people, I'm the weirdest dude they know, but to others I'm the normal guy among a bunch of utter freaks.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by Neil Gaiman, particularly Sandman, American Gods and Stardust; Ender's Game & Speaker For the Dead, by Orson Scott Card; Dragonlance, Rose of the Prophet, and Death Gate Cycle by Weis and Hickman; House of Leaves; sacred texts of any tradition, as long as they're well translated (e.g., Bible, Mahabharata, Tao Te Ching); The Templar Revelation; The Hiram Key; anything by Peter Carroll; the Principia Discordia; Watchmen and V for Vendetta, by Alan Moore; Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition, by Rabbi Steven Greenberg; Magic of the Ordinary: Reclaiming the Shamanic in Judaism and Way of the Boundary Crosser: An Introduction to Jewish Flexidoxy, both by Gershon Winkler; The Kite Runner, by Khaled Hosseini; His Dark Materials, by Philip Pullman; anything by Christopher Moore, especially the "Bloodsucking Fiends" series; Even Cowgirls Get the Blues, by Tom Robbins; The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, by Mark Haddon; Life of Pi, by Yann Martel; The Perks of Being a Wallflower, by Stephen Chbosky; The Hunger Games series by Suzanne Colllins; The Emperor of All Maladies, by Siddhartha Mukherjeej; The World Made by Hand series by James Kunstler; The Death of Bunny Munro, by Nick Cave; The Dune series by Frank Herbert; anything by Malcolm Gladwell; Wild Seed, by Octavia Butler; Lisey's Story and Duma Key, by Stephen King.

Movies: Mulholland Drive, Desperate Remedies, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, eXistenZ, American Beauty, pi, Requiem for a Dream, Better than Chocolate, Melvin Goes to Dinner, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Shock Treatment, Phantom of the Paradise, Donnie Darko, Dark City (Director's Cut), Boondock Saints, Equilibrium, The Animatrix, Spirited Away, Cowboy Bebop: Knocking on Heaven's Door, Darkside Blues, Enemy Mine, Southland Tales

TV Shows: Star Trek (mostly TNG, DS9 and Voyager, and occasionally TOS), Xena: Warrior Princess, X-Files, The Oblongs, Robot Chicken, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, Sealab 2021, Home Movies, Invader Zim, Carnivale, Neverwhere, South Park, The 4400, Red Dwarf, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Twin Peaks, Six Feet Under, Babylon 5, Battlestar Galactica, Doctor Who, Fringe, Dexter, Nurse Jackie

Bands - Nick Cave and Bad Seeds, They Might Be Giants, Moxy Fruvous, Dar Williams, Kula Shaker, The Beatles, Pink Floyd, Prodigy, Morphine, Tom Petty, George Michael, New Order, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Queen, Poe, Erasure, Annie Lennox/Eurythmics, Mediaeval Baebes, Fool's Garden, Madonna, Lady Gaga, Weird Al Yankovic, Roxette, New Order, Erasure, Modern Talking, The Killers

Soundtracks - Dark City, American Beauty, Rent, Chicago, Phantom of the Opera, Once on this Island, Better than Chocolate, The Life, The Fantasticks, Les Miserables, Miss Saigon, Sweeney Todd, Jekyll and Hyde (all versions), Into the Woods, Assassins, Anyone Can Whistle, Myst, Riven, The Longest Journey, Avenue Q, Shock Treatment, Glee

Food: I enjoy most types of ethnic food, particularly Italian, Indian, Mexican, Thai, Chinese (Dim Sum especially), Japanese and Ethiopian. Favorite food items include artichoke, mushrooms, gnocchi, pudding, and good alcohol, particularly cider and mixed drinks.

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.
-George Bernard Shaw

Life is not about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
-George Bernard Shaw

Know thyself.
-Inscription at the Oracle of Delphi, sometimes attributed to Socrates

There is no knowledge that is not power.
-Inscription on the title screen of Mortal Kombat 3, sometimes attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson
The six things I could never do without
Good friends to spend time with
Creative endeavors to fulfill me
Delicious food to eat
New things to learn
Cute animals to love
Altered states of consciousness to teach me wisdom
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Good books, TV, movies, particularly ones that are a complete mindfuck. Computers and other electronical things. Tolerance, equality, open-mindedness, and how to encourage these virtues in others. Sex. Hallucinogens, role-playing games, and how both can be used to help people transform themselves. Genre-crossing music. Linux. My cats. Religion/mythology/magic/the occult.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either at a LARP, at karaoke at the Blue Moon, or out of town for the weekend if there's a burn or a Dystopia Rising event. Or home writing, watching TV or playing Xbox.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I believe in being as honest and truthful as possible, while still being as kind as I can. This means I'm probably a bit more direct than you're used to, and that I won't censor myself unless I have a very good reason to. This also means I give great constructive criticism.

I'm partial to bisexual men. I think this is because I like men who are strong-willed and open-minded, and it takes both to be open about being something most people prefer to deny the existence of.

I intensely dislike road names that end in "Pike" or "Run Road".

Too many of the shows I like best were canceled before their time, including Carnivale, Twin Peaks, VR.5, Book of Daniel, Dollhouse, Caprica, and Anyone Can Whistle.

I can be very literal at times. Sometimes that means you might have to explain something more than once if our communication styles are very different.

I've had several erotic dreams over the years about people who I have literally no interest in. Some of them were women, and at least one was a guy I really don't like.

I think polyamory is a great idea, but I have yet to try it.

My pre-kindergarten class had a mixed trunk of clothing we could all use for make-believe and dress-up games. I would dress up as "Mrs. Mean" and chase the other kids around the room. There was also a Mr. Mean, but for some reason he didn't seem to make as much of an impression on people.

Okay, some of these are more random than actually private, but this seemed like the best space for anecdotes that don't fit anywhere else.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 25–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Something I said here made you giggle. Or contemplate.

You have something you want to discuss alone, in private, with our clothes off. :)

You feel like talking about something we have in common, or something you think I might like to know about.

Reading this profile made you wonder why in the world we don't know each other already.

And especially if all of the above.